I Lost My BDSM guide

[FurryFury]

First, you should know that in RL I am happily married and therefore, not available for any RL action.

Second, I do have a need to submit.

Background: I once had an online Dom who seemed to understand my needs before I even consciously acknowledged them to myself. Not only that, he always seems to have a plan to address those needs and those plans worked. Better yet, often these ideas would include my husband and lead to better understanding and willingness on my man's part.

Sadly this online Dom or guide went missing and I will likely never know why.

While things were good with him I trusted him completely and within my hard limits there is very little I wouldn't have done for him, had he but asked. My association with him gave me great hope.

So, if anyone really has the experience and brains to be a sort of BDSM guide out there, I would like to find that person.

I am not desperate. I have a good life. I can afford to wait for the right person.

Anyone who doesn't understand respect must flow both ways, will never have my confidence or submission. This is not some lark but a serious thing that I am interested in with the right person, after a relationship of caring, and respect has been established.

Thanks for reading,

Fury

 

[ozme52]

Good luck in your search Furry.

 

[rbijon]

First, you should know that in RL I am happily married and therefore, not available for any RL action.

Second, I do have a need to submit.

Background: I once had an online Dom who seemed to understand my needs before I even consciously acknowledged them to myself. Not only that, he always seems to have a plan to address those needs and those plans worked. Better yet, often these ideas would include my husband and lead to better understanding and willingness on my man's part.

Sadly this online Dom or guide went missing and I will likely never know why.

While things were good with him I trusted him completely and within my hard limits there is very little I wouldn't have done for him, had he but asked. My association with him gave me great hope.

So, if anyone really has the experience and brains to be a sort of BDSM guide out there, I would like to find that person.

I am not desperate. I have a good life. I can afford to wait for the right person.

Anyone who doesn't understand respect must flow both ways, will never have my confidence or submission. This is not some lark but a serious thing that I am interested in with the right person, after a relationship of caring, and respect has been established.

Thanks for reading,

Fury

Hello Fury, I too am a sub, I have a good time with my Mistress, but she only makes demands of me once a week. She knows this and uses my oversexed mind to keep me hungry and ready for Her. I am busting out of my pants most days. I would also love to find someone who would spank me around alittle, and have their fun with me. You see I love sex for the fun of it, and the silly crazy things my Mistress has me do. ...BUT I CRAVE MORE!

...trust and fun are both good.

 

[RawHumor]

Ah yes, the disappearing cyber-friend.

It has happened to me as well. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

 

[naxalite0906]

Hello fury, sounds exactly what I have been craving for the past year or so, except from a female

Good luck with your search, if I knew more about this then I would be happy to undertake the role as I feel as though I am a switch, but I think this is all beyond me and I doubt I would be anything like what you desire. Good luck with finding someone though

 

[FurryFury]

Good luck in your search Furry.

Thank you Ozme52!

I confess I don't expect to find exactly what I am looking for. Perhaps though, one never knows, I will find that which I need. We will see.

Fury

Hello Fury, I too am a sub, I have a good time with my Mistress, but she only makes demands of me once a week. She knows this and uses my oversexed mind to keep me hungry and ready for Her. I am busting out of my pants most days. I would also love to find someone who would spank me around alittle, and have their fun with me. You see I love sex for the fun of it, and the silly crazy things my Mistress has me do. ...BUT I CRAVE MORE!

...trust and fun are both good.

When one has a good thing one often craves more because what seems so wonderful and produces endorphins is addicting.

I'm glad you have a Mistress who gives you such energy and excitement!

Fury

Ah yes, the disappearing cyber-friend.

It has happened to me as well. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Thank you and yes, I've had that happen before. It can be very painful.

This was different and much more impacting, if you will. For one thing it wasn't cyber most of the time. Once, it verged on cyber and even then, it was all D/s and I LOVED that.

I loved what he was, not just to me, but in his real world. I loved how intuitive and "right" everything seemed.

Most of all I loved having a purpose through doing things for him. Those things in turn helped me grow in ways I had wanted to but couldn't figure out how to do for myself.

Ah well, enough about that.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Hello fury, sounds exactly what I have been craving for the past year or so, except from a female

Good luck with your search, if I knew more about this then I would be happy to undertake the role as I feel as though I am a switch, but I think this is all beyond me and I doubt I would be anything like what you desire. Good luck with finding someone though

Thanks Naxalite0906!

I appreciate your good wishes!

Fury

 

[RawHumor]

I once had a slave with whom I clicked quite well... the same thing happened.

One day she wrote in her blog how excited she was, and then *poof* never heard from her again.

 

[FurryFury]

I once had a slave with whom I clicked quite well... the same thing happened.

One day she wrote in her blog how excited she was, and then *poof* never heard from her again.

That long, cold, inexplicable and sudden, absence is so painful.

I HATE it!

*hugs*

This brings up a good point. I would now expect and require that anyone with whom I forge such a relationship not disappear without reasonable and timely explanation.

Even when there is a good and known reason, absence can kill an online relationship.

On a completely different matter now, (this has nothing to do with anyone who has posted on this thread thus far,) I just need to state the following:

Please understand that I do need the other person to write reasonably well. People who don't bother to use a spell checker, who use short cuts constantly when writing and seem to not know grammar or care for it bother me. I know we all make mistakes in writing and that is not what I'm talking about here.

This may be a short coming of mine but there it is. I like to read things that flow well. If I have to struggle to make out what the other person is trying to say, well, it's just not going to work out between us.

Fury

 

[Maxell46]

Good luck FF! Its's not easy "clicking" with someone but it sure is nice when it happens. I've had a few woman dissapear on me ...poof! Thought things were going well and then suddely they were gone. And I will admit I've bailed out a few times but that was more to do with me always doing the writing and then getting back one line responses. Those relationships lasted very short
I agree 100% on the person you get involved with needing decent grammar and writing skills. And an imagination...ability to put thoughts into words etc.
Again best of luck to you and I'm sure all of us out here will be waiting to see if you find that special partner.

That long, cold, inexplicable and sudden, absence is so painful.

I HATE it!

*hugs*

This brings up a good point. I would now expect and require that anyone with whom I forge such a relationship not disappear without reasonable and timely explanation.

Even when there is a good and known reason, absence can kill an online relationship.

On a completely different matter now, (this has nothing to do with anyone who has posted on this thread thus far,) I just need to state the following:

Please understand that I do need the other person to write reasonably well. People who don't bother to use a spell checker, who use short cuts constantly when writing and seem to not know grammar or care for it bother me. I know we all make mistakes in writing and that is not what I'm talking about here.

This may be a short coming of mine but there it is. I like to read things that flow well. If I have to struggle to make out what the other person is trying to say, well, it's just not going to work out between us.

Fury

 

[RawHumor]

When you both want things to stay strictly online, then it's tough to draw that boundary. You'd like to be able to exchange phone numbers "just in case", but that can obviously be risky.

It's tough not knowing if someone you developed feelings for and trust with just had a change of heart or got hit by a car or what.

 

[FurryFury]

Good luck FF! Its's not easy "clicking" with someone but it sure is nice when it happens. I've had a few woman dissapear on me ...poof! Thought things were going well and then suddely they were gone. And I will admit I've bailed out a few times but that was more to do with me always doing the writing and then getting back one line responses. Those relationships lasted very short
I agree 100% on the person you get involved with needing decent grammar and writing skills. And an imagination...ability to put thoughts into words etc.
Again best of luck to you and I'm sure all of us out here will be waiting to see if you find that special partner.

Lord, I understand, I hate getting the one line back when I've poured myself into something for them!

I would never leave someone alone without explanation myself. Though I'll admit when I'm not clicking with someone but I'm too chicken to say so, I do "wean."

Fury

When you both want things to stay strictly online, then it's tough to draw that boundary. You'd like to be able to exchange phone numbers "just in case", but that can obviously be risky.

It's tough not knowing if someone you developed feelings for and trust with just had a change of heart or got hit by a car or what.

Yes, I agree it is tough. That is why I would never just leave someone hanging.

I don't do phone by the way. One of my hard limits is my location due to my job. The phone not only can be overheard by my kids or others, but also gives away an area code.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

I'm talking to some folks but nothing is locked in yet, so I'm still open.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Just some quick thoughts:

Another thing I look for is consistency, I need the other person to be there on a regular basis.

We could be most compatible, perfect fit and it would be useless if we can never or rarely, connect.

I need the other person to show me who they are and not just in a D/s or sexual way. Who they are has to be pretty constant too. Disparities in what one relates to me from one day, hour, or minute to the next is red flagging stuff.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

So, I'm getting to know some people but I'm not sure yet that I've found my BDSM guide.

Fury

 

[Lord_Kaggis]

just to say hello...

Greetings ff.....
I have read all the posts involved with you. I the way that you think and put what you want and need clearly and distinctly. perhaps W/we could talk more in pm and e-mails?

It is a rare thing that One finds someone that lets A/all that read it exactly wants is expected fron any relationship, what is needed and wanted from B/both parties involved.

At the moment I am using anonther party's computer as Mine is defunct,(hard drive crashed...lol).

I hope that I and you might be able to talk to you at length in the near future.

Lord_Kaggis

 

[FurryFury]

Greetings ff.....
I have read all the posts involved with you. I the way that you think and put what you want and need clearly and distinctly. perhaps W/we could talk more in pm and e-mails?

It is a rare thing that One finds someone that lets A/all that read it exactly wants is expected fron any relationship, what is needed and wanted from B/both parties involved.

At the moment I am using anonther party's computer as Mine is defunct,(hard drive crashed...lol).

I hope that I and you might be able to talk to you at length in the near future.

Lord_Kaggis

Hi Lord_Kaggis,

Of course you can PM me. I'd rather we left that A/all stuff out of it, if you don't mind, because my eyes just have a problem with it.

Sorry to hear about your computer. I hope you get that cleared up soon. Being without a computer drives me nuts!

Fury

 

[bbinhou]

sorry to hear.......

sorry also about your loss.........some connection may not have occurred as you envisioned it.....

stay true to your thoughts and wishes and it will come true again, your life will be enhanced again,, i promise...

 

[FurryFury]

sorry also about your loss.........some connection may not have occurred as you envisioned it.....

stay true to your thoughts and wishes and it will come true again, your life will be enhanced again,, i promise...

Thanks Bbinhou!

I am staying true. As I said, I'm not currently in a sub "frenzy." I'm pretty darn happy so I won't just go for the wrong fit because I have to find someone, anyone to spend time with, you know?

Fury

 

[High-Tied]

I may not be the guide you are looking for, but I think we could find some scintillating explorations to indulge in.

 

[FurryFury]

I may not be the guide you are looking for, but I think we could find some scintillating explorations to indulge in.

That sounds intriguing.

Fury

 

[High-Tied]

That sounds intriguing.

Fury

Alas, we have much more in common than either of us may have once thought.

 

[FurryFury]

Alas, we have much more in common than either of us may have once thought.

Alas?

Fury

 

[High-Tied]

Alas?

Fury

True, you caught me off guard and I had to come up with something. My turn in the buffet room?

 

[FurryFury]

True, you caught me off guard and I had to come up with something. My turn in the buffet room?

In what capacity? *arches brows*

Fury