I just told my brother about some of my sexual past.

[Ms_Lilith]

And it was heartwrenching. I've kept the rape from my family. My brother didn't even know I'm not a virgin. But tonight, we got talking about our family, and about family in general, and we had a really good talk... and then the floodgates opened... I told him about losing my virginity non-consentually.. and I told him about the rape in first year university.

He was shaking with rage at the two perps... and he was so sorry to me for not being there... but it was ME who kept it from the family, so I told him that he had nothing to be sorry about... I think this is gonna make it a lot better between us... we have something in confidence now... he's given his word to not tell my family. He's given his word to obey my wishes concerning all of this.

But god, it was hard to tell him.

However, now he wants to join the Men Against Sexualized Violence group at our uni, of which I'm a part (I'm the chick there for perspective)...

Wow.. talk about a bonding moment.

 

[FallenSeraph]

Thumbs up for sharing. Isn't always good to know that you have people to back and support you through whatever happens in life? Some things are best kept secrets, but that's only my opinion and its up to you to decide if its worth telling

 

[nasty1]

OMG, Vix. That's TERRIBLE! I don't know what else to say, but, sorry. It's great to be able to open up like that to someone close. Just in the last 2-3 months, I opened up to my Mom & Sis about my bisexuality. Now, we're closer than ever. Although, they didn't believe me at 1st, since, I was always one of the "guys."

 

[Lust Engine]

Congrats on building a bridge between you & your brother. Sometimes heinous acts can seperate a family & isolate someone. I'm glad you had the courage to come forth. You're very brave and strong to do this. Kudos to you for having the fortitude to do these things. I know that this is just one of the steps that'll help you come to grips with things. Continue building and pat your brother on the back for listening and being as supportive as he has been.

Bravo!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Thanks for all the positive feedback and encouragement, everyone... it was a really good conversation that we had... and i'm glad.

Now we jsut get to go home next weekend, and listen to our parents outline their separation... or something.

 

[steelvelvet200]

YOU GO, Girl!!!

I think that is wonderful that you were able to share with your brother...I hope it will bring you closer.....

We all need family to help pull us thru some stuff....and it is not always easy.

Keep kindling that relationship with your bro, Vixie....

Keep me posted....sorry I missed you Sat nite!

-steel

 

[MzChrista]

Cool beans Vix. Good you can talk to your brother. My bro was first person I came out to in the family and he was all oh so what. I will always be grateful to him for that.

 

[MechaBlade]

It's very interesting. One member of my family has taken my interests well. I have told a few friends that I have an erotica site. But some of my closest friends think I'm fucked up because I told them I want to put up an erotic art site. One of them is the guy that showed me my first hentai site. Hypocrate.

 

[MechaBlade]

I apologize for posting something that was actually not as relevant as it seemed when I wrote it.

 

[Bodie]

Vix, yet again showing what a truly brave and wonderful person you really are.

I hope those perps got/get what they deserve. Legally, or otherwise!

But a good move to bring your brother into your confidence, I think. I don't know how it was with him before, but I've found that these are the kinds of things that permanently and unbreakably bind a friendship or relationship.

Phew, lots of changes in your life this week, girl!

Keep smiling and stay happy.

Bodie.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Yikes, baby...that is going to be hard. On them, as well as you.

At least you and your brother will pull together as a team now.

It is gonna be hard. But at the same time, I think it's going to exhaust me, spiritually and emotionally, more than anything else. I really feel like it's just gonna drain me, so my reactions will be much delayed...