I Don't like being hugged by women near my age, does that make me evil?

[SleepingWarrior]

Ok, I know it doesn't make me evil but maybe I'm looking a gift horse in the mouth.

To add on to what I said... I don't like being hugged by women near my age, that I am not dating. It just makes me feel really uncomfortable. Does that make me weird(er)?

 

[Siren]

 

[Rubyfruit]

This begs the question, how old are you?

 

[Siren]

 

[Guest]

I really don't understand. Does that mean you like hugs from really OLD women, and VERY young girls?

Moon

 

[mistressastra]

Hmm, I like to hug everyone. Well, almost everyone. Just the way I changed, from a non toucher to a very touchy feely person.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Yes.

Seriously? I don't hug. One or two close friends, and my kids, that's it.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Girlie, touch is life.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

I really don't understand. Does that mean you like hugs from really OLD women, and VERY young girls?

Moon

Well I don't mind hugging the old and young because it doesn't make me feel uncomfortable. But when it comes to girls/women near my age it becomes uncomfortable.


I'm 20.

 

[scylis]

i don't like it when people touch me.

does that make me eeevil?

 

[Guest]

Well I don't mind hugging the old and young because it doesn't make me feel uncomfortable. But when it comes to girls/women near my age it becomes uncomfortable.


I'm 20.

Cool.....then you can hug me....I'm 44, 45 on the 25 of July!

Seriously, it's probably just a phase you are going through. Perhaps some of the awkward teenage years haven't quite fazed out yet.

Moon

 

[Laurel]

I'm not crazy about being hugged by anyone out of the blue. It's invasive.

 

[scylis]

*sneakes up and hugs Laurel*

 

[Siren]

 

[Sillyman]

I need to be hugged.

Well, it doesn't make you weird, although it is a slight hangup. Hugging isn't so much of a problem, not everyone in the world is a hugger, and not everyone is immediately comfortable with hugging. If it's that you don't like being hugged by someone you could potentially be attracted to, then it probably just means you don't want to rush intimacy, and there is nothing wrong with that. Not dating may be a bit of a sticky wicket, but shouldn't be an impossible hurdle. Nothing weird about it.

 

[scylis]

20?

you dont like hugging a girl your age of 20?

MY GOD, those are the most huggable girls of all.......

soft
supple
round
taunt
warm.............bodies, ripe for the hugging.

FUCK hugging!

just FUCK!

 

[SleepingWarrior]

I'm not crazy about being hugged by anyone out of the blue. It's invasive.

I don't even like to get a brush by by anyone I don't know. The hugs are by people I know and are friends with.


And to MoonWolf... It isn't a phase, it goes back as far as I can remember. If I am dating the girl then I am fine, but if I'm not its uncomfortable. Hell I may as well go a little deeper into this... I can't even really look at girls my own age without thinking I'm leering at them even though I know I'm not.

 

[Laurel]

Have you ever had a girl get on your case for leering at you during a hug? Why are you nervous in that situation?



*you'll get yours scylis...you just wait...*

 

[SleepingWarrior]

If it's that you don't like being hugged by someone you could potentially be attracted to, then it probably just means you don't want to rush intimacy, and there is nothing wrong with that. Not dating may be a bit of a sticky wicket, but shouldn't be an impossible hurdle. Nothing weird about it.

Well I would tend to agree with you on the rushing to intimacy part, but like I said if I'm dating the girl I'll hug all she wants and be ready to be intimate with her as soon as she is ready. But I'm the same way with those I find attractive and those who I don't find attractive, it just isn't comfortable.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I begged first Rubes

It doesn't count until I see you on your knees.

 

[scylis]

*you'll get yours scylis...you just wait...*

does this mean we're still on for Thursday?

 

[Sillyman]

I have a lot of similar problems there. It's mainly a self esteem issue I think.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

Have you ever had a girl get on your case for leering at you during a hug? Why are you nervous in that situation?

No clue really, it could stem from getting fired from my first job for harrassment I know I didn't commit but I've always felt like I described about the 'leering' since I was about 10. Maybe I'm just uncomfortable with the girls/women knowing I'm interested in them?

 

[Laurel]

No clue really, it could stem from getting fired from my first job for harrassment I know I didn't commit but I've always felt like I described about the 'leering' since I was about 10. Maybe I'm just uncomfortable with the girls/women knowing I'm interested in them?

That's possible, and not uncommon I bet.

Originally posted by scylis
does this mean we're still on for Thursday?

Of course.

 

[scylis]

whoohooo!!

hmm.. i think i need to by more aerosol cheese, then.