I have to say goodbye

[Guest]

..to a friend who is hell bent on suicide. He confided in me about the direction his life has taken. He is depressed every day and has tried to make things better but to no avail. He has gone to therapy but apparently that hasnt helped (it might've in fact added more weight to his shoulders). In any case, there comes a time when you have to let someone go if thats what they really want. Any thoughts on this?

 

[Tap-Out]

If he's still talking to you about it, he's still looking for you to talk him out of it. 9/10 times if they are really that hell bent on killing themselvs they will just go ahead and do it. I would keep trying to talk him out of it. Just my $0.02

 

[Olivianna]

Didn't you post recently about being suicidal yourself? In that case, you may be able to fit comfortably in your friend's shoes and then answer your own question.

 

[acitore_vuli]

Yes, try to keep talking to him/her. They are reaching out for help. If all else fails, ask if you can have their stuff.

 

[Chuckus]

If he's still talking to you about it, he's still looking for you to talk him out of it. 9/10 times if they are really that hell bent on killing themselvs they will just go ahead and do it. I would keep trying to talk him out of it. Just my $0.02

Nothing is that bad. NOTHING. You need to seek help for him/her for their own good. The Police in your area will need YOUR help in taking a first step. Your friend needs help, maybe even committed to a psychological ward for a while to help him thru his problems. Nothing is that bad to committ suicide. He is crying out for help to YOU.

 

[Spinaroonie]

TV+PS2+GTA:VC = No suicide.

 

[hogjack]

Um

Not that I am in your shoes nor do I know the clinical background on your friend but I have dealt with a lot of depression (family, friends). There are many kinds of depression and it can manifest itself in different manners. Obviously this is situation is dark no matter how your pal is exhibiting the pain.

Hate to see you give up. Maybe just take a timeout?

Is it too emotionally draining to be in this relationship? That is my guess. That can eventually bounce back on anyone in a support role. Are there other people who can share the burden?

Others might have the right words of encouragement or ideas for maintaining a safe but still available distance.

Good luck.

 

[Guest]

 

[Bandit58]

I was online a few weeks ago and a friend of mine in ICQ contacted me........he was real down and was sitting there with a loaded 45. He thought his girlfriend was cheating on him and he'd been burned before (different girl). He had made several attempts at suicide before, but something always happened to prevent it, like he drank a bottle of bourbon and passed out, or someone came along and found him when he slashed his wrists......he is bipolar and can't afford the medication he needs apparently.

Now he lives in Richmond VA and I'm way down in New Zealand, so this was really scary for me Luckily his girlfriend came online while I was talking to him and she contacted him and got him to unload the gun......they talked things out and she wasn't cheating......they were 700 miles apart at the time and she had suggested he see other girls so he wouldn't be lonely. She didn't know that was what his other girlfriend had said when she was cheating.........things turned out ok and they're now living together as of 2 weeks ago

I guess if he really wanted to kill himself he would have done it and I'd never have known. It was an unusual time of day for him to contact me too, we almost never talk in the mornings (for me, it would have been really late at night for him). I guess what he really wanted was an ear to listen..........and something was smiling down on him to make his girlfriend come online then and for me to warn her what was happening......

 

[Guest]

Re: Um

Obviously this is situation is dark no matter how your pal is exhibiting the pain.
Is it too emotionally draining to be in this relationship? Are there other people who can share the burden?

no, this person is driven to self destruction. He has tried 4 times before, ending up in the hospital. This time he said he wont be going to a hospital. That comment has scared people.
Yes, its emotionally draining but so is everything else in life.
Personally, I can understand. I know he feels like sleeping forever when things dont turn out like he planned. He has no hope in the future and he has a very hollow look on his face. He doesnt eat much anymore.

 

[freakygirl]

What kind of game are you playing?

Is it you or your friend that is not well?

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=121170

We gave you advice.. talk to your dr. There is no way for us to help you. I wish there was..

 

[Chuckus]

Re: Re: Um

no, this person is driven to self destruction. He has tried 4 times before, ending up in the hospital. This time he said he wont be going to a hospital. That comment has scared people.
Yes, its emotionally draining but so is everything else in life.
Personally, I can understand. I know he feels like sleeping forever when things dont turn out like he planned. He has no hope in the future and he has a very hollow look on his face. He doesnt eat much anymore.

Dude call the Police and tell them a friend of yours has been talking about committing suicide. Do you want to live with the guilt? I know I wouldn't............he is crying out for help.

My .02 cents worth.

 

[Chuckus]

What kind of game are you playing?

Is it you or your friend that is not well?

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=121170

We gave you advice.. talk to your dr. There is no way for us to help you. I wish there was..

If the link FG posted is the same as this, GO GET HELP. A doctor can change your meds. to help with the Bi Polar condition. Your body changes and your meds need to change accordingly.

 

[Guest]

What kind of game are you playing?

Is it you or your friend that is not well?

DOES IT SOUND LIKE A GAME? Fuck off

 

[freakygirl]

DOES IT SOUND LIKE A GAME? Fuck off

Do you read the responses?

Fuck off? Why.. because I know something about Bi Polar and was attempting to give you advice? Isn't that what you wanted when you posted here?

Yes.. it sounds like a game. You fuck off.

 

[Chuckus]

DOES IT SOUND LIKE A GAME? Fuck off

I must say it sure looks as if your playing a game to me.

Is it you or a friend who needs and is asking for help?

Don't cuss at me or anyone here, we are only trying to help.

Go see a doctor IMMEDIATELY and tell him what's going on and they CAN HELP. Your body changes, as it changes your MEDS need to change with it.

 

[Guest]

Yes.. it sounds like a game. You fuck off.

Yeah it sounds like youre another heartless dumb fuck who doesnt have friends because of your shitty attitude. I feel sorry for your type. Keep your comments to yourself from now on.

Chuckus, its a friend who needs the help. Time seems to be running out. BTW, the whole game comment is unwarranted and I find it very disheartening to see people assume so much about a stranger.

 

[freakygirl]

Yeah it sounds like youre another heartless dumb fuck who doesnt have friends because of your shitty attitude. I feel sorry for your type. Keep your comments to yourself from now on.

Chuckus, its a friend who needs the help. Time seems to be running out. BTW, the whole game comment is unwarranted and I find it very disheartening to see people assume so much about a stranger.

LOL

Why do you assume I don't have any friends? And what exactly is "my type". And why do you think you know so much about me?

In the thread I linked.. it was YOU that you were talking about. In that thread.. I gave you advice and told you to PM me if you wanted to. I would help any way I could.

In this thread..it's a FRIEND that you are talking about.

Whether it's a friend or yourself.. the advice is the same. GET TO A DR!. Someones meds need to be changed..

 

[Chuckus]

Yeah it sounds like youre another heartless dumb fuck who doesnt have friends because of your shitty attitude. I feel sorry for your type. Keep your comments to yourself from now on.

Chuckus, its a friend who needs the help. Time seems to be running out. BTW, the whole game comment is unwarranted and I find it very disheartening to see people assume so much about a stranger.

De Sade ~

I say this with sincerity. I read your THREAD which started 10/18/02 about your situation AFTER I read this thread. It sure sounds like the same situation.

If your Therapist/Doctor hasn't/won't change anything I would suggest getting a NEW doctor/Therapist.

Yes, the whole game comment seems unwarranted and disheartening, but it does appear as though one is being played ~ and by that I mean that YOUR thread about suicidal thoughts, etc........and now this thread about a "friend".

Either way it sounds like HELP is needed and YOU are the only ONE who can help. If it is YOU, then seek out professional help. If it is a friend, seek out Law enforcement/officials in your area who WILL help and get this person on the road to getting help.

Again, it just sounds as if it is YOU who is asking for help under the guise of a "friend". We are willing to listen, willing to point you in the direction of getting help ~ but ultimately that decision is up to you. We are not there, we do not know where you are and IF you want to help you/your friend, the ball is in your court.

 

[Guest]

this is bullshit. Forget I mentioned anything. Ignorance is bliss right?
I've been having a shitty day and this just added to my frustration.

 

[Chuckus]

this is bullshit. Forget I mentioned anything. Ignorance is bliss right?
I've been having a shitty day and this just added to my frustration.

Just trying to help. Please get help for your friend.


and if what you posted in the other thread is true, seek out help for yourself as well.

 

[HomerPindar]

Oh, sorry, I'm just waiting for Godot....

....don't mind me...

..less of course, you know what I'm waiting for.

HomerPindar

 

[freakygirl]

this is bullshit. Forget I mentioned anything. Ignorance is bliss right?
I've been having a shitty day and this just added to my frustration.

I do hope you and your friend get the help you guys need.

 

[LukkyKnight]

this is bullshit. Forget I mentioned anything. Ignorance is bliss right?
I've been having a shitty day and this just added to my frustration.

Suicide is bullshit. Friends prevent it.

 

[Guest]

and if what you posted in the other thread is true, seek out help for yourself as well.

I just need to get away from people for a week or more.