I have two concerns.

[glitterpuss]

My husband, well he has had this problem for a while I guess. Is it common for men with a little more body hair and pubic hair to have an awful lot of acne around the penis?
I have asked him to see a doctor and he hasn't.
What would the best solution be to solve this problem?

My husband has had two sexual partners before me and has never been tested for stds or HIV, how do I get him to go with me?
My worry about this is he has had two sexual partners before me. I have had none before him. He knows nothing of their sexual history or anything along those lines.

 

[lasexybitch]

hey

Hey I read your concern I think you should talk to him honest and let him know your worry and if he doesn't listen you go get checked out then till him you would not have sex with him untill he gets checked.

 

[SweetErika]

No, having a lot of "acne" around the penis/in the genital region doesn't sound normal, hairy or not.

Does he have this kind of acne elsewhere? Does he practice good hygiene by bathing daily, changing his underwear, etc.? Is the acne under his pubic hair, on his inner thighs, or on his penis/balls?

At any rate, the bottom line is that he needs to get it checked out and comprehensive STD testing for your comfort. You need to be tested as well.

I'm not an advocate of ultimatums, but I think you have good reason to do what LA suggested. Sit him down, and in a very loving manner tell him you're concerned about his health, your own health, and you want to be able to be intimate with him without worrying. Tell him you want to make an appointment for both of you to be checked out and tested so you can proceed worry-free. You can ask if he prefers to see a certain doctor, has a preference for a male or female doc, etc., so he's as comfortable as possible. You can also mention that you'd want him to have this conversation with you if he was worried about your health.

If he still refuses, say you're getting checked out and you're simply not comfortable having sexual contact with him until he does the same. If that's the way it goes, you can still go to his appointment with him if he wants and support him, but stand your ground on no contact until you know what his bill of health looks like. I don't know about you, but I certainly don't want to have sex with someone who doesn't care about me enough to go to the doctor and get tested, even if it's only for my peace of mind. Hopefully you care about yourself enough to feel the same.

Good luck with the conversation(s) and testing!

 

[hotMarie]

why?

My husband, well he has had this problem for a while I guess. Is it common for men with a little more body hair and pubic hair to have an awful lot of acne around the penis?
I have asked him to see a doctor and he hasn't.
What would the best solution be to solve this problem?

My husband has had two sexual partners before me and has never been tested for stds or HIV, how do I get him to go with me?
My worry about this is he has had two sexual partners before me. I have had none before him. He knows nothing of their sexual history or anything along those lines.

Sounds like you got the Cart before the Horse,... Isn't that something you should do before ( tested for stds) your relationship moves into engagment.... and marriage... If a man was wasn't willing to go get test ( during the dating stage of the relationship...why in the HELL would you marry him?

As for the hair part.... its life.... most men have hair problems as they age... balding, ear and nose hair issue( gross0 and even hair on his back.... but that can all be taken care of if he has any personal hygenie and pride in himself..

 

[glitterpuss]

Sounds like you got the Cart before the Horse,... Isn't that something you should do before ( tested for stds) your relationship moves into engagment.... and marriage... If a man was wasn't willing to go get test ( during the dating stage of the relationship...why in the HELL would you marry him?

As for the hair part.... its life.... most men have hair problems as they age... balding, ear and nose hair issue( gross0 and even hair on his back.... but that can all be taken care of if he has any personal hygenie and pride in himself..

I have to agree. But I've known him for 6 years so I guess that had slipped my mind. Thank you.

 

[glitterpuss]

No, having a lot of "acne" around the penis/in the genital region doesn't sound normal, hairy or not.

Does he have this kind of acne elsewhere? Does he practice good hygiene by bathing daily, changing his underwear, etc.? Is the acne under his pubic hair, on his inner thighs, or on his penis/balls?

At any rate, the bottom line is that he needs to get it checked out and comprehensive STD testing for your comfort. You need to be tested as well.

I'm not an advocate of ultimatums, but I think you have good reason to do what LA suggested. Sit him down, and in a very loving manner tell him you're concerned about his health, your own health, and you want to be able to be intimate with him without worrying. Tell him you want to make an appointment for both of you to be checked out and tested so you can proceed worry-free. You can ask if he prefers to see a certain doctor, has a preference for a male or female doc, etc., so he's as comfortable as possible. You can also mention that you'd want him to have this conversation with you if he was worried about your health.

If he still refuses, say you're getting checked out and you're simply not comfortable having sexual contact with him until he does the same. If that's the way it goes, you can still go to his appointment with him if he wants and support him, but stand your ground on no contact until you know what his bill of health looks like. I don't know about you, but I certainly don't want to have sex with someone who doesn't care about me enough to go to the doctor and get tested, even if it's only for my peace of mind. Hopefully you care about yourself enough to feel the same.

Good luck with the conversation(s) and testing!

Thank you. We haven't had sex for a little over two weeks because of the acne problem. I do want him tested and I have been tested because I don't want any complications when I want children.
His facial acne is not bad at all, but when he gets a hair cut and they shave the back of his neck he get a whole load.
There is acne under his pubic hair, he shaved a while back, that to me is so gross. So he stopped. He is a germafobe (sp).
I will talk with him tonight about it.

 

[SweetErika]

Thank you. We haven't had sex for a little over two weeks because of the acne problem. I do want him tested and I have been tested because I don't want any complications when I want children.
His facial acne is not bad at all, but when he gets a hair cut and they shave the back of his neck he get a whole load.
There is acne under his pubic hair, he shaved a while back, that to me is so gross. So he stopped. He is a germafobe (sp).
I will talk with him tonight about it.

It sounds like it might be folliculitis/ingrown hairs or some other reaction to shaving, but since it's not going away and STD testing is always a good idea, he needs to see a doctor anyway.

 

[PertPerth]

One suggestion is to get him to have a couple of treatments of IPL (laser) hair removal. To remove all hair, you need over 10 treatments, but if he had ~4 or 5 he'd still have hair, but not as much. I think that would help a lot.
I've had a long term problem with acne and also irritation from pubic hair. So, I've had IPL, but I'm also still taking antibiotics for my acne.

 

[alekhorn]

well if you are in a loving relationship with someone who cares, he will get checked if you explain how important it is to you! He is probably scared.

 

[ZoeBird]

I've never heard of having acne on or around one's genitals, but it actually sounds more like ingrown hairs. Does it only happen when he shaves his pubes, or does it happen all the time?

Regardless of that, he should definitely be tested for STDs. For your peace of mind, if for nothing else.

And if the acne/ingrown hair problem persists even when he is not shaving his pubes I would definitely have that looked at by a doctor.

 

[mylaceratedheart]

Sounds to me like he could have herpes. Once contracted, it never goes away and can flare up on occasion in the way you've described. Get him checked and be aware that you might also need treatment to prevent you from passing an infection back and forth. If he's so inconsiderate he won't see his GP, I'd boycott his cock completely if I were you.

 

[JHarrison01]

His reluctance to go to a doctor could be a fear to find out he has an STD. He doesn't want to know and doesn't want you to know.

You can Google "acne around the penis" but in each and every discussion you will find the recommendation to seek medical help - there really is no alternative to this - you must insist.

 

[cebalrai]

When I shaved my penis/pubic area a while ago, I noticed a couple little zits. Not really zits but just irritated hair follicules. I'd be willing to bet that's what your husband has.

There are a ton of sebaceous skin glands in that area to keep it moist and supple. It's easy for them to get backed up....

 

[shenellebabe]

you should talk with him one on one, and you can both test your urine in a clinic for urinalysis, you will see there a bacteria trichomonas, that's the bacteria for std. you can see a doctor for the antibiotics if it happens you have. http://b08y1110sotu149.imageshacknow.info/img/2196/d08m1111isgb/smile.gif

 

[cebalrai]

you should talk with him one on one, and you can both test your urine in a clinic for urinalysis, you will see there a bacteria trichomonas, that's the bacteria for std. you can see a doctor for the antibiotics if it happens you have. http://b08y1110sotu149.imageshacknow.info/img/2196/d08m1111isgb/smile.gif

Trich isn't a bacteria. It's a parasite.

 

[didi_louise]

My hubby is very hairy and has never had anything like this even when he shaves now and then... he does get irratation on his neck when he shaves his face but that is more similar to excema rather than acne.... I think acne I think of puss.... puss is baaaaaaad... cos even if it's not a STD if the spots burst when he's inside you then that stuff is all in you and might cause something.... so when he has them bad DON'T have sex with him... get YOURSELF checked for sure but also you really gotta convince him to get checked over too!!!!

 

[skate and fuck]

I think a clinic would be the best place for this type of question. But if he has something, then you have something. Lets hope this gift will STOP giving, or that its a false alarm. Get it checked, dont stress untill there is something to stress about, and dont look to the internet to fill you with false confidence. Get him tested, get tested yourself, and know for sure.

 

[fire_breeze]

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His facial acne is not bad at all, but when he gets a hair cut and they shave the back of his neck he get a whole load.
There is acne under his pubic hair, he shaved a while back.

Just a little something: I've had a male roommate who, when he shaved his heads, the back is all irritated, acne-prone, and frankly gross. It has something to do with the irritation of the hair follicle and something else, all that is preventable by a cream that he received from a dermatologist. He may have something akin to this. Whilst you both should get tested, and something to bring up with your doc, if everything tests negative, you may wish to have him visit a dermatologist.

Good luck.