DVS
A ghost from your dreams
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- Apr 17, 2002
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I just felt like talking.
This isn't a rant, or a troll, or anything like that. Not looking for condolences or sympathy. Not looking for "AT-A-BOY" statements of congrats, or anything. It isn't my way or intent. Like I said, I just felt like talking.
This is the time of year when everybody should be meeting with relatives and friends. Thanksgiving (for we Americans) and Christmas (for those who believe in Christ or just like giving and/or receiving goodies).
Oh, don't get me wrong. There are many other holidays to celebrate. And when it comes down to it, who really needs a holiday to get together with friends for fun?
OK, by now you may be wondering where I'm going with this thread. Well, it's like this. I really don't know. You see, as I said above, I just felt like writing.
Talking can take several forms, really. You can write on paper, or on a computer screen, as I am now. You can also write on the side of a train car, if you want your message to get around.
You can write stories about various things, and get them posted. One such place is here, of course.
WRITER'S DISCLAIMER: read my stories...read my stores
It seems different topics are more interesting than others, depending on if you like kinky, sentimental, humor, etc.
You can strike up a conversation with a stranger, but that isn't as easy as it once was. In today's times, you can be thrown in jail for such things. So, pick your conversations wisely.
But, talking is something we all need to do. In the old days, the stoic personality was the norm. And, we had our share of warped minds because of it. It was the strong thing to do, keeping your feelings inside.
But, it seems we all want to be noticed. It is a form of power, really. Small and insignificant as we may be, we like to know people like us for who we are. And, as I said above, this is the time of year when some people tend to feel down about themselves.
There are various reasons for this, but one of the main reasons is seeing others getting together for fun, and you not feeling that way. Feeling left out, not having a mate to share the times, or maybe recently losing a mate is the reason.
I could go on and on for the reasons for the gloom, but suffice it to say it does happen, as strange as it may seem to some. Yes, it has happened to me, but that was a long time ago. More than 30 years ago, now. Waiting for the "old guy" jokes to subside...
I felt alone and unwanted, and didn't understand the reasons. I kept these feelings to myself, and that is not the way to handle it. If you do keep these feelings inside, they can fester and cause the mind to think bad thoughts of ending it all.
I never got that far, but I did see how easy it could have. It's troubling to find out someone did take it that far, when if we could have known, talking to someone about it would easily make the feelings go away.
The mind is pliable, for sure. Sometimes all it takes is a smile from a stranger to change you. Sometimes it could be a song that helps you remember good times.
However, because the mind is pliable, the same things could cause the opposite reaction. Melancholy thoughts can just as easily be brought to the surface. Triggers like these can be dangerous.
Like Thanksgiving and Christmas, other normally festive times can be difficult for some. So, I would suggest we all take the time to look around and see if there is someone out there who needs a friend.
It isn't always easy to be a friend. You may have friends or relatives, or maybe you know of a stranger who is alone at this time of year.
Understand, this someone will more than likely say they are "OK" or "perfectly fine" and in no need of assistance. And, also understand they may be perfectly fine.
It's difficult to tell if they are telling you the truth that they're "OK," or if they are just fine and wanting to be alone. It is perfectly healthy to want to be alone sometimes, too.
BDSMers are no different from anybody else. Although some may have had less than kinky lives. The presence of kinky thoughts with the absence of kinky participation can be a difficult combination. We all know that.
And, we have gays and lesbians here, too. God knows there are some here who have lived some tough times in this cruel vanilla jungle.
Share a little time with a friend. God gave us all a mouth and the gift of gab (some more so than others). Take the time to talk. You might find someone who feels like talking.
This isn't a rant, or a troll, or anything like that. Not looking for condolences or sympathy. Not looking for "AT-A-BOY" statements of congrats, or anything. It isn't my way or intent. Like I said, I just felt like talking.
This is the time of year when everybody should be meeting with relatives and friends. Thanksgiving (for we Americans) and Christmas (for those who believe in Christ or just like giving and/or receiving goodies).
Oh, don't get me wrong. There are many other holidays to celebrate. And when it comes down to it, who really needs a holiday to get together with friends for fun?
OK, by now you may be wondering where I'm going with this thread. Well, it's like this. I really don't know. You see, as I said above, I just felt like writing.
Talking can take several forms, really. You can write on paper, or on a computer screen, as I am now. You can also write on the side of a train car, if you want your message to get around.
You can write stories about various things, and get them posted. One such place is here, of course.
WRITER'S DISCLAIMER: read my stories...read my stores
It seems different topics are more interesting than others, depending on if you like kinky, sentimental, humor, etc.
You can strike up a conversation with a stranger, but that isn't as easy as it once was. In today's times, you can be thrown in jail for such things. So, pick your conversations wisely.
But, talking is something we all need to do. In the old days, the stoic personality was the norm. And, we had our share of warped minds because of it. It was the strong thing to do, keeping your feelings inside.
But, it seems we all want to be noticed. It is a form of power, really. Small and insignificant as we may be, we like to know people like us for who we are. And, as I said above, this is the time of year when some people tend to feel down about themselves.
There are various reasons for this, but one of the main reasons is seeing others getting together for fun, and you not feeling that way. Feeling left out, not having a mate to share the times, or maybe recently losing a mate is the reason.
I could go on and on for the reasons for the gloom, but suffice it to say it does happen, as strange as it may seem to some. Yes, it has happened to me, but that was a long time ago. More than 30 years ago, now. Waiting for the "old guy" jokes to subside...
I felt alone and unwanted, and didn't understand the reasons. I kept these feelings to myself, and that is not the way to handle it. If you do keep these feelings inside, they can fester and cause the mind to think bad thoughts of ending it all.
I never got that far, but I did see how easy it could have. It's troubling to find out someone did take it that far, when if we could have known, talking to someone about it would easily make the feelings go away.
The mind is pliable, for sure. Sometimes all it takes is a smile from a stranger to change you. Sometimes it could be a song that helps you remember good times.
However, because the mind is pliable, the same things could cause the opposite reaction. Melancholy thoughts can just as easily be brought to the surface. Triggers like these can be dangerous.
Like Thanksgiving and Christmas, other normally festive times can be difficult for some. So, I would suggest we all take the time to look around and see if there is someone out there who needs a friend.
It isn't always easy to be a friend. You may have friends or relatives, or maybe you know of a stranger who is alone at this time of year.
Understand, this someone will more than likely say they are "OK" or "perfectly fine" and in no need of assistance. And, also understand they may be perfectly fine.
It's difficult to tell if they are telling you the truth that they're "OK," or if they are just fine and wanting to be alone. It is perfectly healthy to want to be alone sometimes, too.
BDSMers are no different from anybody else. Although some may have had less than kinky lives. The presence of kinky thoughts with the absence of kinky participation can be a difficult combination. We all know that.
And, we have gays and lesbians here, too. God knows there are some here who have lived some tough times in this cruel vanilla jungle.
Share a little time with a friend. God gave us all a mouth and the gift of gab (some more so than others). Take the time to talk. You might find someone who feels like talking.
