I have an announcement to make!

[Guest]

O.k. I actually have a confession to make.
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I'm married =OP
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I have been in my marriage for about three years now but here's the kicker....ready?
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I'm going to be a first time daddy
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My wife and I found out a few days ago and man am I freaked. But I've been assured by a number of people that I and my wife will make great parents.
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I just wanted to let all of you wonderful people know. Hell, I haven't even told my mother yet, so feel honored......it's a token of how much you people mean to me.
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Well, I gotta go for a while. I have to stock up on first time daddy lierature. I'd look here, but I don't think I'd get very far

 

[MissTaken]

Ohhhh


Congratulations Mig!

Welcome to the most intense journey of your life.


That little one certainly will be lucky to have you for a dad.

 

[milkit]

Good luck why are you a 'guest' ??

 

[Jewelz]

Awww congratulations!!! You are about to embark on the most priceless and precious gift given to man or woman! (aside from great sex lol)....I wish you and your wife the best and an uneventful pregnancy, labor and delivery!!

Im so excited, I love babies!! LOL ....have 3 lil girls of my own! all under age 6 !

 

[RawHumor]

Congrats, man! I have two words for you: SLEEP NOW!

LOL Tell your wife that too - from now on, sleep will be considered a luxury rather than something that you take for granted.

 

[Guest]

answering you....

Good luck why are you a 'guest' ??

I am a bit freaked out by the internet. I'm not phobic or anything, just a little nervous.

 

[milkit]

Re: answering you....

I am a bit freaked out by the internet. I'm not phobic or anything, just a little nervous.

Ah cool I undrestand I hope it all goes well for you and your wife

 

[SexyAmber]

BULLY!!!

Congratulations Sweet to your and your wife~

 

[Savant73]

Congratulations! I hope al goes well during this rather, umm ackward time of adjusment, fr you. Sleep = good. A Grocery store that delivers = gift from god. Especially if they carry the most esoteric flavors of ice cream known to man.

(I had nothing to do with it...really...)

 

[Gilly Bean]

Congratulations!


Make sure you remember a few key rules to pregnant women (coming from a recently pregnant one)

1: Her emotions and hormone levels are going to be on a roller coaster. Just because she said one thing two days ago, doesn't mean she still feels or thinks that. Be sensitive to her emotions, and you should fare fine.

2: Don't tell her how huge she looks. When she complains of being to big, tell her it's just more of her to love, and that she is just as beautiful to you, as the day you met her.

3: Food cravings at 2am are normal. Try to have her pick out things she likes when you go to the grocery store, but also keep in mind that cheese hot dogs and coke might not have appealed to her when you were shopping, but at 2am, they are a must. (that was my craving during pregnancy #2)

4: Keep in mind that she is going to feel rather out of whack for close to a year now. Take time to pamper her now, while you are able to without kids. Take time to remind her how much you love her. If she starts to cry for no reason, hold her. If she gets cranky because of a seamingly small thing, remember that it's not to her, and try to accomodate as much as possible.

5: She can't drink now (if she did before) so keep that in mind when you decide to have a beer after work, or want to order drinks with dinner. Keep in mind that you are doing something she can't do.

6: If she doesn't feel 'in the mood' don't press the issue. Let her become comfortable with it first.





Good luck to both of you, and again, congratulations!

 

[RawHumor]

Make sure you remember a few key rules to pregnant women (coming from a recently pregnant one)

1: Her emotions and hormone levels are going to be on a roller coaster. Just because she said one thing two days ago, doesn't mean she still feels or thinks that.

But Gilly, isn't that the case with women ALL the time?


Seriously though, it's true. I have to add a couple though:

Don't be surprised if she asks you why you're in a bad mood 100 times a day, whether you are or not. She's feeling hormonal and imbalanced. It's normal.

Don't be surprised when complete and total strangers come up and want to feel her stomach (with or without asking) and offer (read, GIVE) free unsolicited advice on what she's eating, wearing, doing (amount of exercise, you're letting her carry that?, etc), or any other personal choise that she thought was private.

Don't be surprised when she goes gaga over any item of clothing that's small (e.g. baby shoes, baby jeans, or whatever) because they're so CUTE!

Read a book called "What to Expect When Your Wife is Expanding" - it will help you keep a sense of humor by realizing that you two aren't the first in history to go through the things you're going through.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Also.... for her, What to Expect when your Expecting!


Awesome book, breaks down SO much of what is going on, what kind of tests doctors do, and why they are important, what will happen at check-up's, what foods are good, bad, what kinds might settle stomaches, etc.

 

[Guest]

a word of thanks

Thank you. I knew posting this thread would be fun and invaluable. So far, we (I should say, she) are in the very early stages of pregnancy. The doctor calculated about 6 1/2 weeks, bringing us to an even/odd seven weeks so far.

The one thing that kinda killed our euphoria was when the doctor said that the first 10 weeks are the touchy ones, because in that time miscarriages are not uncommon

We're thinking good thoughts, though, and I am appreciating the advice and support from all of you.

I'll keep you posted as to the progress

 

[Guest]

Also.... for her, What to Expect when your Expecting!


Awesome book, breaks down SO much of what is going on, what kind of tests doctors do, and why they are important, what will happen at check-up's, what foods are good, bad, what kinds might settle stomaches, etc.

That was the very first thing we bought (lol). Thank you, though

 

[Gilly Bean]

The first 10 weeks or so, it is more common for a miscarriage. However, if your wife is healthy, eating right, limiting strain, and has little, or no, history of miscarriage in her family, then I wouldn't worry to much. Also, make certain there is no smoking, drugs, or drinking. My sister-in-law has had 3 miscarriages in the past two years, and the doctor directly linked it to all those reasons. She just never felt she had to stop enjoying herself, and she paid for that. She is now pregnant (again) and must have learned, because she is at 4 months, and hasn't lost the baby yet.


As I said, it's not really a big thing that you should let worry you to much. Keep the stress levels in the house down as much as possible, don't let her do anything strenous that she wouldn't normally do. By that, I mean, if she normally carries a load of laundry down the steps, then she still can, unless it hurts her back to do so. Don't step in, and try to make her live in a glass bubble during this, let her do things she would normally do, physically.


And just think... in 3 weeks, the chances are cut down dramatically. That's not that long to wait, considering how long the pregnancy will be. And once you hear a heart beat, then the chances fall more. at the 12-14 week period, it falls to almost gone. I am sure you guys will make it past that with no problems.




Gilly

 

[Guest]

And just think... in 3 weeks, the chances are cut down dramatically. That's not that long to wait, considering how long the pregnancy will be. And once you hear a heart beat, then the chances fall more. at the 12-14 week period, it falls to almost gone. I am sure you guys will make it past that with no problems.




Gilly

Again, thanks for the words of encouragement. They mean a lot, and are helpful.
As for the glass bubble......I've already been acting like a worried dad. I've helped her, this past week, to stop drinking Mountain Dew. She was kinda addicted (what am I saying was for??? She's going through withdrawls already ::lol: I have been rubbing her almost constantly, but when the weather lightens up a bit, we agreed to go for walks nightly.
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I hope your sister continues to do well. Life, as we all know, can be tough. It sounds like she may be taking it more seriously these days.

right back atcha

 

[Cibo]

Hey grats man. I'm sure you 2 will make great parents.

 

[Quisath]

Congratulations..........

Wishing you and The Wife a Wonderful Experience. Your excitement will increase Ten Fold when the Child is craddled in your Arms. It's like no other feeling. Good Luck to you and the Missus.

 

[Mae13]

OOOH!

How did I miss this?!?! It must have been when I was taking a few days hiatus!

CONGRATULATIONS BULLY!! *HUGHUGHUGHUG*

How wonderful for you. What a sacred and wonderful thing for the two of you to be going through!

Although I don't think your doctor was very tactful in the way they phrased about the first 10 weeks! While it's true that miscarriages can happen, and they most often happen in that time frame, there is no reason for you or her to walk on eggshells and worry about every little thing! Like the Mountain Dew thing...it depends on if she could do it or not, and only she would know it...but one every now and again is ok. It's ok if she has a nip of caffeine here or there, just not every day. Same with alcohol. A glass of wine isn't bad, but a few, or one every day or so....sort of avoid that. It can be extremely stressing to all of a sudden go around thinking she can't have a single bit of ANYTHING she enjoyed before! (And that includes sex, lol!)

Women are healthy, hearty, strong and built with the parts to protect and nurture a child. We do not suddenly become weak, fragile creatures at the moment of conception! She can exercise, and be active, and carry things, and do most all of the same things she has done before. In fact, the more active she is, the better it will be for her and your child (especially in the L&D arena!).

I know, lots of blab from someone who has never had a child. But I worked L&D for a while, and taught childbirthing classes...so I have the "outside scoop" so to speak!! Since you aren't registered, I can't PM you this offer...but I think you've got a wonderful forum here to bring up questions or concerns! Folks with answers and advice from all sides of the spectrum! Who woulda thought from a 'porn board'...right?

The one thing I would ask/recommend/advise though...for the sake of all involved, is to PREPARE for the experience of Labor and Delivery. Whether this be self-taught, or done through a childbirthing class, I don't think it matters. It just boggled me how many people did NOTHING to prepare themselves for one of the biggest events of their life. I'm sure they would study up a storm for a college final, but did no learning related to their potential labor experience!! You're already getting books, that's great! What to Expect is the one I give out to our new pregnant ladies in my OB class here And please, PLEASE still consider other ways to focus and deal with childbirthing than epidural. I am not suggesting to not get one, not at all. But I noticed in my childbirthing classes, some women would sit there and tell me "Well I'm getting an epidural, so I don't have to worry about learning any Lamaze breathing or other forms of pain managment". *sigh* There is a window of opportunity for an epidural, and some women miss it. It's always good to have a second plan (and maybe a third, fourth, etc!) for this, and BE FLEXIBLE! It's a wild ride, but the end result is a pretty neat gift, I think

Sorry to blab for so long, I would have dumped this into a PM if I could have! CONGRATS again hon!!!

*happy hugs* (and missing L&D a little bit now, hehe!)
mae

 

[wildflowerblooms]

congratulations!!! children are a blessing.......

 

[Chazzs]

Congratulations, I wish your wife and the baby well. And for you a level head as your bride goes through the emotional rollercoaster. She will come out of it and you will have a beautiful bouncing baby. So cuddle with your wife now or more if she is up to it. Then a few months from now start talking to the baby. He or she will recongnize your voice after she/he is born. Love them lots!