I have not been myself lately

[MissTaken]

Of course, that leads to the question, "Who have I been?"

Actually, I have tried to avoid posting this, but as it happens, a number of comments have been made that compel me to bring personal information to the board. I have not been posting well and have neglected to post on threads that I should have. I have been a bit reclusive with some rays of openess.

Two weeks ago, my doctor found a tumor in my bladder. It is treatable and will require follow up for a very long time. He is 99 percent certain it is cancer. We will know soon as I am having it removed tomorrow.

While the outlook is good, far better than most in my family, I have had an opportunity to rethink my life, adjust my priorities and ponder what it means for a 36 year old single mom to be diagnosed with cancer.

So, I apologize for not following through with the NY Lit gathering plans, yet. I will do so. I apologize for not responding to some friends pm's and posts and apologize for anything bitchy I may have thrown around the board.

I also apologize to anyone who has or is suffering from far worse experiences with cancer. This is NOT intended to be a pity me thread. It is intended to be an apology.

Be well

Miss T

 

[Summery]

You know, the more I get to know you through your posts, the more I adore you MissT.
You ever need to vent, or someone just to listen, PLEASE feel free to PM me anytime.
All positive thoughts for you sweetie and lots of *Hugs*

 

[roxie]

My prayers are with you MissT. Get well soon

 

[Calamity Jane]

I don't think we've ever really spoken, but my thoughts are with you. I wish you strength in the days that follow.

 

[lavender]

 

[modest mouse]

Miss T,

Don't allow concern for the board to take up too much of your time. Your energy should be with yourself and with your family. Remember to lean on those that are close to you when the need arises.

Now take a deep breath and kick Cancer's ass like it was that kid who stole your Twinkie in 3rd grade.

(Sorry, my own flashback, there.)

 

[nasty]

I wish you all the best. I'm SO glad that your cancer can be treated. I don't speak to you often, but, I'm glad that I have you as a "Net" friend.

 

[estevie]

Damn, MissT, I am sorry to hear that. I hope all goes well tomorrow and in the months to come. Please keep us posted! My thoughts and prayers are with you!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Lit has become family to me, and you are included in my prayers for successful surgery and recuperation. Keep good thoughts, and know you have plenty of people sending their best to you.

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you all, very much.

I promise to be more "myself" soon.

When I figure out who that is! lol

*hugs*

 

[celiaKitten]

*hugs* my thoughts are with you MissT, and don't worry about Lit - everyone should understand perfectly.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Sending best wishes and hugs for all you wish for.......

 

[geri]

all of this going on in your life and you still took time out for a couple of newbies to make them feel welcome to the board. You are a special kind of lady, MissTaken and I am glad to have been able to chat on the board with you no matter how limited that chatting was.

God bless and be well.

 

[Wizard]

You have friends here that care about you and wish you well........................

We are on your side and right with ya in thoughts........

 

[Debbie]

Thank you all, very much.

I promise to be more "myself" soon.

When I figure out who that is! lol

*hugs*

Chickie babe. You are a sweetheart. And a good friend.

Sending positive thoughts and a big *hug.*

 

[cymbidia]

Darlin'? One need never ever apologize for tending to the sometimes-overwhelming minituia that we all have to deal with in our normal ordinary everyday healthy lives at the expense of pouring our selves into the slipstream Lit community.

When you factor into our everyday lives anything at all unusual, anything saddening or catastrophic or even outrageously joyous, then we're left with something not fitting into our usual day.

So we pull back from what's not essential and focus on surviving and surmounting the cream-pie-in-face that life has thrown at us.

There are no apologies necessary, my friend.

Concentrate on doing whatever is necessary for your kids and yourself in the coming weeks. We'll be here when you want us, for quick pop-ins or more lengthy visits; we'll be here.

Please keep us posted, though, about your challenges.
We care.

b.

 

[Mae13]

Thank you all, very much.

I promise to be more "myself" soon.

When I figure out who that is! lol

*hugs*

Aaah, but aren't you always yourself? Just a different facet, perhaps...

Bright blessings to you dear. Have safe surgery tomorrow, and long health after that...

*hugs*
Katie

 

[LRC]

Sending only best wishes an positive thoughts to you

Good Luck tomorrow Miss T

 

[on_the_verge]

With affection and respect for a friend

Miss T,

I am so sorry and feel such a deepness that you are going through so much and that there is this unkowning of turn abouts. You had always been there for me as an online friend and shared a great deal—thank you! I just hope their is the most positive news for you and the people in your life. You know how to get in touch if you need and require an open heart and ear.

Best,
Verge

 

[lilminx]

Miss T,
I'm so sorry to hear about that. My father currently has bladder cancer that has spread to his ribs and liver, and is currently receiving chemo for it. He seems to be doing well.

As others have said, don't feel the need to apologize for having to tend to things going on in your life. Your health is above all! If you can't organize the NY Lit gathering, then pass it on to someone who can, or postpone it until you are better.

I will be thinking of you, and hoping for your health to improve.

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you for understanding.

Lit is an amazing community whereby we do, in fact, make genuine friends and develop solid ties.

For that reason, I felt a need to let people know as I know of hurt feelings and expectations not being met.

As always, you are a wonderful bunch of very real people.

hugs

 

[Jimi]

Sometimes someone says it better

all of this going on in your life and you still took time out for a couple of newbies to make them feel welcome to the board. You are a special kind of lady, MissTaken and I am glad to have been able to chat on the board with you no matter how limited that chatting was.

God bless and be well.

How can one improve on this... Yes, MissT - you have done the same for this newbie - remember that my prayers will be with you tomorrow, as well..

Affectionately,

Jimi

 

[Guest]

Many prayers are with you, my dear. This really is a great community. I am tearful just typing this. Nuff said.

 

[Jaded1]

Miss t...............

I have only had the great fortune to play on the same thread with you a couple of times. I enjoyed each time. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to know you. However, I feel this friendship is not over. I wish you the very best and hope to see you here a long while Here are some of these too

A friend.
Jaded1, CT

 

[MissTaken]

I will be here. Please understand, it is treatable.

It is just time to make some lifestyle changes and get to know my doctor damn well.

The emotional part is what weighs heavily. Hmm I wonder if they could call it something else.

<<I have lost several relatives at young ages to cancer. Hence, the self absorbed, whine ass routine.>>


Thank you again, lit.