I need a handgun for protection. How do I go about legally buying one?

[SusanJillParker]

Something I should have done years ago when my ex-husband threatened to kill me for divorcing him, I want to buy a handgun.

Instead of buying a gun then, I fled. I'm tired of being scared. I don't want to be a victim anymore.

Recently, I've been getting some nasty e-mails and now I want to be prepared.

I could go to Harrisburg and buy a gun for $100 but I want to do everything legally. So, what do I do? Do I go to a gun shop, pick out the gun, and fill out the forms?

Only, I want more than that. Never having owned a gun, held a gun, or even fired a gun, I want to be trained on how to shoot a gun. When and if I fire, I don't want to miss my target.

What kind of gun do I buy? I'm not a fading flower of a woman. What my four big brothers didn't teach me about handling myself in a fight, my ex did. Having worked out all of my life with heavy bags and weights, I'm deceivingly strong.

Yet, I don't want a gun that's too heavy and I don't think I want a revolver. I was thinking about a Glock, something with a clip and something that fires more than six shots. I want something that will drop a man with one shot.

Then, once I have my FID card, permit, and license, what do I do then? Go to a gun range and ask for help?

How much will all of this cost me?

Then, once I have the gun, what do I do with it? I want to be able to carry the weapon with me at all times.

I don't live with any children. I live with an elderly woman. I'm her home aid.

 

[SusanJillParker]

If you're uncomfortable posting to my thread and/or want to maintain your anonymity, send me a PM.

 

[SusanJillParker]

Thank you for your help and for your anonymous PM's.

To answer your questions, presently, I live in Pennsylvania, just outside of Hershey but plan on moving back to Boston one day. Unlike many other states, Massachusetts has strict gun laws.

I don't know the law in Massachusetts but if you're arrested with an unregistered gun, it's a mandatory one year in prison.

If I'm going to own a gun, I'd want to do it legally.

It sounds like a .45 is the way to go. But aren't they heavy? Also, do they make a .45 that shoots more than six rounds at a time?

Oh, and if I'm licensed to carry a handgun, does that entitle me to buy more weapons, say a shotgun for the house, and a derringer for my makeup bag?

"Wait. Excuse me. Before you shoot me, Mr. Bad Man, allow me to put on some lipstick. I'm just going to reach in my makeup bag. Okay? Bang!"

Sorry, I watch way too many movies.

Yet, seemingly, now that I'm a target, I need to be armed and dangerous. If I'm going to be threatened, I want to be able to respond in kind.

 

[shaved7]

A concealed carry license will allow just that, you can legally carry a gun concealed on your person. You shouldnt need a license to buy/own more guns, but i dont know your local laws. But I've never heard such a thing.

 

[SusanJillParker]

A concealed carry license will allow just that, you can legally carry a gun concealed on your person. You shouldnt need a license to buy/own more guns, but i dont know your local laws. But I've never heard such a thing.

Thank you so very much for your help.

I'm going to Google the Smith and Wesson M&P, as you suggested.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

move to kabul?

 

[SusanJillParker]

At the sake of acting ignorant about handguns, I am ignorant about handguns. I have a question.

Is there a handgun that is more accurate than another?

Do gun owners used a specific handgun for target practice? I have no idea.

If a hand gun is lighter and small than a Magnum, would that make it much easier to shoot?

If there one type of handgun that is an all purpose handgun and good for every type of situation?

 

[Nathan_Brazil]

Don't worry about accuracy... Unless you are competition shooting, the differences are meaningless.

A handgun is a close-in weapon. Made to kill something you can point at. If you think you need that, my prayers go out to you. Statistics have shown that bringing a handgun into your home increases, rather than decreases your risk.

Good luck.

 

[jehoram]

Statistics have shown that bringing a handgun into your home increases, rather than decreases your risk.

x2. I had a friend of mine who was killed by a gun that was stolen from her purse.

If you're serious, you should take a course in gun safety at a shooting range. You'll get better advise there, and maybe have a chance to try different pistols to determine what fits your needs best.

 

[Mavramorn]

If you really are that screamingly ignorant about guns and gun ownership, go to a gun shop or your local police precinct or shooting range and ask a professional for advice; I hardly think an author's forum on an erotica website is the place to be posing this question. You won't though, because this thread is just another float in your never-ending 'Look At Me!' parade.

 

[SusanJillParker]

x2. I had a friend of mine who was killed by a gun that was stolen from her purse.

If you're serious, you should take a course in gun safety at a shooting range. You'll get better advise there, and maybe have a chance to try different pistols to determine what fits your needs best.

Thank you. I plan on doing that.

 

[SusanJillParker]

I wish I had done this years ago.

My ignore list is already very long.

"Ah, finally, I have peace of mind to think to make more interesting threads to start on the Authors' Hangout Board."

 

[Nathan_Brazil]

Can you stick to it?

That will be the hard part.

I've done that before. Block somebody. Get curious. Unblock someone. Cuss myself. Reblock them.

 

[Ubiquitious_too]

Something I should have done years ago when my ex-husband threatened to kill me for divorcing him, I want to buy a handgun.

Instead of buying a gun then, I fled. I'm tired of being scared. I don't want to be a victim anymore.

Recently, I've been getting some nasty e-mails and now I want to be prepared.

I could go to Harrisburg and buy a gun for $100 but I want to do everything legally. So, what do I do? Do I go to a gun shop, pick out the gun, and fill out the forms?

Only, I want more than that. Never having owned a gun, held a gun, or even fired a gun, I want to be trained on how to shoot a gun. When and if I fire, I don't want to miss my target.

What kind of gun do I buy? I'm not a fading flower of a woman. What my four big brothers didn't teach me about handling myself in a fight, my ex did. Having worked out all of my life with heavy bags and weights, I'm deceivingly strong.

Yet, I don't want a gun that's too heavy and I don't think I want a revolver. I was thinking about a Glock, something with a clip and something that fires more than six shots. I want something that will drop a man with one shot.

Then, once I have my FID card, permit, and license, what do I do then? Go to a gun range and ask for help?

How much will all of this cost me?

Then, once I have the gun, what do I do with it? I want to be able to carry the weapon with me at all times.

I don't live with any children. I live with an elderly woman. I'm her home aid.

I have a concealed carry permit and there are several things I suggest you do.
First, go see your local police Department or Sheriff's Office. Ask if there are any Detectives that are licensed to give you the State certified training. Usually there are some.
Take the class and be sure they give you some Range Time so you know how to handle a gun. Also, tell them you want to fire a few different calibre handguns. Say a .380, .38, 9mm.
Don't purchase a gun until after you've fired a few and know what you want.

Many of the handguns a dealer will show you for concealed carry are really too small with too heavy a spring for a woman to operate quickly.

Get a good education before you buy.

If you have questions, just PM me.

 

[SusanJillParker]

Can you stick to it?

That will be the hard part.

I've done that before. Block somebody. Get curious. Unblock someone. Cuss myself. Reblock them.

As the unquestioned prolific writer and the writer who has one the most contest money on the site twice over (lol), I'm done.

As if counting tombstones and lining them up in front of me, I already have 10 on my ignore list.

Soon, I'll have an entire cemetery. May they all rest in peace because now that they're all dead to me, I know I will.

 

[Nathan_Brazil]

As the unquestioned prolific writer and the writer who has one the most contest money on the site twice over (lol), I'm done.

As if counting tombstones and lining them up in front of me, I already have 10 on my ignore list.

Soon, I'll have an entire cemetery. May they all rest in peace because now that they're all dead to me, I know I will.

You will be happier.

Sometimes, it is better to walk away.

Stop the poison from getting into your system.

 

[SusanJillParker]

You will be happier.

Sometimes, it is better to walk away.

Stop the poison from getting into your system.

I agree. Finally, I'm free. I can breathe.

I don't care what these malcontents who don't like women have to say about me. They're just jealous (lol).

"I am woman and I am strong. Screw them."

 

[Nathan_Brazil]

If you start singing Helen Reddy songs... We are through.

 

[SusanJillParker]

If you start singing Helen Reddy songs... We are through.

Before my time. I don't know who Helen Reddy is. I was born in '72, July 26th, in case you want to send me a birthday card stuffed with one hundred dollar bills for my birthday.

Even though it's a bit belated, it's not too late to do that (lol).

 

[SusanJillParker]

Thank you to all who have sent me a PM. There seems to be a consensus of opinion and I thank you all for your helpful suggestions.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Something I should have done years ago when my ex-husband threatened to kill me for divorcing him, I want to buy a handgun.

Instead of buying a gun then, I fled. I'm tired of being scared. I don't want to be a victim anymore.

Recently, I've been getting some nasty e-mails and now I want to be prepared.

I could go to Harrisburg and buy a gun for $100 but I want to do everything legally. So, what do I do? Do I go to a gun shop, pick out the gun, and fill out the forms?

Only, I want more than that. Never having owned a gun, held a gun, or even fired a gun, I want to be trained on how to shoot a gun. When and if I fire, I don't want to miss my target.

What kind of gun do I buy? I'm not a fading flower of a woman. What my four big brothers didn't teach me about handling myself in a fight, my ex did. Having worked out all of my life with heavy bags and weights, I'm deceivingly strong.

Yet, I don't want a gun that's too heavy and I don't think I want a revolver. I was thinking about a Glock, something with a clip and something that fires more than six shots. I want something that will drop a man with one shot.

Then, once I have my FID card, permit, and license, what do I do then? Go to a gun range and ask for help?

How much will all of this cost me?

Then, once I have the gun, what do I do with it? I want to be able to carry the weapon with me at all times.

I don't live with any children. I live with an elderly woman. I'm her home aid.

Those are only the first things you need.

You need to reflect on yourself a little before you jump into this, particularly by asking one question about your past: how have you reacted to a conflict situation?

This is actually really important because when you go into fight-or-flight mode, your heart rate skyrockets due to adrenaline. You may spaz out, freeze up, or any number of panic-related reactions that could hinder your ability to properly handle your situation.

No, really, this is an actual problem. Watch this ABC news video to see what I'm talking about: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8QjZY3WiO9s

You're going to need serious training with a handgun, particularly so that when you are confronted with actual danger, you don't fall prey to panic responses. Make sure anyone you go to for training, concentrates on this issue.

 

[SusanJillParker]

Those are only the first things you need.

You need to reflect on yourself a little before you jump into this, particularly by asking one question about your past: how have you reacted to a conflict situation?

This is actually really important because when you go into fight-or-flight mode, your heart rate skyrockets due to adrenaline. You may spaz out, freeze up, or any number of panic-related reactions that could hinder your ability to properly handle your situation.

No, really, this is an actual problem. Watch this ABC news video to see what I'm talking about: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8QjZY3WiO9s

You're going to need serious training with a handgun, particularly so that when you are confronted with actual danger, you don't fall prey to panic responses. Make sure anyone you go to for training, concentrates on this issue.

My household was pandemonium since I was a child. My four brothers were enforcers, leg breakers, for the mob. My ex-husband was a bad Boston cop. He showed no emotions. He'd just strike like a poisonous snake.

He was a 5th degree black belt in Judo and taught me to stay calm. The best way to lose a fight is to lose your cool, which is why I'm able to handle so many men attacking me at the same time on these boards. The handgun is needed as a last resort.

I've always been armed, knives, sap gloves, and small handheld karate weapons. No one ever saw me coming. Yet, today, everyone has a gun. Now with mass shootings at movie theaters, in schools, and restaurants, I just want to even the odds should the worse scenario happen. I'd rather go out defending myself than standing idly by as a victim.

After all of the shit I've been through in my life, no one can do anything any worse to me than what I've already survived and endured as a child from 5 to 15.

Even though I've never even held a gun, I know that I can handle a gun and I wouldn't freeze and be unable to shoot someone if I had to do that to protect myself.

Thanks for your post.

 

[curiousalways]

I'd guess you'd have a local range that has an introduction course. Usually the ones near us also have handguns to try and I'd do that before buying anything. Once you do that then start looking. I'm not sure who gave the .45 advice but that's not what I'd recommend for several reasons. A. They're generally larger and heavier and that's not a bad thing because they have more recoil. B. .45 is way more expensive to purchase than 9mm. Since proficiency is based on practice you want to practice and it will be way more expensive and less pleasant to shoot. A lot of folks get wrapped around the relative power difference but the best round is one that hits the target. With modern ammunition a 9mm is plenty effective.

The Glock's and M&P are both good and pretty to easy to shoot but hand size can certainly make some feel better than others. I'd also try pulling back the slide on several models. My wife has trouble with several of my autos and that's a factor on what she shoots.

Do get trained and do practice. Being comfortable handling it will help tremendously in a stressful situation.

 

[rjordan]

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move to kabul?

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Those are only the first things you need.

You need to reflect on yourself a little before you jump into this, particularly by asking one question about your past: how have you reacted to a conflict situation?

This is actually really important because when you go into fight-or-flight mode, your heart rate skyrockets due to adrenaline. You may spaz out, freeze up, or any number of panic-related reactions that could hinder your ability to properly handle your situation.

You might also want to read two documents. The first is a study from Mount St. Mary's University:

https://msmary.edu/about-the-Mount/...ve/2015/7-23-15-MSMU-Study-on-Gun-Safety.html

Click on the "independent study" link for the actual study.

The other is a September 2015 FBI study of 160 mass murders entitled "A Study of Active Shooter Incidents in the United States Between 2000 and 2013"

In that study, exactly 5 citizens who were not SWORN officers have intervened to stop the shooter. Only ONE of them was a legally armed civilian such as you imagine you will be. ALL of the others were armed security guards hired by airlines, etc.

Here's another one that is the best of them all. The Daily Show sent Jordan Klepper (Senior Correspondent) out to get exactly the handgun and training to do what you want to do. Watch the Daily Show video if you don't watch anything else I've cited.

http://www.cc.com/video-clips/w2bq3...oah-jordan-klepper--good-guy-with-a-gun-pt--2

The idea that the only one to stop a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun is pure unadulterated bullshit.

At least LJ_Reloaded has it right. You do not know how you are going to react in a situation involving a gun.

The odds are very high you are going to shoot yourself or an innocent bystander.

The odds are low that you will shoot your attacker. I say that because if it were common, there would be FBI statistics on it. THERE ARE NONE, despite what the gun fondlers among us will tell you.

But now there's at least one study that shows it is very unrealistic to think your meager training will be a match for a SURPRISE attack by an armed and committed attacker.

rj

 

[SusanJillParker]

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You might also want to read two documents. The first is a study from Mount St. Mary's University:

https://msmary.edu/about-the-Mount/...ve/2015/7-23-15-MSMU-Study-on-Gun-Safety.html

Click on the "independent study" link for the actual study.

The other is a September 2015 FBI study of 160 mass murders entitled "A Study of Active Shooter Incidents in the United States Between 2000 and 2013"

In that study, exactly 5 citizens who were not SWORN officers have intervened to stop the shooter. Only ONE of them was a legally armed civilian such as you imagine you will be. ALL of the others were armed security guards hired by airlines, etc.

Here's another one that is the best of them all. The Daily Show sent Jordan Klepper (Senior Correspondent) out to get exactly the handgun and training to do what you want to do. Watch the Daily Show video if you don't watch anything else I've cited.

http://www.cc.com/video-clips/w2bq3...oah-jordan-klepper--good-guy-with-a-gun-pt--2

The idea that the only one to stop a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun is pure unadulterated bullshit.

At least LJ_Reloaded has it right. You do not know how you are going to react in a situation involving a gun.

The odds are very high you are going to shoot yourself or an innocent bystander.

The odds are low that you will shoot your attacker. I say that because if it were common, there would be FBI statistics on it. THERE ARE NONE, despite what the gun fondlers among us will tell you.

But now there's at least one study that shows it is very unrealistic to think your meager training will be a match for a SURPRISE attack by an armed and committed attacker.

rj

Thank you so very much for the information.

Unlike most defenseless, nervous women, I'm not totally defenseless. I've had some training in boxing, enough to throw a punch, and martial arts, enough to find nerve centers and temporarily stun and attacker. A gun would be icing on the cake and maybe even prevent and an attacker from even think about attacking me.