I love you. You're perfect. Now change!

[Agent99]

Would you ask your partner to change anything about their physical appearance?


Honey, You're Perfect Just as You Are, Except...

NEW YORK (Reuters) - Love is not blind -- at least when it comes to facial plastic surgery.

Of people who are dating or married, 59 percent of women and 54 percent of men would like to change at least one feature on their partner's face, according to an American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery survey released on Monday.

Respondents said they would change their lover's hair (24 percent women, 17 percent men), wrinkles (9 percent women, 11 percent men), nose (11 percent women, 9 percent men), mouth (6 percent each), eyes (5 percent each) or ears (4 percent each).


http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story&cid=583&ncid=583&e=18&u=/nm/20040126/od_nm/odd_face_dc

 

[Tortured]

according to an American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery survey

could there be a conflict of interest there?

could that story you got that from be an advertisement?


hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

 

[MWG]

I know my husband wishes I wouldn't cut my hair so short. I also want a few more tattoos and piercings, where he's not so gung-ho about it.

But as for anything that was naturally a part of me? No. And I wouldn't change anything about him. His body, his choice, and I wouldn't have picked him if I didn't like everything about it.

 

[potatohead]

Looks? Probably not but I'm unattached at the moment. Bad or annoying habits? Oh yeah!

 

[Cheyenne]

Would you ask your partner to change anything about their physical appearance?


Honey, You're Perfect Just as You Are, Except...

NEW YORK (Reuters) - Love is not blind -- at least when it comes to facial plastic surgery.

Of people who are dating or married, 59 percent of women and 54 percent of men would like to change at least one feature on their partner's face, according to an American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery survey released on Monday.

Respondents said they would change their lover's hair (24 percent women, 17 percent men), wrinkles (9 percent women, 11 percent men), nose (11 percent women, 9 percent men), mouth (6 percent each), eyes (5 percent each) or ears (4 percent each).


http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story&cid=583&ncid=583&e=18&u=/nm/20040126/od_nm/odd_face_dc

Does getting him to wear his hair shorter count? He had just gotten a hair cut the first time I met him in person and I like his hair at that length.

But that isn't quite the same as asking someone to have surgery. That I wouldn't do. Especially when it isn't needed.

 

[Cleopatra]

Would you ask your partner to change anything about their physical appearance?

No. If they want to change it, that's fine, but my opinion isn't warranted in this case.

Unless it's for a health reason.

 

[sanjuaneros]

I would never ask her to change anything about her looks. I love her just the way she is. I have even learned to live with the bad habits and just smile, because I know it is a part of her.

 

[Pyper]

Sanjuaneros, you have GOT to stop using online translators for your Spanish. It's driving me loca como una cabra.

 

[sanjuaneros]

I didn't

Sanjuaneros, you have GOT to stop using online translators for your Spanish. It's driving me loca como una cabra.

 

[Pyper]

I didn't

Pues entonces, tu gramática necesita trabajo.

 

[sanjuaneros]

I know. I only use online translation services for English.

Pues entonces, tu gramática necesita trabajo.

 

[Pyper]

I know. I only use online translation services for English.

Your English grammar is fine. The Spanish in your sig and title-- not so much. English to Spanish online translators inevitably produce nonsensical or hilarious results. In this case, it's just nonsensical.

 

[Agent99]

I never even answered the question myself! But, I wouldn't ask him to change a thing!

I have always thought that men were more likely to ask their girlfriends/wives to change than vice versa. I suppose that is because so many women get breast implants at the request of their husbands.

 

[Olivianna]

You should see _The Shape of Things_ by Neil LaBute.

 

[Cheyenne]

I have always thought that men were more likely to ask their girlfriends/wives to change than vice versa. I suppose that is because so many women get breast implants at the request of their husbands.

Do they really? When husbands have commented, I think I've heard more often that they didn't care one way or the other because they loved their wife "as is." The wife was doing it for her own self esteem.

I wonder what the percentage is between married/unmarried for women who get implants. I would have guessed most were unmarried but I really have no idea.

 

[intrigued]

Its always hit me wrong that women do so much to catch/please a man, yet what do men do? I know its because we are raised to nurture, take care of, and try to please in order to gain favor and "catch us a man".
*sigh*

We are so accepting of them as they are, would never consider asking them to change anything more than their daily hygiene or clothing, such as brush your teeth more, keep your hair trimmed, don't wear white socks with black shoes, etc. Yet, we go under the knife, we spend money on product after product to make us look better, smell better, have a prettier hair color, we even take lessons on how to strip. We'll do most anything we possibly can to please them and catch their eye, and they don't have to do anything more than shower, shave and put on antiperspirant.

Do you know any man that takes stripper lessons to please his lady? That will go under the knife for something bigger or smaller on his body? Do they use anti wrinkle creams and injections and do they spend money on special clothing and accessories in order to seduce us?

Don't tell me that these things don't matter to men, that the fact that they love you is all that matters to them and is all that should matter to you. They prove it when everywhere they go, they eye other women to the point that they don't hear what you're saying to them, when they freeze frame the Tivo to look a little more at some chicks boobies that are nothing like your boobies, when the world stops because they've caught a glimpse of boobies...when they look through magazines or watch movies and make comments like "who wouldn't look at her???", "who wouldn't think that is fucking hot??"...when they comment on the perfect bodies of youth which are always these chicks with long blonde hair, huge perky boobies, tiny waists and wide hips, they are tanned to perfection with long, shapely legs that just won't quit, and always, always, the blue eyes and pink, glossy lips.
It's always women that are everything you're not.

When thats what catches their eye and holds their attention, its a little much to hear them tell you, "but I love you baby, I love you just the way you are. It is you I come home to, its you that I want."

No, I wouldn't even think of asking or expecting, or wanting someone to change.

 

[PaganFairy]

Only if he was gay would a man do that...


But I do know a few couples that have gotten some sugery done after they lost weight together .. So I guess its all in the matter on how you look at things.

Me personally I wouldn't do anything for my husband .. I would do it for my self first . Because in the end I'm the one that has to deal with what ever comes along in the process of what I did.

So its all about the right choices for the right people.

 

[MsMuffet]

A very good play!

Laughed my ass off.

 

[Angel]

Sanjuaneros, you have GOT to stop using online translators for your Spanish. It's driving me loca como una cabra.

Haha.

 

[Agent99]

Cheyenne, you're probably right. I don't have any statistics, it was just a gut feeling that married men were the ones asking the women to augment their breasts. I can't imagine that someone in a dating relationship (no matter the length of time together) would go along with this. But, I could be wrong.

Intrigued, you have some good points. But I wonder if the reason women work so hard to attract and then keep a man is because of lack of self esteem or poor body image. The trait of wanting to please others does seem to occur more frequently in women than men, so perhaps your theory is true.

Potatohead, whatcha talking about? Squeezing the toothpaste in the middle? Tapping their fingers on the table? Farting during sex?

Ms. Muffett - wow! It was a great show. At the performance I saw a guy got up on stage and proposed to his girlfriend. She accepted and the place went crazy!

 

[Lost Cause]

Nope!

Everything about a person attracts me, internally and externally. To demand anything else from them is asking them not to be who they are.