I got another letter in the mail today...

[Lancecastor]

...from a woman I dated in the spring of the year; I ended our dating on a friendly basis in the summer.

We haven't seen each other or had contact since then.

The break was clean, crisp, clear and politely final....at least I thought it was.

But she sends a love letter every few weeks, which I don't acknowledge. The last one, a few weeks ago, I opened, but didn't read the whole thing.

At this point, I'm wondering if I should pop today's unopened letter in a return envelope with a note politely explaining that I cannot accept her love letters...or should I do nothing.

She's a lovely woman; I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to let her think that my silence gives her hope, either.

I don't feel I have any positive responsibility to shoulder in this, but I'm wondering what the current preferred method for dealing with this situation might be from a woman's perspective, as I'd like to do the mannerly thing and cause no harm.

Suggestions?

Thanks

Lance

 

[miles]

...from a woman I dated in the spring of the year; I ended our dating on a friendly basis in the summer.

We haven't seen each other or had contact since then.

The break was clean, crisp, clear and politely final....at least I thought it was.

But she sends a love letter every few weeks, which I don't acknowledge. The last one, a few weeks ago, I opened, but didn't read the whole thing.

At this point, I'm wondering if I should pop today's unopened letter in a return envelope with a note politely explaining that I cannot accept her love letters...or should I do nothing.

She's a lovely woman; I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to let her think that my silence gives her hope, either.

I don't feel I have any positive responsibility to shoulder in this, but I'm wondering what the current preferred method for dealing with this situation might be from a woman's perspective, as I'd like to do the mannerly thing and cause no harm.

Suggestions?

Thanks

Lance

Dear Mom:

No, no, no. A thousand times no.



Always,

Lance

 

[Problem Child]

Send her a pickle.

 

[lost]

send it back unopened- return to sender, if you get another mail it back w/ a blow off letter
Something like i treasure what we had together.... i would hate to ruin our memories....

ok my teeth hurt now

 

[MissTaken]

Respond to her and politely remind her that it is over.

Or, have the post office stamp it, "Addressee unknown."

Let her think you left the country

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Freya]

Send the letter back with a polite, but firm, message of your disinterest. It's always better to be upfront than to allow a person to hope for something that won't be. And after that, if she continues, just return them all unopened.

 

[Lancecastor]

Thanks grrls; I'm glad the two of you weighed in so quickly and decisively.

Miles, thanks, I know you often speak from experience when you post...but calling her Mom just won't do it for me the way it would for you.

PC, perhaps you're right. A nice Christmas Pickle might say it in just the right way.

 

[miles]

Send her a pickle.

One of them big ass green boys they sell out of the jar at them kun-veen-yunce stores in the kuntree.

Git her a pig's foot while yer at it.

 

[miles]

Thanks grrls; I'm glad the two of you weighed in so quickly and decisively.

Miles, thanks, I know you often speak from experience when you post...but calling her Mom just won't do it for me the way it would for you.

PC, perhaps you're right. A nice Christmas Pickle might say it in just the right way.

Lance, you're as smooth as a Beagle's nutsack.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Hmmm, that's a hard one. I think your idea is probably the best way to handle it.

Hi.

 

[Lancecastor]

Send the letter back with a polite, but firm, message of your disinterest. It's always better to be upfront than to allow a person to hope for something that won't be. And after that, if she continues, just return them all unopened.

Yes, this sounds reasonable. The "left the country" thing is a fib and if *bratcat* were to put her lips and scent on the envelope, that could be hurtful...and besides, I'll bet an envelope of her musk would fetch top dollar here as KR1 Repellant.

 

[miles]

 

[Lancecastor]

Lance, you're as smooth as a Beagle's nutsack.

Miles, once again I'll have to take your word for it.

You are so much more wise than I in the ways of animal husbandry.

 

[Freya]

Why is it that every thread on here tonight makes me feel like I'm back in grade school again?

 

[freakygirl]

I'm only here stalking Freya and PC...

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Tulips]

From Tulips

From a woman's point of view , if I sent a few letters and never rec'd a reply , after awhile I'd start to look around for someone else....Again this is just my view point...perhaps you should get a few more?? Good luck, Tulips "Breakin up is hard to do"

 

[Guest]

Lancecastor is the only true male on lit.

 

[Freya]

Lancecastor is the only true male on lit.

*snicker*

He's a true something - what that is exactly, remains to be seen.

 

[The Tin Drum]

You should open it. It might be a subpoena.

 

[Mischka]

You've received letters from this woman every few weeks since spring, and you're just now getting around to wondering what to do about it? Even if that's only two letters a month, you're talking at least ten letters. How terribly odd to bring it up now.