I must be so petty

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[rgraham666]

Merry Christmas, sarahh.

Don't let your fool of a sibling get to you.

*HUGS*

 

[lil_elvis]

Merry Christmas, sarahh

Just give a k-o punch on your arrival. Get it over with and enjoy the rest of the day.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I will be invisible to everyone but you....I'll stand behind her and make faces and devil horns behind her head.

Merry Christmas from Me.

 

[cloudy]

I will be invisible to everyone but you....I'll stand behind her and make faces and devil horns behind her head.

Merry Christmas from Me.

Don't forget to give her a wicked wedgie while you're back there.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Don't forget to give her a wicked wedgie while you're back there.

Good idea.

 

[English Lady]

Sarah -I hope the experience turns out to be alot better than you fear


Merry Christmas, love.

 

[Lisa Denton]

I got your back GF.

Um, why don't ya bend over a little while I'm back here.

Have a banana .....................

 

[3113]

tIt is very petty, I know, to stress over what will most likely be only a few annoying few hours fighting with my sister, especially when there are so many more terrible things happening in the world, and even here in the AH.

Dudette, it's by no means petty! A person is born into a family and pretty much helpless against them. They know everything about you, and they may or may not be trustworthy of that information. When they start using that information to push your buttons, get under your skin, that means that you're stuck in a room of, well, people who are betraying your trust.

It's not petty to wish you didn't have to spend even a minute with such people. Inform your sister that you will not be baited, and you will not fight. If she raises her voice to you, you will leave. Inform your parents of the same. There will be no fighting--not in front of them, but most certainly not in front of your kids.

My husband and I have a rule: There is never, NEVER any need to raise your voice. We don't. Ever. And if someone does, we walk away. Let everyone know that. There will be civility in front of your children. You expect that of adults, and you won't stand for anything else.

It's not just for you, it's for everyone. Good luck! And try to have a happy holiday!

 

[Belegon]

Wishing you much inner strength and peace Sarahh...

 

[elsol]

I wish I could commisserate.

I have a strict rule... No Family At Christmas.

My girlfriend goes away to visit her family. I stay at home for the Holiday, play videogames, watch movies, take my dog out for long walks, read at least 1 romance novel, ignore work...

My family and her family keep asking me to come over and my answer is always the same.

"No."

I have a special Holiday "No."

I smile, one of the few times that I actually smile joyfully, my eyes light up with that little bit of 'I double-dog, with a cherry on top, dare you", but no matter what I do I can't get rid of the killer menace that screams loudly "This is the end... this is how I go out... by killing all of you."

Practice a Christmas "No.", you'll know you have it right when no one even tries to guilt you about it.


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The moral of this is... you can't be petty in my eyes.

I'm not petty... and I'm a FUCK of a lot worse than you about it.

 

[Boxlicker101]

It's entirely possible that your sister is dreading the meeting as much as you are (or maybe not.) Maybe you can call her up and arrange some kind of a truce so you can avoid each other. Or maybe you can't. Gooe luck and Merry Christmas anyhow.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

Petty?

No, nothing petty about that. Nothing petty about setting the world's problems, many of which you cannot immediately affect, on the backburner for your own. especially when a key concern of your's is obviously the children. If you don't handle your own problems, no matter how pety they might seem in contrast to hunger and war, then your life heads into chaos. What good are you to the world then?

Good luck, sarah.

Q_C

 

[TE999]

My sympathies, sarahhh.

Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.

Try to have a good time anyway.

Sounds like your sis has issues.

Counseling helps sometimes.

Or next Christmas, visit the Caribbean, it's great this time of year.

Peace.

 

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[SeaCat]

Not so petty.

One of the reasons I moved to Florida was to get away from my siblings and their children. Even when I do go north to visit my parents I tend to avoid seeing the rest of the family.

Right now the ringer on the phone is shut off. I let the answering machine grab all the calls. If it's someone I want to talk to then I'll call them back. (My parents, my wifes family and work have my cell number.)

My sister has called six times in the past several days. Her son's court date is coming up and she wants to be able to tell the Judge she has someone in another state who is willing to take him in if only the juge shows leniency once again. I refuse to talk with her about this even though I know it won't matter.

A) I refuse to take her son in. I would end up killing the little Weasel.
B) I somehow doubt the judge will show leniency this time. He is up on multiple charges including but not limited to:
Breaking and Entering at night with intent. (Multiple charges)
Possesion of stolen property.
Felon in possesion of a firearm.
Possesion of a stolen Firearm
Destruction of Private Property. (He opened the stopcocks in one of the boats he broke into.)
Attempt to deface a stolen Firearm.

The States case against him is solid. They have video footage of him breaking into several fishing boats. They got a warrant and entered his apartment where they found most of the items stolen, including a Shotgun stolen from one of the boats. He was in the process of grinding the serial numbers off the shotgun when the Police showed up. (About the only thing they don't have positive proof of his sinking the boat. All prints were washed away by the saltwater, but he did have the GPS Set from that boat.)

My brother on the other hand is very unhappy with me for several reasons. The first is my moving south so he and my sister, as wel as their kids can't hit me up easily for money or baby sitting. He is unhappy that I don't take in any of my sisters kids, or my sister for that matter. He is extremely unhappy that I don't do his bidding and join his cult, er church because he now claims it is the one and only true church, and he is highly pissed that I don't A) tell him what is in my parents wills, (I am the executer for both.) and B) Convince my parents to make him executer of their wills and their sole legal guardian in the case of a catastrophy. (This is the same brother who threatened to have my parents competency brought to question in court because they sold a section of property, {a part of his inheritence} without his permission. )

Believe me when I say I understand. It's a damned good thing Im not heading north for Christmas, I woul end up in jail.
Cat

 

[SweetPrettyAss]

Not so petty.

One of the reasons I moved to Florida was to get away from my siblings and their children. Even when I do go north to visit my parents I tend to avoid seeing the rest of the family.

Right now the ringer on the phone is shut off. I let the answering machine grab all the calls. If it's someone I want to talk to then I'll call them back. (My parents, my wifes family and work have my cell number.)

My sister has called six times in the past several days. Her son's court date is coming up and she wants to be able to tell the Judge she has someone in another state who is willing to take him in if only the juge shows leniency once again. I refuse to talk with her about this even though I know it won't matter.

A) I refuse to take her son in. I would end up killing the little Weasel.
B) I somehow doubt the judge will show leniency this time. He is up on multiple charges including but not limited to:
Breaking and Entering at night with intent. (Multiple charges)
Possesion of stolen property.
Felon in possesion of a firearm.
Possesion of a stolen Firearm
Destruction of Private Property. (He opened the stopcocks in one of the boats he broke into.)
Attempt to deface a stolen Firearm.

The States case against him is solid. They have video footage of him breaking into several fishing boats. They got a warrant and entered his apartment where they found most of the items stolen, including a Shotgun stolen from one of the boats. He was in the process of grinding the serial numbers off the shotgun when the Police showed up. (About the only thing they don't have positive proof of his sinking the boat. All prints were washed away by the saltwater, but he did have the GPS Set from that boat.)

My brother on the other hand is very unhappy with me for several reasons. The first is my moving south so he and my sister, as wel as their kids can't hit me up easily for money or baby sitting. He is unhappy that I don't take in any of my sisters kids, or my sister for that matter. He is extremely unhappy that I don't do his bidding and join his cult, er church because he now claims it is the one and only true church, and he is highly pissed that I don't A) tell him what is in my parents wills, (I am the executer for both.) and B) Convince my parents to make him executer of their wills and their sole legal guardian in the case of a catastrophy. (This is the same brother who threatened to have my parents competency brought to question in court because they sold a section of property, {a part of his inheritence} without his permission. )

Believe me when I say I understand. It's a damned good thing Im not heading north for Christmas, I woul end up in jail.
Cat

I certainly hope the judge doesn't go easy on your nephew. If he does, he should be impeached. Besides being stupid, your nephew sounds like exacty what prisons and three strikes laws were designed to deal with. I call him stupid because he let himself be filmed while stealing.

 

[cheerful_deviant]

I'm with you S3. I just made it back from the in-laws and my jaw is sore from grinding my teeth. Wall to wall clutter, pictures of Jesus on every wall, LED light up picture frames from Avon and GOP and George W. pictures everywhere. The only was hell could be any worse is if Michael Bolton was playing on the stereo all night. Oh, wait... he was.

I need a drink.

 

[SeaCat]

I certainly hope the judge doesn't go easy on your nephew. If he does, he should be impeached. Besides being stupid, your nephew sounds like exacty what prisons and three strikes laws were designed to deal with. I call him stupid because he let himself be filmed while stealing.

You are actually being kind compared to what I call him. This little Weasel, (and I'm being polite here,) lived with my parents from the age of 14 to the age of 16 while his mother served time for Drug Posssion and dealing. During that time he stayed out of trouble. His grades in school went from failing to A's and B's. My father got him a part time job at the local airport so he had some jingle in his pocket. His clothing was neat and clean, and he ate regularly. When his mother came out of the local Hilton he moved back with her. Why? Because my father made him mind his manners. My parents made him do chores as well as his homework. They were cruel in that they didn't allow him to go to town and hang out with his friends on Main Street. Worst of all my father wasn't scared of him or his friends. As soon as he moved back to live with my sister he stopped going to school and he again started getting into trouble. He had every chance in the world and chose to blow it.

Cat

 

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[cheerful_deviant]

In-laws. That's another level of hell, actually.

I'm having rum and coke. Would you like one?

Sounds perfect, but skip the Coke, I'll just have the Rum. No, forget the glass, just put a straw in the bottle.

 

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[cheerful_deviant]

Morphine and soda?

Hubby and I discussed the merits on the drive home.

For you or them?

Can you email me one? Make it a double, I have enough bandwidth I think.

 

[Just-Legal]

In-laws. That's another level of hell, actually.

I'm having rum and coke. Would you like one?

Hey! My in-law's (to be) are better than my own damn family on most counts (except my mother, she's on equal footing *g*)

 

[TE999]

You are actually being kind compared to what I call him. This little Weasel, (and I'm being polite here,) lived with my parents from the age of 14 to the age of 16 while his mother served time for Drug Posssion and dealing. During that time he stayed out of trouble. His grades in school went from failing to A's and B's. My father got him a part time job at the local airport so he had some jingle in his pocket. His clothing was neat and clean, and he ate regularly. When his mother came out of the local Hilton he moved back with her. Why? Because my father made him mind his manners. My parents made him do chores as well as his homework. They were cruel in that they didn't allow him to go to town and hang out with his friends on Main Street. Worst of all my father wasn't scared of him or his friends. As soon as he moved back to live with my sister he stopped going to school and he again started getting into trouble. He had every chance in the world and chose to blow it.

Cat

Sounds like one of my sister-in-law's step kids.

Little bastard was in and out of Juvie Hall for one petty crime after another.

When he was nineteen he dropped the big nickel.

Auto theft, assault, fleeing and eluding.

Totally bad mojo.

Now he's doin' 15 to 25 in the Razor Wire Hilton and oh so sorry.

His father was the softie and the kid's payin' the price.

Teach your children well.

Peace.