I have questions!!!

[PacificBlue]

Sooooo...as some of you know I've been flirting with a manager at a local restaurant and he asked me out last night on a date for sometime later this week. Anyhoo...I went to see him tonight on his break at work.

He says... Would you like to get together after my shift tonight?

I say... 2am? Where are we going to go at 2am?

He says... We can figure something out. You don't have to work tomorrow, so come on...come out with me.

I say... Ok, I think I could do that.

He goes back to work and says...hang out, I'll be back pretty quick. I stay.

Next break...

Small talk...still feeling each other out a little...answering basic life questions...

He says... you could stay here until I get off work, there's not much interesting in the office but I'll come chat when I can.

I say... no, that's ok...I've got stuff at home to entertain me until you get off work.

He says... I could come over to your place after work.

I say... I think I'd rather you just called me and we went somewhere first.

He says... I can be very persuasive.

I say... So...what kind of girl do you think I am?

He says... shy and by the end of tonight you won't be anymore.

I say... absolutely nothing, trying to figure that statement out.

He had to go back at this moment and said, I'll call you later tonight. Help me out here.... ppppllleeeaaaassssseeeeee. What do you think?

 

[Kitte]

tell him you had all intentions of fucking him silly till he acted like a pompus ass! sorry I hate when men act like that.(NOT THAT ALL MEN DO BUT SOME DO)

 

[Bindii]

I say just make sure you are wearing clean underwear for your date!

 

[PacificBlue]

NNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

He thinks I'm a conquest doesn't he?

 

[KillerMuffin]

He wants pussy and he thinks he can get it.

Whether he wants anything else to go with it or not, I couldn't tell ya, not enough info. He may want to date and do the whole bf-gf thingy.

Or he just thinks he can get in your pants without a lot of work.

Tell him that you're not interested in a man who only wants a sexual relationship. You may be shy, but you have no intention of losing your self-respect by morning either.

Or, if you'd prefer, swing by the local adult book store and pick up some porno and condoms on your way to the restaurant after his shift ends.

 

[Bindii]

NNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

He thinks I'm a conquest doesn't he?

It certainly sounds that way. Why not turn the tables?

You think of somewhere you can go - a safe place....like a local coffee shop etc. Get to know him better in a safe environment, and it will show him that while you are interested you aren't willing to jump in bed with him on a whim...unless of course thats what you want to do?

 

[Gamelover221]

He's a bit cocky and very self-confident, that's for sure. Take that additude as you please. Sometimes I wish I could be that forward, but then that damned nice guy always come out

 

[Vilac]

NNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

He thinks I'm a conquest doesn't he?

It sounds that way. But...what exactally do you hope to gain from this "relationship" with him?

When you answer that question...you'll know what to do. <g>

V~

 

[PacificBlue]

It certainly sounds that way. Why not turn the tables?

You think of somewhere you can go - a safe place....like a local coffee shop etc. Get to know him better in a safe environment, and it will show him that while you are interested you aren't willing to jump in bed with him on a whim...unless of course thats what you want to do?

I want to be more than somebody's conquest. I deserve better. I think I'm going to be sick.

 

[Siren]

It depends on what YOU want

 

[KillerMuffin]

Well, you could give him the benefit of the doubt.

Men are pretty dense when it comes to women. He could have been reading your signals/interest incorrectly. Or he could have been so captivated by you that he lost any remnants of sense that he once possessed.

He gets off at 2, he says. If the restaurant is an all night affair and you're okay with staying up that late, go back.

Sit down there with him and have a get to know you conversation. Make sure you take the scenic route home.

Tell him in no uncertain terms that you were very put off by that comment and that you want to know what his intentions are before you decide whether or not to give up on him. Tell him that if he isn't going to your house and you aren't going to his house and if he tries to steer you in either direction you'll be leaving, don't call me.

That way you can have a communicative conversation afterwards. If you really are shy, pretend you're not.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

Is there any chance that he was trying to be funny with his comments? Or was it pretty obvious that he meant what he was saying?

 

[#1tankcomander]

PacificBlue

He's thinking conquest, definantly. Turn the tables in your favor. Dennys and Waffle House are open 24/7. So is Dunkin Donuts. Go to a public place to talk, get to know each other a little bit. Who knows, things may work out for the both of you. See if he is willing to meet you on his day off during the day in a public place. Take precautions, take a friend too if you must, but at 2 AM with no safety factor is nuts in todays society. Look at Jefery Dahamer, Ted Bundy, Jack The Ripper, John Casey and Bill Clinton. Think about it, PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Sillyman]

He sounds like a shitstain. Tell him to screw off and find yourself a nice lesbian girl.

 

[PacificBlue]

I think I'd rather wait for the guy who wants to know my last name before presuming he can get into my jeans.

Wait... I know I do.

I realize that some of my posts are directly sexual. I feel free to explore myself here. If you were to meet me in person, your first impression would probably be the same as his...shy/innocent, until you got to know me and that doesn't happen often. Packages can be deceiving and maybe that's a good thing.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Good for you!

Rub it in when you tell him to go to hell.

 

[Bindii]

I realize that some of my posts are directly sexual. I feel free to explore myself here. If you were to meet me in person, your first impression would probably be the same as his...shy/innocent, until you got to know me and that doesn't happen often. Packages can be deceiving and maybe that's a good thing.

Yep some of your posts are sexual, so are some of mine, and some of his, and some of hers...but did you notice that not one person here replied to your post saying "get in there and fuck him".

Its all about respect.

 

[daniella469]

MY opinion

I'm not saying that there isn't a possibility I could be wrong, butttttttt....I have known many men, and have much experience. From what you have shared, tonight, and previously, about this man, I will tell you what I see. This man is not interested is dating you exclusively, and perhaps may already be involved with one or more women. I stay away from men like this for several reasons. One, the fact that he suggested you sit in the office and wait for him, especially after stating there was "nothing interesting" to do in his office suggests he is a selfish lover. A more giving lover may have suggested you stay and have a glass of wine at the bar, or a meal, so he would be able to share glances, and flirt with you. Trust me when I say, this type of man is not worth the price of a condom. You will most likely be more satisfied by pleasing yourself. Two, the fact that he even suggested coming to your house uninvited, and empty handed (Not even an "I could bring a bottle of wine and...") makes me cringe. I wouldn't even give this guy my phone number. Lastly, some have basically suggested that because you are horny, you could just take him this once. I think the timing for that already has past. If either person suggests this sort of senario, there is usually an immediate yes or no. The fact that you didn't say yes right away, or suggest that he hurry back to the office where you'll be waitng for him to take you, leads me to believe you aren't that physically attracted to this man to do such things. Personally, I would let this one go. If you feel really insulted by his suggestions, I would explain to him, that you changed your mind. That although you had fun flirting with him, you don't find yourself that attracted to him anymore. That ought to make him think next time he decides to assume any woman, without a fuck me tattoo on her forehead, is easy. Good luck Pb.

Btw "persuasive"? What a turn off.

 

[Ice Cold]

Wish there were answers for you... maybe he thinks that line will work becuase he has used it so often in the are he works in, that it has become part of his personality.

Either way, no matter the reason, it was quite presumptuous and rude. Just explain to hom that you don't appreciate that kind of behavior, and see if he can change how he is...

Whatever happens good luck.

 

[PacificBlue]

I want to thank all of you for reading this and taking the time to thoughtfully answer. I appreciate that.

I'm going to take the advice of a friend and look at it in the positive. Somebody thought I was 'fuckable' and move on.

 

[Cheyenne]

Sorry, PB. I know you were so excited when he asked you out. I wish he had turned out to be everything you were looking for. At least you got to know he was a jerk before you invested too much time in the guy though.

And you aren't as shy as you think. You go to restaurants all on your own. I do that too, sometimes. It's amazing how many people WON'T do that though because they are too uncomfortable to eat alone in public. Even people who aren't shy to start with. So, you already have that skill down pat. Just find another restaurant to use it in and who knows what could happen?