KenAndSara
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- Sep 18, 2014
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to be something irresistible. The first time that I found that it existed, it almost made me nauseated. I mean, who would be so mean to screw around on you and tell you about it - it sounded almost cruel. But, after a while, something about the idea grew on me. I came to a few realizations, and I wanted to tell you what does it for me:
1)guys (come on, you know you are with me on this one) are told that they have to be the pursuers. We have to seek out sex partners and bed as many women as possible to show our prowess. Of course, we all pretty much know that the women are the gatekeepers of sex (a man goes on a date wondering if there will be sex, a woman knows), so the pressure is on to get some. By seeing a woman in that dominant position, thinking about sex like a guy, it's a radical shuffling of the order, taking some of the pressure off of us as men.
Plus, think about many of the women you have known in high school or college. They loved the 'bad boy' - the guy who had sex with lots of women and wasn't afraid to brag about it. Many women are drawn to a 'player' because he is expected to have a lot of sexual prowess. The same thing applies to a woman, no? Someone who can give a blowjob that will melt your mind...
2) Men are very visually attuned. We watch porn. Seeing the woman we care about as a porn actress for us (for those who can watch) or imagining her in the body of a hot xxx actress getting it on is a huge turn on.
3) Biologically, we're geared to compete as men for women. Knowing something is a sure thing any time we want can lead to a lot of complacency and we take our women for granted. Knowing that someone is out there on the prowl, looking to make that special woman in our lives amps up the competition reflex, getting us hornier and more willing to compete for her attention.
This also comes into play with the humiliation aspect of the cuckoldry fetish. If she comments about how big the other guy is and how many times she came with him, that becomes incentive to work harder at making sex something mind blowing for both participants.
4) The denial of sex when we want it is also a huge part of it. She is out spending her energy fucking other guys, which means she won't be wanting sex with you. That denial over and over again cranks up the desire, and makes the future encounter that much sweeter. That's also some of the attraction I am finding in reading about male chastity cages - being unable to control your release, and giving the key to her for when she decides to make the magic happen is a huge turn on - keeping both of your minds on sex more than just on a passing basis. And, if she wears the key in a strategic place (on a chain dangling in her cleavage or on a sexy anklet), it makes everything that much more hot.
Now, some parts of the lifestyle leave me scratching my head. Cuckoldresses wanting to have the children of their bulls instead of their husbands... not sure what the deal is with that, other than the complete surrender to a mistress, but to each his or her own.
1)guys (come on, you know you are with me on this one) are told that they have to be the pursuers. We have to seek out sex partners and bed as many women as possible to show our prowess. Of course, we all pretty much know that the women are the gatekeepers of sex (a man goes on a date wondering if there will be sex, a woman knows), so the pressure is on to get some. By seeing a woman in that dominant position, thinking about sex like a guy, it's a radical shuffling of the order, taking some of the pressure off of us as men.
Plus, think about many of the women you have known in high school or college. They loved the 'bad boy' - the guy who had sex with lots of women and wasn't afraid to brag about it. Many women are drawn to a 'player' because he is expected to have a lot of sexual prowess. The same thing applies to a woman, no? Someone who can give a blowjob that will melt your mind...
2) Men are very visually attuned. We watch porn. Seeing the woman we care about as a porn actress for us (for those who can watch) or imagining her in the body of a hot xxx actress getting it on is a huge turn on.
3) Biologically, we're geared to compete as men for women. Knowing something is a sure thing any time we want can lead to a lot of complacency and we take our women for granted. Knowing that someone is out there on the prowl, looking to make that special woman in our lives amps up the competition reflex, getting us hornier and more willing to compete for her attention.
This also comes into play with the humiliation aspect of the cuckoldry fetish. If she comments about how big the other guy is and how many times she came with him, that becomes incentive to work harder at making sex something mind blowing for both participants.
4) The denial of sex when we want it is also a huge part of it. She is out spending her energy fucking other guys, which means she won't be wanting sex with you. That denial over and over again cranks up the desire, and makes the future encounter that much sweeter. That's also some of the attraction I am finding in reading about male chastity cages - being unable to control your release, and giving the key to her for when she decides to make the magic happen is a huge turn on - keeping both of your minds on sex more than just on a passing basis. And, if she wears the key in a strategic place (on a chain dangling in her cleavage or on a sexy anklet), it makes everything that much more hot.
Now, some parts of the lifestyle leave me scratching my head. Cuckoldresses wanting to have the children of their bulls instead of their husbands... not sure what the deal is with that, other than the complete surrender to a mistress, but to each his or her own.
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