I just want to tell everyone here how wonderful my parents are

[lilminx]

As some of you may know, I've been kind of sick this summer. As a result, I haven't really been eating much, and what I manage to eat hasn't been making me feel that great. It's really been affecting my life.

Well, my parents were going to have a barbeque today, but due to the weather, it was cancelled. Instead my mom called me lastnight and suggested that I come to the house today to do my laundry and eat with her and my stepdad- he has a rare two days off in a row.

Well, I came up today, and my parents "happened" to feel the need to go food shopping while I was there. They asked me if I wanted anything, and brought me back fresh fruit and stuff (the fruit in the supermarkets near them is better than in the city supermarkets). Then my mom proceeded to make one of my favorite dishes that she rarely makes because only she and I enjoy it. She made me take home the rest of it, as well as the food they bought for me and stuff they had in the house.

When I left, my mom told me she loved me about 3 or 4 times. She never even said that to me until I left for college.

It's so sweet that they worry about me so much, especially about me not eating (it's not like I'm starving-lol). As I was leaving, I was getting sad thinking that they wouldn't be around forever, and that no one will look after me as well as they have. It's nice to feel so loved, and they totally made me feel that way today.

I don't expect replies or anything- I just wanted to get this out of my system because I've been pondering it since I left my parents' house.

 

[Guest]

That's awesome. You're lucky, and your parents are, as well. Thank you for sharing, darlin.

 

[Nora]

Moms are the bestest.

So now I wanna know what she made and what the recipe is!

 

[Lust Engine]

BRAVO!

I lost my mom to cancer last year.

Prior to her passing I had a friend (who had just lost his father-in-law to cancer) tell me that cancer is God's gift to us. After rolling my eyes & wondering if my friend was on crack, he explained to me that with cancer, we were given the opportunity to say good bye & let them know how much we loved them.

I had the chance to let my mom know she was loved EVERY day until she passed. I stayed with her through every treatment and comforted her when she hurt.

Our parents gave us not only our lives, but cared for us when they never really had to. They did it out of love, care & compassion. Cherish them! love them! Adore them!

The debt we owe them for raising us can never be repaid, but to acknowledge our love for them is a wonderful step in that direction.

Kudos to you lilminx for loving your parents the way you do. It's wonderful! I'm sure they're very proud of you too.

 

[lilminx]

You're going to laugh, because so many people think it's gross, but she made Tuna Noodle Casserole. It's so fucking good with potato chips, and I haven't had it in years- lol.

When I was 6, I was in the hospital for a few weeks with really bad pneumonia- I almost died. I wouldn't eat the hospital food, and my mom brought me food to eat (I'm such a picky bitch it's terrible). When I got home from the hospital, the onyly thing I would eat for a few days was Tuna Noodle Casserole.

As for how to make it, I have no idea. This is what I think is in it:

Rigatoni pasta
tuna
Cream of Mushroom soup
peas
evaporated milk?

Thrown together and baked in the oven, then eaten with potato chips, it's yummy. I usually try to find the unborken potato chips in the bag and scoop some of the casserole onto it, then eat the chip.

 

[Samuari]

They love you. and it often hard in todays society to tell an adult child that that they are still loved, even thought they don't live at home. I know that often times at my house signals get crossed and prolly don't get through. I'm glad for both you and your floks that you have been able to maintain that communication.. It's important.

 

[Nora]

heheh! Don't tell anyone (especially after all the jokes I've made about my mom's cooking!), but every now and then I get the WORST craving for my mom's tuna noodle casserole, too!

 

[Lust Engine]

Ahhhhh...comfort food!

Things like meat loaf, macaroni & cheese, hot turkey sandwiches and all of those lovely foods that harken back to a nicer time.

Damn...makes me want to go out & get a salisbury steak right now!

Mom's rock when it comes to comfort foods!

 

[lilminx]

They totally do. If someone else made it, I wouldn't eat tuna casserole if you paid me. Hers is really good though. It was just nice to be there. I mean, I visit my parents at least once or twice every two weeks. Today was different though. It was a "you're sick, I need to look after you" day.

 

[Lust Engine]

They totally do. If someone else made it, I wouldn't eat tuna casserole if you paid me. Hers is really good though. It was just nice to be there. I mean, I visit my parents at least once or twice every two weeks. Today was different though. It was a "you're sick, I need to look after you" day.

That's what even makes the folks that much cooler! They love you unconditionally whether you're earning the Nobel Peace Prize or just being sick, they still would do it all for you.

Again, cherish them.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Huggles Minx

It is days like this you will always remember and you are a very lucky person to have so many that love you. Remember that for I do at this end. I hope you are feeling better soon. Again if you need to talk you know where to find me.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Re: BRAVO!

I lost my mom to cancer last year.

Prior to her passing I had a friend (who had just lost his father-in-law to cancer) tell me that cancer is God's gift to us. After rolling my eyes & wondering if my friend was on crack, he explained to me that with cancer, we were given the opportunity to say good bye & let them know how much we loved them.

for us when they never really had to. They did it out of love, care & compassion. Cherish them! love them! Adore them!

The debt we owe them for raising us can never be repaid, but to acknowledge our love for them is a wonderful step in that direction.

Lust Engine thank you for your words. You do not realize how true they ring and can soothe others.

I just recently lost my mom. It was not from cancer but she was in pain for several years. Just when you think it could not get any worse it did. As the years progressed so did her illness. It is not easy to see a loved one in so much pain and there comes a time when a person is praying for them to go so they can be in peace.

I felt some guilt that she passed when I was away but she was in stable condition when I took my journey. My family began talking about taking her off life support and that is when I came home. My brother wanted her to die with some dignity for she had turned for the worse while I was away. I missed seeing her by 12 hours alive. Alive, from what I was told she was in a coma but considered alive. They were using chemicals to keep her alive until my brother finally said no more. So basically I was coming home to tell her to let go for she was incoherant and in so much more pain.

How selfish we all can be at times for I did not want to loose my mom. I had to come to gripes in my life to let go of my mother in the physical sense. It is strange on the airplane ride home there was a woman that I had met going to Australia. She asked my mom's name for she wanted to pray for her. Several minutes later I said something to the affect to pray that she goes quickly and with the least pain. For Peace. Looking back it was about two hours before we landed in San Fransico. It was about the time she died. I know that my Mother will always be in my heart, mind, and soul.

I do find solace that before I departed on a long journey that I said my good byes to her over many weeks. I made my peace. I held her hand and told her stories about things she did for me. Similiar things that Minx mentioned that she will always remember about her mom and how others of us can relate to such experiences. It is important to let them know. We often do not tell them how important they are in our lives. How much of an impact they made to us. I was blessed that I was able to. I know there are more things that I could of told her but I feel that she knows all now.

Another thing that frightens me but I find solace is when my aunt told me I was spared seeing her at her worse. I thought so many times as I held her hand that I had seen her at her worse and some times with my aunts being there. Those times were bad and it worries me to think that she was in even more pain than I thought she could ever be.

Things do happen for a reason. It might not feel it at the time but in the aftermath you see it. Nobody ever wants to see a loved one go. Life is way too short and I was blessed to let my mom know what she meant to me. I might be one of the lucky ones to have had the time to tell her things in my heart. We should let the living know how we feel for life is too short and you never know when we will loose a person. I know I could of said and done things differently over the last couple of years of her illness but she knows how much I love her. I was given the chance to let her know and to show her. I was able to comfort her by holding her hand and singing to her when she ran fevers and had treatments. Hush little baby don't you cry momma gonna buy you a mocking bird.............

Minx I did not mean to highjack your thread but something in the context that I needed to respond. Again the words poured out. You know me at times diarrea of the words. The NY crew and people I know from lit knew what I have been going through the last couple of years and most recently. They have been of great support in so many ways.

I do not expect anybody to write back but just think about letting the ones you love know how you feel. It is important.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[Lust Engine]

I'm thankful that my words gave you a sense of comfort. It looks as though you've been through a very solemn journey with your mom too.

While I miss my mom dearly & cherish her thought, I would never trade in those last few months of her life. The Good Lord gave me a chance to say good bye & let my mom know my thankfulness for her dedication & love. I knew in my heart of hearts I owed her more than life itself.

My mom was in the hospital when 9/11 hit too. I woke up that morning to visit my mom and saw all the confusion and the level of preparedness the hospital was put into.

I look back & think about all the people that died in that horrid disaster. They never had the chance to let their significant others know of their feelings... and now they're gone.

Tulip, we were both blessed to have had the opportunity to say good bye & make peace with the decisons we made for our loved ones. I'm sure they're smiling down upon us now and proud of the care, compassion & bravery we had shown in the face of adversity.

 

[lilminx]

Tulip, don't EVER apologize for hijacking this thread! what you had to say was beautiful, and was in the context of what I wrote. You know how sorry I am about your mom, but it was good that you were able to let her know how you felt about her before she went. I'm sure she left knowing how loved she was by her family.
Lust Engine, thank you for your responses to this thread as well. I'm sorry you lost your mom so recently as well, especially suring such a tumultuous time.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Tulip - I saw how close you were to your mother. When we left her hospital room I wanted to hug you. I always knew you were a special person, but I never knew how special until then.

As some of you know, I recently filed for divorce. I held off telling my parents for weeks, because I know how close they are to my ex. I felt that the failure of my marriage would be my failure in their eyes. Funny how you can be 45 years old and still need to have your parent's approval.

A couple weeks ago my ex had stopped to see them while I was out of town. She said they made a point of telling her that I need to know that no matter what happens, they love me.

I just cried.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I want to post here

but I have conflicted emotions.

My mom is in the hospital right now with something that could be dangerous (blood clots in her lungs).

Yet, my parents are splitting up, and I have to go home this weekend to listen to them do it in person.

I understand that they need to do what's best for them, and I'm glad they've come to a point where they're happy enough with themselves that they can see past the dogma they've been fed about eternal marriages (Catholic Church speaking here), and do what they need to do for happiness...

but I'm still sad, and I'm just very conflicted.

Don't get me wrong, my parents are phenominal pepole, and I talk about them all the time, and I realize how much they've taught me... I just am having a rough time lately.

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: I want to post here

but I have conflicted emotions.

My mom is in the hospital right now with something that could be dangerous (blood clots in her lungs).

Yet, my parents are splitting up, and I have to go home this weekend to listen to them do it in person.

I understand that they need to do what's best for them, and I'm glad they've come to a point where they're happy enough with themselves that they can see past the dogma they've been fed about eternal marriages (Catholic Church speaking here), and do what they need to do for happiness...

but I'm still sad, and I'm just very conflicted.

Don't get me wrong, my parents are phenominal pepole, and I talk about them all the time, and I realize how much they've taught me... I just am having a rough time lately.

Vixenshe...

I'm glad you were able to make it over to this thread & read some of the incredible stories of love & devotion to our parents.

I've said my prayers for your mom. I've always trusted that God will take care of all of us. I hope that your mommakes a full recovery & you'll get a chance to let her know you appreciate her.

I feel for your conflicted emotions at this point.

It's a difficult thing for you to shoulder but I once heard a wise man say that God never gives you more than what He knows you can handle. You'll survive this & you'll be better for it.

(Listen to me spouting words of God...sheesh!) But have some faith that things will work out. Let your mom know that you love her. Same with your dad. Despite their difficulties as a couple, let them know that their daughter still wishes them well. They live for your love & respect too as much as we seek their approval at times.

Take care, Vixenshe.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Vixenshe hugs...

First I know it is difficult to have a loved one ill and to give advice in this matter. Basically you have to do what you feel you can. When everything is in place can you look yourself in the mirror and accept the things you said and did?

What Lust Engine said about parents needing your love and approval is true. We often forget that our parents are human also. They are adults that will have to make up their own mind on staying together or divorcing. No matter how crazy a marriage is I do not think divorce is easy at any age and circumstance. It is good that you see that it might be better for them to part but I too feel your conflict. It is the child in you that wants them to stay together. Only human.

Good luck with it all and take it one day at a time. Hugs sweetie.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[CC40]

I don't want to hijack this thread, either, but when lilminx spoke about her mom fixing her that special dish, it brings forth memories.

I, too, am having to learn to deal with losing my mom. She is not gone yet, but it is only a matter of time. She became sick last December(my mom is never sick!) with what she thought was just a cold. She missed work for about two weeks, which is totally unlike her. In January she finally decided it was time to see her quack of a doctor, who told her it was a virile infection and proceeded to give her medication. I live in a different state than she does, and I had called to see how she was doing and she sounded awful, still. I went out to help in whatever way I could and we got her back to the doctors, this time they said it was pnuemonia. Again, more medication. My grandma insisted they do a chest xray and it showed an abnormality in the lungs. I had gone back home before this thinking that the heavy duty antibiotics they gave her would do the job. They were supposed to, but she still wasn't feeling well. After the xray they sent her to have a cat scan and it showed a mass in her bronchial tube. They immediatly put her in the hospital to do a bronchoscopy. I went back out again to be with her and my dad. He had been afraid all along that it was cancer. His fears came true. My mom was diagnosed with small cell cancer in the hospital and had to start chemo immediatly. The first chemo went okay, but then after we got her home out of the hospital, something happened. I blamed myself, because her oxygen level was way low and she had to be admitted to the hospital again, only this time into ICU. We almost lost her that night. Watching my dad at her bedside was probably one of the hardest things I have ever done.

She did come through and was able to get off the oxygen. Her cancer went into remission 2months ago. Then, last month, she was supposed to try something new. She had a bad reaction, or what they thought was a bad reaction, but it turned out to be, that the cancer had spread to her brain. She had to have radiation, so once again I went out to be with her. They think they got it and she should go in for a MRI sometime before the 12th to make sure.

My mom and I have never had the easiest relationship. I am an only child, which makes this all the harder for them and me.

I guess, what this has to do with lilminx's thread is, I was thinking the other day, who will make all the good stuff that my mom does, when she is gone. Who will I call when I need to know how to do something? Then, I think to myself how selfish I am.

I am glad we have had this time, and whatever more we get so we can just cherish each other. I feel closer to her now than I ever have, and for that I am grateful.

I apologise for going on so long. There have been many times I thought about posting, because I know what a good community this one is, how very supportive.

When Ezarc lost his mom, I felt his pain and cried. All the wonderful tributes to different parents that have passed on, I cried.

I am happy that there is such a community for all of us who need that little extra support sometimes.

Thankyou Literotica

 

[Belilica]

Yeppers, Lit ppl are amazing!

My mom is really cool too. I love her. THREE CHEERS FOR MOMS!!!

 

[Carl East]

It's so sweet that they worry about me so much, especially about me not eating (it's not like I'm starving-lol). As I was leaving, I was getting sad thinking that they wouldn't be around forever, and that no one will look after me as well as they have. It's nice to feel so loved, and they totally made me feel that way today.

First of all, it's nice that you took the time to write this lilminx, it shows you care. As for feeling sad that they might not be around forever, you're right, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't enjoy every waking moment with them. I for one am not surprised that you are loved by your parents, you have a lot of very good qualities and a lot of people think so, including me.

I've said this before, but you can never say I love you too many times, I for one never said it enough to my father and I deeply regret that.



Carl

 

[Pan718]

Warm smile...

They totally do. If someone else made it, I wouldn't eat tuna casserole if you paid me. Hers is really good though. It was just nice to be there. I mean, I visit my parents at least once or twice every two weeks. Today was different though. It was a "you're sick, I need to look after you" day.

I'm happy you're receiving their love.
At my aunt's funeral today I again got to hug both my parents and tell them I loved them.

Love you, K.

Pan

 

[lilminx]

Oh my god- he's back from the dead!

I'm sorry about your aunt, hon. I hope that you're ok. You know how to reach me if you need to talk.

Love you too.

 

[Pan718]

Re: Oh my god- he's back from the dead!

I'm sorry about your aunt, hon. I hope that you're ok. You know how to reach me if you need to talk.

Love you too.

(Cheesy imitation Monty Python voice) "I'm NOT dead yet!"



Well now that the first week of school is over... We'll figure out what time my little one needs to go to sleep by...

 

[lilminx]

Re: Re: Oh my god- he's back from the dead!

(Cheesy imitation Monty Python voice) "I'm NOT dead yet!"



Well now that the first week of school is over... We'll figure out what time my little one needs to go to sleep by...

Oh really? Does that mean you're going to help me work out a schedule?