I have put Lance on ignore

[cymbidia]

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?postid=2440735#post2440735
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edited because i'm all done sinking to this level of interaction on this board. I'm not ashamed of my words, however, and if you want to see them, you may do so by pm'ing/emailing me for the contents. The ignore is justified and remains.

 

[Never]

This wasn't necessary.

 

[Ebonyfire]

This wasn't necessary.

I agree.

Please do me the honor of putting me on ignore too.

Ebony

 

[Ebonyfire]

Enough is enough

I outa here.

 

[Lancecastor]

Which way to the penis removal chamber?

This wasn't necessary.

Okay then...take that...I am also putting myself on ignore!

Well, okay, maybe I'll peek at my posts now and then just to see if I can piss myself off.

~~~~~~~~~

Constructive criticism with a view to upgrading the level of discussion is apparently not welcome here.

But name-calling and muck-raking is.

The tone of any organization starts at the top.

The tone of this organization is now defined....as long as your views and tone match that of Cym and her vociferous few, you're fine.

Otherwise, you're not, and you will be singled out for shunning and nyah-nyah-nyah-nyah-nahs.

As was Artful, Writer Dom....who else?

Which way *is* the Penis Removal Chamber, by the way?

Oh, over there, next to the Exit.

Hi Grrls, I'll be right over!

In your dreams.

Lance

 

[Lancecastor]

I love the Moderators.

They are beautiful and wise in their ways.

Lance "Stepford" Castor

 

[BBD]

That's why you waved your ModWand and erased them....as opposed to the rogue post about me from "Lancecastor's Domme" the other night, which you wrote me as Mod to say you couldn't erase.

Anyone can edit/erase their own posts. I don't know whether or not a Mod can do the same to the posts of others though. Just stating for the sake of accuracy.

 

[Lancecastor]

Oh.....

Anyone can edit/erase their own posts. I don't know whether or not a Mod can do the same to the posts of others though. Just stating for the sake of accuracy.

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[MissTaken]

The original post wasn't necessary as cym and I have discussed.

Lance, your response wasn't necessary either. In fact, cym can't read it, so what is the point?


Now, to your separate corners please?

I don't come here for this and really feel, as I told cym, that some things need to remain off the boards.


Put it away.
Give it a rest.
Agree to disagree or whatever.

And just have some fucking fun, dammitall!


*Ack! The redneck in me just escaped for a brief moment!*

 

[P. B. Walker]

Not to stir anymore shit... but...

Why would a moderator put anyone on ignore? It's kind of their job to read each post, right? Just wondering...

- PBW

 

[Lancecastor]

Save your stamps....

.....here's Cym's thread-starting public post about Me, pasted below.

For the record:

1. I think her judgement is flawed in this matter;
2. I think she owes Eb a proper apology;
3. I think Moderation should be Anonymous or at the very least impartial and even-handed to avoid apprehension of bias and conflict of interest;
4. I think name calling is counter-productive to the purpose of the Board;
5. I think Cym has great knowledge and cares deeply about this space;
6. I bear no ill-will to anyone over things said in the heat of argument and expect the same in return;
7. But I also think that the Right Thing is to fess up when the smoke clears;
8. We are all entitled to our Opinions;
9. Mugging others for disagreeing with you is lame;
10. Sulking is for children, not adults.


~~~~~~~~~~~~

"Lance, this is the last time i'm going to post to you on this board.

You should know about muckraking: that's all you've done since you got here. Regular posters are staying away from this place in droves because of you. You've done more to upset harmony and cause grief to good people in the very short time that you've been here then all the rest of the trouble-causing people that have ever posted here combined.

You're a drama queen of the first order, someone for whom the anonymity of the net allows bad behavior, actions, and words you'd never say in public to anyone's face.

You grow tiresome, Lance, you and your passive-aggressive juvenile histrionics. If i could ban you from this place for being a total unmitigated pain the ass and troublemaker, i would. You should send a quick note of thanks to Laurel/Manu that their policies forbid such an action.

Instead, little-boy-running-wild, i'm going to do what i've only done to one person in the entire time i've been at Lit: i'm going to put you on ignore. You have nothing of interest to say. You only and forever wring your hands (center stage, of course, all the lights carefully aimed at you) while declaiming how terrible things are here and how you know what we all must do - and immediately! - in order to make the place wonderful and pleasant and totally cool.

Fuck that, Lance.

You've got nothing beyond hot air and cold shoulders to offer this forum. You talk a good talk and toss a lot of words in here, but all you are is a guy with a computer and a desire to run amuck in one of the only places of warmly supportive community and inherent goodness in this corner of the Lit universe.

All you want to do is wreck this place.

If you don't like it, leave.

But you're going on ignore in my life, Lance. You've got nothing of interest, nothing constructive, nothing positive to add to this place and i am all done getting upset by you or allowing you any measure of influence in my life.

Good-by, Drama Queen Lance."

~~~~~~~~~

Cym, I hope you'll reconsider your position and do the right thing, but if you don't, I respect your decision and will regret, though not be deterred, by being in your doghouse.

Cheers;
Lance

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Oh good grief....this argument has been going on for three days now. Can’t we please have a cease fire? Just a humble request, not blasting anyone, I don’t care to take sides and add to this split.

I just would really love it if this board could move on now. This place means a lot to me for furthering my growing knowledge and experience in my R/L D/s lifestyle.

Thanks for listening, ignore me if you want, I won’t argue or split hairs with anyone on this issue. JMHO & 2 cents

dixi

 

[Cirrus]

cym, that was not needed and you've just lost a LOT of respect in my eyes. I thought you had more decorum than that.

I think I'm done here too. This board was different from the GB in that we didn't have all this fighting and BS, and we used to all disagree civilly when we did. That's long gone, and so am I. I want my journey into BDSM to be a positive one, and while there are people on this board who have been great (and they are the majority) I don't need to wade through this to get and give advice.

 

[MissTaken]

I am sorry to see that Cirrus is leaving as well as anyone else who feels the need to do so.

Remember this, please.

We don't have to read the threads that get sticky. The same people that make us uncomfortable are the same people who bring years and oodles of insight and experience to the boards.

Lit is like an all you can eat buffet. Take what appeals to you and leave the rest.

I agree that the squabbling has to stop in order to preserve the integrity of the board, but I chose not to read it. Until this thread, I had no idea that these things were going on and will not read the thread leading to this sad state. By giving the in fighting as much attention as it gets. it continues and prevails. We, as a group, need to ignore it and move into what the board is about, growth, development, safety and fun. FUN! (for those who are hearing impaired. )

So, read what interests you.
Make friends with those that appeal to you.
Have fun.
Remember, we are all human.

Let's go start some more fluff!

 

[boz]

So, read what interests you.
Make friends with those that appeal to you.
Have fun.
Remember, we are all human.

Let's go start some more fluff!

I second the sentiment!

All in favor ....

 

[WriterDom]

cym

you're better than this. Give some thoughts about either taking a long lit vacation, or turning over your mod keys to someone who doesn't have to apologize for flying off the handle every other week.

 

[MissTaken]

With all due respect

could any further personal discussions on this matter be done privately.


Many of us really dont' want to read it or be involved.

With warmest intentions,

me

 

[WriterDom]

With all due respect

So a big 3 headed polar bear made you click on this thread and read it?

I'm not going to harp on it, but I don't think you have a right to tell anyone not to respond.

 

[Lancecastor]

Can we redecorate now?

So a big 3 headed polar bear made you click on this thread and read it?

I'm not going to harp on it, but I don't think you have a right to tell anyone not to respond.

I like that 3 headed polar bear line.....

The womenfolk here are fond of avoiding conflict by running away and sulking.....then hammering you en masse later.

I could postulate in Cym-like psychobabble about what that means....but in the end, it's none of my business.

The grrls will either come back and play nice...or they will come back angrier....but they will be back....no doubt with a spiked thingy for my head.

Meanwhile....can we redecorate?

Lance "Maybe Something in Mauve Leather Over...Here" Castor

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Re: Can we redecorate now?

I like that 3 headed polar bear line.....

The womenfolk here are fond of avoiding conflict by running away and sulking.....then hammering you en masse later.

I could postulate in Cym-like psychobabble about what that means....but in the end, it's none of my business.

The grrls will either come back and play nice...or they will come back angrier....but they will be back....no doubt with a spiked thingy for my head.

Meanwhile....can we redecorate?

Lance "Maybe Something in Mauve Leather Over...Here" Castor

Lance please do me the favor of not lumping all of us women in the same batch. If you will kindly note I have not attacked you, or anyone else. I have very politely stated my opinions and thoughts. This type of comment is what makes women jump and I'm sure you know that.

You strike me as an intellegent person with lots of positive things to add here. If you could just not be so defensive all the time. Just my thoughts on the matter, however, I do take offense to being called a "grrl" I am an adult and have behaved in no other fashion on this or any other board. Thank you for listening, I won't argue with you or anyone else, or split hairs on this issue.

dixi

 

[lilfrk]

dixi...

That post was for me...not you. I'm one of the ones he's referring to. I'm sincerely sorry that you got lumped with me.

Be Well~Ally

 

[SexyChele]

Re: Can we redecorate now?

I like that 3 headed polar bear line.....

The womenfolk here are fond of avoiding conflict by running away and sulking.....then hammering you en masse later.

I could postulate in Cym-like psychobabble about what that means....but in the end, it's none of my business.

The grrls will either come back and play nice...or they will come back angrier....but they will be back....no doubt with a spiked thingy for my head.

Meanwhile....can we redecorate?

Lance "Maybe Something in Mauve Leather Over...Here" Castor

Lance, I have to second dixie's request. There has only been one time that I "jumped" on you and that was in regards to the picture sending incident. And I even preceded that by stating that I was actually starting to get to like you.

But when you lump all of us into the same bag, you are making me feel as though, without really knowing me all that well, you are making a judgement about me. If I've done something that was interpreted as mean-spirited towards you, then please, PM me and we can discuss it.


lilfrk, in the quote above he is stating, "The womenfolk here..." I consider myself to be a "womanfolk" and I'm "here", therefore, I have to take his words as being directed towards me. It is a gross generalization, something I thought was supposed to be avoided here.

*Thinking maybe she needs to take a Lit BDSM break.*

 

[Lancecastor]

Re: Re: Can we redecorate now?

Lance, I have to second dixie's request. There has only been one time that I "jumped" on you and that was in regards to the picture sending incident. And I even preceded that by stating that I was actually starting to get to like you.

But when you lump all of us into the same bag, you are making me feel as though, without really knowing me all that well, you are making a judgement about me. If I've done something that was interpreted as mean-spirited towards you, then please, PM me and we can discuss it.


lilfrk, in the quote above he is stating, "The womenfolk here..." I consider myself to be a "womanfolk" and I'm "here", therefore, I have to take his words as being directed towards me. It is a gross generalization, something I thought was supposed to be avoided here.

*Thinking maybe she needs to take a Lit BDSM break.*

I was not referring to either or any of you three estrogen enhanced carbon based life forms.

Have you folks ever thought about a career on a senate subcommittee?



Lance

 

[sexy-girl]

my two pence (we have pence in england not cents )


if cym wants to put lance on ignore that's up to her ... its nothing to do with her being a mod its her being the poster cymbidia she stated she didn't want to discuss it so lets just leave it maybe she'll keep him on ignore maybe she wont but doesn't need a big debate its up to her


also i dont know lance very well at all but he has as much right to be a member of literotica as cymbidia does or me or yayati does ... maybe some people dont like him but i dont see much point in using this time to have a go at him because i know cymbidia she wouldn't want to make a huge deal out of this she did what she had to do to end the arguing maybe some won't agree with her methods but in the end she did it to stop the fighting


lance is probably feeling high strung at the moment understandable some might say and maybe everyone else is so lets just have a cooling off period try and not get involved in any arguments for say 24 hours lets see if we can do it together


that includes about lance "lumping all women together" lets just put it down to him being high strung at the moment with cymbidia


of course you're all free to ignore me and have as many arguments as you want or call me nasty names ... actually that might be a good idea if your feeling angry just call me an idiot for making this post i promise i'll take it good natured ... i suggest attacking me on my grammar or lack of punctuation i know both are very bad

 

[Lancecastor]

Thanks

my two pence (we have pence in england not cents )


if cym wants to put lance on ignore that's up to her ... its nothing to do with her being a mod its her being the poster cymbidia she stated she didn't want to discuss it so lets just leave it maybe she'll keep him on ignore maybe she wont but doesn't need a big debate its up to her


also i dont know lance very well at all but he has as much right to be a member of literotica as cymbidia does or me or yayati does ... maybe some people dont like him but i dont see much point in using this time to have a go at him because i know cymbidia she wouldn't want to make a huge deal out of this she did what she had to do to end the arguing maybe some won't agree with her methods but in the end she did it to stop the fighting


lance is probably feeling high strung at the moment understandable some might say and maybe everyone else is so lets just have a cooling off period try and not get involved in any arguments for say 24 hours lets see if we can do it together


that includes about lance "lumping all women together" lets just put it down to him being high strung at the moment with cymbidia


of course you're all free to ignore me and have as many arguments as you want or call me nasty names ... actually that might be a good idea if your feeling angry just call me an idiot for making this post i promise i'll take it good natured ... i suggest attacking me on my grammar or lack of punctuation i know both are very bad

Thanks for those words of reason.

I don't feel right about people leaving after dusting up with me, and I'm not keen on mud, but I don't feel high strung....I dont think so, anyway.

I do however find it mildly to very exasperating to find myself nearly continuously having to re-explain my posts.

I'm a very strong communicator in all mediums; print, public speaking, online, tv and radio. It's a very large part of what I do and who I am. My grammar, syntax, spelling, comprehension and vocabulary all test top-notch and always have.

I'm also considered reasonably bright.

So, I'm left with:

1. It's a Venus Mars thing;
2. I'm a big asshole here but not elsewhere;
3. I'm not being understood;
4. I'm not making myself understood;
5. I'm being fucked with.

My guess is it's all and/or some of those things in varying ratios depending on the reader, the thread, and the phase of the moon, combined with my chi at any given time.

I don't know what else to say except....thanks again.

Cheers;
Lance