I hate this bitch

[Liana26]

T has a sister, we'll call her the rat, that for no reason at all, hates me with an undying passion. As a result of this, I hate her with an undying passion. The first time I met her, I was at T's house and she COMPLETELY ignored me. Like I was two feet away from her, and she didn't so much as glance to acknowledge my presence. So I force-grabbed her attention and said hi when she finally looked in my general direction. And she looks at me as if she had no idea I was there, and then returns the hello in a rude, uninterested sort of way.

Since then, she's been trying to get T to leave me. Seriously, EVERY time we talk on the phone he has another story about how she said I was a bitch, or that he can do better than me, he needs to leave me, he should date someone she picks out, and so on and so forth. It's getting to the point where I want to snap that replica of a drowned rat's neck in two. I never did not one goddam thing to her, so why the fuck does she hate me? I guess some people are just like that...

Well, now that I got that off my chest, does anyone have a similar story they'd like to share?

 

[TaintedB]

No stories that I want to share, but I do have a suggestion: why not ask T not to talk with you anymore about this person so that it stops disturbing you? Kind of "put her on ignore," like you can do with a lit poster who bugs you?

Some people just rub each other the wrong way. Getting to the reasons for it can be hard if they are unconscious ones, and sometimes there's no clear reason whatsoever.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Maybe try to break the circle of hatred by seeking a detente and communication. You are a humon, not a pitbull.

 

[Xelebes]

Maybe try to break the circle of hatred by seeking a detente and communication. You are a humon, not a pitbull.

Have diplomats ready to co-ordinate the communications and the treatise to which you shall both sign in agreement.

 

[petboy]

she sound like someone id want dominating me!

 

[Liana26]

she sound like someone id want dominating me!

If listening to a spoiled, selfish, whiny brat that apparently never learned any manners is what turns you on, then far be it from me to judge.

Maybe try to break the circle of hatred by seeking a detente and communication. You are a humon, not a pitbull.

Well, I am considering getting her a gift when I go to Austria. Because as much as she boils my blood right now, I would like for us to get along some day.

 

[TaintedB]

Well, I am considering getting her a gift when I go to Austria. Because as much as she boils my blood right now, I would like for us to get along some day.

If I had had this experience, I would never personally trust or like this woman, but you know, it might be kind of a fun oersonal challenge to see if you could make her like you. Pour on the sugar every time she's an ass to you, give her gifts, like you suggested above, draw her out and show fascinated interest at anything she says, compliment her, and the like. Might turn something really bitter into a fun game! But having seen what sort of petty response she is capable of toward a stranger, I would not, if I were you, ever let my guard down and trust her with anything important.

 

[rosco rathbone]

pitbull^^^^^

 

[TaintedB]

pitbull^^^^^

Fuck you, Rosco! I'm just giving her bad ideas. I never do that sort of thing myself, of course.

 

[landcruisergal]

T has a sister, we'll call her the rat, that for no reason at all, hates me with an undying passion. As a result of this, I hate her with an undying passion. The first time I met her, I was at T's house and she COMPLETELY ignored me. Like I was two feet away from her, and she didn't so much as glance to acknowledge my presence. So I force-grabbed her attention and said hi when she finally looked in my general direction. And she looks at me as if she had no idea I was there, and then returns the hello in a rude, uninterested sort of way.

Since then, she's been trying to get T to leave me. Seriously, EVERY time we talk on the phone he has another story about how she said I was a bitch, or that he can do better than me, he needs to leave me, he should date someone she picks out, and so on and so forth. It's getting to the point where I want to snap that replica of a drowned rat's neck in two. I never did not one goddam thing to her, so why the fuck does she hate me? I guess some people are just like that...

Well, now that I got that off my chest, does anyone have a similar story they'd like to share?

only work related, my best defence is to kill the bitch with kindness.
Be nice to her.Try to appear genuine, not sarcastic.
That throws it right back in her face.
She will soon realise she isnt hurting you anymore.
Also you will then make it HER problem, not yours and everyone else will see it that way too.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

T has a sister, we'll call her the rat, that for no reason at all, hates me with an undying passion. As a result of this, I hate her with an undying passion. The first time I met her, I was at T's house and she COMPLETELY ignored me. Like I was two feet away from her, and she didn't so much as glance to acknowledge my presence. So I force-grabbed her attention and said hi when she finally looked in my general direction. And she looks at me as if she had no idea I was there, and then returns the hello in a rude, uninterested sort of way.

Since then, she's been trying to get T to leave me. Seriously, EVERY time we talk on the phone he has another story about how she said I was a bitch, or that he can do better than me, he needs to leave me, he should date someone she picks out, and so on and so forth. It's getting to the point where I want to snap that replica of a drowned rat's neck in two. I never did not one goddam thing to her, so why the fuck does she hate me? I guess some people are just like that...

Well, now that I got that off my chest, does anyone have a similar story they'd like to share?

I have had situations like this one before. My personal approach?? Kill em with kindness as well as ignoring any and all rude, sarcastic comments made to or about me. Simply put, feeding into the negativity allows the other person to keep control of the situation. Believe me, we don't that.

If and when that no longer works, beat her ass. At least if you're beatin' her ass, she knows where you stand. True, violence is not mandatory in most cases, but when it's called for..make your point forcefully and then let it go. Sweetness and light don't always save the day..no matter how we might want it to.

 

[landcruisergal]

I have had situations like this one before. My personal approach?? Kill em with kindness as well as ignoring any and all rude, sarcastic comments made to or about me. Simply put, feeding into the negativity allows the other person to keep control of the situation. Believe me, we don't that.

If and when that no longer works, beat her ass. At least if you're beatin' her ass, she knows where you stand. True, violence is not mandatory in most cases, but when it's called for..make your point forcefully and then let it go. Sweetness and light don't always save the day..no matter how we might want it to.

Too true...Sometimes you have to confront your adversaries.
Just be thankful Luna_Wolf isn't one of them *grins*

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Too true...Sometimes you have to confront your adversaries.
Just be thankful Luna_Wolf isn't one of them *grins*

*looks around, bats eyelashes*
I wouldn't hurt a flea..just look at my innocent expression...

 

[DVS]

T has a sister, we'll call her the rat, that for no reason at all, hates me with an undying passion. As a result of this, I hate her with an undying passion. The first time I met her, I was at T's house and she COMPLETELY ignored me. Like I was two feet away from her, and she didn't so much as glance to acknowledge my presence. So I force-grabbed her attention and said hi when she finally looked in my general direction. And she looks at me as if she had no idea I was there, and then returns the hello in a rude, uninterested sort of way.

Since then, she's been trying to get T to leave me. Seriously, EVERY time we talk on the phone he has another story about how she said I was a bitch, or that he can do better than me, he needs to leave me, he should date someone she picks out, and so on and so forth. It's getting to the point where I want to snap that replica of a drowned rat's neck in two. I never did not one goddam thing to her, so why the fuck does she hate me? I guess some people are just like that...

Well, now that I got that off my chest, does anyone have a similar story they'd like to share?

Most people are suggesting you be overly kind to her. Sure, that might work, but it takes time.

If it were me, I'd force the encounter. Just you and her. Talk to her straight. Find out what the problem is and what can be done to fix it. It's not really a knock down drag out fight, but it could get everything out into the open so you know what you're up against. You can't fight what you can't see.

I assume you've asked T if if this woman has said anything that you have done to her. Sometimes people create the enemy and also create the reason they are enemies. You could check other friends or relatives to see if she has mentioned why she hates you so. There has to be a reason, or she's just whacko. Even if she's wacko, there should be a reason.

You mention she is a sister. Was she the only or favorite sister, before you came along? Maybe it's some form of jealousy. Could she hate you because you get more of T's time than she does? If they are the only children, it's possible. Or, maybe she has a friend who likes T.

 

[Liana26]

You mention she is a sister. Was she the only or favorite sister, before you came along? Maybe it's some form of jealousy. Could she hate you because you get more of T's time than she does? If they are the only children, it's possible. Or, maybe she has a friend who likes T.

They have another sister. She's a little bit older but I know T gets along with her better than the rat. Also, me and the older sister get along great. And the rat did mention something about how T should date someone from her class, so it's possible that someone she knows likes him. Of course, if that was the case, you'd figure she'd be nicer to him.

 

[Liana26]

If I had had this experience, I would never personally trust or like this woman, but you know, it might be kind of a fun oersonal challenge to see if you could make her like you. Pour on the sugar every time she's an ass to you, give her gifts, like you suggested above, draw her out and show fascinated interest at anything she says, compliment her, and the like. Might turn something really bitter into a fun game! But having seen what sort of petty response she is capable of toward a stranger, I would not, if I were you, ever let my guard down and trust her with anything important.

We are SO on the same page...

 

[rosco rathbone]

Fuck you, Rosco! I'm just giving her bad ideas. I never do that sort of thing myself, of course.

[deniro] fuck me? fuck ME????[/deniro]

 

[Liana26]

[deniro] fuck me? fuck ME????[/deniro]

I LOVE Deniro... of course, not as much as Pacino

 

[TaintedB]

I LOVE Deniro... of course, not as much as Pacino

DeNiro, Pacino, and...Hoffman! Now there's a trinity I'd get down on my knees and pray to.

 

[TaintedB]

[deniro] fuck me? fuck ME????[/deniro]

That's a good DiNiro. I saw him turning over the dinner table when I read that...just like my dear old dad used to do.

 

[Liana26]

Okay... this is getting out of hand. I was going to take everyone's advice (and probably still will but it'll be a helluva lot harder now) and be unconditionally nice to this bitch when I get back to Alabama in August. I even bought her a Swarovski bracelet in her favorite color. I know that she didn't know about that, but this is so you know that I really was gonna try. So anyway, Tyler was doing a portrait of me. He's a very good painter. And one day he comes home and finds it slashed. So he asks her if she did it, and she smiles, and said that yes, she did. Oh, and this has nothing to do with me, but she threw her sister's small dog across the room. This is one sick, sick bitch...

 

[TaintedB]

The biggest problem here seems to be Tyler's relationship with this woman. It seems almost like he is acting like a borderline personality and "spliting" with you two.

 

[BlueSugar]

yes.

My best friend and I had a history once upon a time ... 5 years later to the current time, and rewinded a few months ago to his now ex girlfriend...

she hated me. HATED me, and told him to never talk to me ever again, that I was untrust worthy and i was trying to break them up. I wouldn't ever do such a thing, I even supported their relationship whole heartedly.
She hated me for no other reason other then she felt she couldn't trust me and that I was her guy's best friend.

They eventually broke up, and he apologised to me.
She started a rumor that I was pregnant.

No one believed her - and everyone went on their merry ways.

 

[Liana26]

The biggest problem here seems to be Tyler's relationship with this woman. It seems almost like he is acting like a borderline personality and "spliting" with you two.

Well, I never really thought about it that way. She apologized to him for the painting, and I asked him to tell her that I know there's a lot of tension between us but I'm gonna try as hard as I can to make peace. She said okay, but of course, this does not at all mean I'll ever let my guard down around her. I'm just hoping that she'll stop her futile attempt to ruin our relationship (seriously, what the hell could she have possibly imagined that would accomplish?) now that she knows I'm seeking a detente, as Roscoe said.

And I just want to thank everyone for their advice, because although it seems incredibly obvious, I never would've thought of the kill em with kindness solution on my own.

 

[Liana26]

She started a rumor that I was pregnant.

No one believed her - and everyone went on their merry ways.

See, now how the hell do people think that something like that's going to solve their problems? I bet if anything, that lie just made people talk about what a lunatic she was. Of course, I am only assuming.