I love her but...

[SweetNick]

...She's one of my best friends. I'm one of those lucky guys in college...tons of female friends, but not one who I can say is anything more than that (please note some small amount of sarcasm). Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy having them as friends, but in this case, We've been friends for 3 years now, and we just clicked. Her other good friend is currently on the other side of the earth, and so I get to hear everything anymore, but yet I can't tell her the one thing that means more than anything in the world. Oh sure she knows I love her, only she thinks as a friend, which I do, but I mean, I love her.

So, I guess the appropriate question is...How do I let her know?

 

[shy]

i was in the same place as you 6 years ago and all i did was tell him and we've been together for 6 years now we have 2 kids and hes still my best friend

 

[ComfortablyNumb]

Tell her... don't pass up the chance to tell her how you feel. You have been friends this long, chances are if you say something, it could only get better. I was in the same place as you a few years ago. I am regretting not telling her how I felt about her. I just found out (after she got married) that she felt the same way.

 

[Guest]

Tell her... don't pass up the chance to tell her how you feel.

I have to totally agree here. Almost 4 years ago I met a man online who I clicked with instantly. After only a few hours of talking, it seemed as if we had known each other all our lives. Over the course of our friendship, we discovered that we were soul mates, and have been friends and lovers in past lives. But, he says he feels we're not supposed to be together in this life. I never really thought about that until recently when I found out he was in a new relationship and was happy. (Since the course of our friendship, he had been in other relationships, but it never "bothered" me...) So, at any rate, GO TELL HER how you feel!!!

~Tiggs~
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[ComfortablyNumb]

Do it Man! It can only get better. If she doesn't feel the same way, oh well. You have been friends long enough to where you telling her how you feel won't change what you already have.

 

[Jester]

I've got to agree with the general sentiment being presented here, just TELL THE GIRL. It may not be an easy thing to do, but you've got to do it if you really feel this way about her. I was in a simialr situation a while ago. We had been friends for 3 or 4 years and I just kept hesitating to say something. Eventually, she got a real asshole of a bf, spent time together, then broke up with him and soon after moved away. Regrets last alot longer than being stung by rejection. Besides, if you're that good of friends, what's the worst that could happen? You have a friend that knows you care about her. What's the best that could happen? Tell her.

 

[Skibum]

Tell her how you feel. I did, and it turned out that she felt the same way. You can't believe how great it feels to be in love with your best friend.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[Ezzie]

I agree with everyone who says tell her but I know how difficult it can be. I am currently in a similar situation with one difference... I'm pregnant by my "Friend" and that's all he thinks we are and I don't know how to tell him that I want more without scaring him off.

Go ahead and blast me, say things like "You shouldn't sleep with your friends" or something to that order but don't think it's nothing I haven't told myself over and over again.

Nick, best of luck to you, let us know what happens... I'd surely be interested in hearing what came of it.

 

[Guest]

Ezzie, you shouldn't have slept with your fri- um, no. Wait. You shouldn't have slept with that friend! You should have slept with me instead! I never would have gotten you pregnant... ('cause IWubU that much!!! lol)

 

[Ezzie]

I have just one word for you Tiggie

intrested

 

[Guest]

NO! I mean yes. I mean Yo Momma! Hell, I dunno. I'm confused! lol But I do know this...


IWubU!!!!!!! <kiss>

 

[Ezzie]

IWUBU! Wait, I mean My life for you!

Think people will start to wonder just how weird us ghetto girls really are?

 

[Guest]

Wonder? lol

 

[Guest]

This is a first for me....yah, you know I've been lurking. This is the first post that got to my heart, not the old libido. Well, actually cancel that last statement.

2 years ago a man I knew well told me he loved me. It was after a night of partying & he was loaded. I was extremely interested in him for a long time. But, a drunken "I love you" doesn't rate. 2 years later, completely sober, he said he believed he loved me.

I am so sorry we/I wasted 2 years without each other. "I believe I love you" turned into OH MY GOD sex, and a life I wouldn't be without.

 

[SweetNick]

Thanks guys, but...

"Nick you're a great guy, but I just don't like you like that. Besides, don't you know, you're not supposed to LIKE your friends??" Yeah, I've gotten the great guy line before, but the other one threw me for a loop. Hey, life goes on, and even though there was some strain, we're working the kinks out and we're almost back to where we were, so I didn't loose my friend.

Thanks again folks.

 

[Guest]

{{{{{{{Nick}}}}}}} I sawwy hon.

 

[forgetunome]

May I join you and Tiggs for a...

...group hug?

{{{{{{{{{{{Nick}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[R Nitelight]

Sit on your ass and whine and moon. That's what I'd do.
Sheesh!