"I don't know what the hell my marriage is about and sexually unsatisfied"

[All_Woman]

We have the happily married , sexually unfufilled thread...

Was curious if their are any others that fall under the 'UNHAPPLY MARRIED" catagory.

Have you tried and tried .. but just cant make it work... and getting really flustrated with it all?

I've always heard it helps to talk about the problems. Maybe we can help one another just by being their.

Not meaning for this thread to be a 'pick up ' place... just a nice thread to maybe even come in and cry.. or vent..

but lets not forget to have some fun too

 

[TheEru]

I am a little young to have gone through the marriage thing but I am firmly of the belief that one should make an effort to make things work but that some people can just grow apart. My folks loved each other a lot and just drifted. They split up and both, eventually, ended up with other people that were a lot better for each of them. It is a shame to give up on something too easily but it is just as much of a shame to hurt yourself by holding onto what used to be.

By the way, All_woman, that photo makes me hungry.

 

[All_Woman]

I am a little young to have gone through the marriage thing but I am firmly of the belief that one should make an effort to make things work but that some people can just grow apart. My folks loved each other a lot and just drifted. They split up and both, eventually, ended up with other people that were a lot better for each of them. It is a shame to give up on something too easily but it is just as much of a shame to hurt yourself by holding onto what used to be.

By the way, All_woman, that photo makes me hungry.

But just one person cant make something work. I've held on and tried to make it work for 33 years. Sometimes you just reach your limitations. My folks have been together 53 years and i consider them the perfect couple. Too bad we cant always follow in their footsteps.

and thanks for the compliment on the avatar.

 

[TheEru]

But just one person cant make something work.

I didn't mean to suggest that they could. I meant that you should be sure that you have explored all avenues to make it work. If you are confident that you have, as you seem to be, there is no reason to continue to make yourself happy.

 

[All_Woman]

I didn't mean to suggest that they could. I meant that you should be sure that you have explored all avenues to make it work. If you are confident that you have, as you seem to be, there is no reason to continue to make yourself happy.

your right of course.. but I continue to stay for certain issues with our daughter.. oh well.. sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do .

 

[TheEru]

your right of course.. but I continue to stay for certain issues with our daughter.. oh well.. sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do .

Any particular issues or just the usual? I would never have asked for my parents to separate but boy did things seem better for me after they did.

 

[All_Woman]

Any particular issues or just the usual? I would never have asked for my parents to separate but boy did things seem better for me after they did.

certain particular issues. To be a little more blunt... health issues...

 

[TheEru]

certain particular issues. To be a little more blunt... health issues...

Fair enough. I didn't mean to pry. That does make it a little tougher.

 

[All_Woman]

Fair enough. I didn't mean to pry. That does make it a little tougher.

not prying at all.. but I guess we as parent's all sacrifice for our children.. no matter how old they are.

 

[SimpleGifts]

Wow

Honored to be invited to this thread...or maybe I should be sorrowful?

At least we all seem to have a good fix on the "sexually unsatisfied" part...

SG

 

[All_Woman]

Honored to be invited to this thread...or maybe I should be sorrowful?

At least we all seem to have a good fix on the "sexually unsatisfied" part...

SG

Hi SG...But the 'happily married" thread have a fix on that too.... LOL

 

[somberReality]

Speaking from experience, if you are unhappy in your marriage and nothing seems to help, perhaps it is time to spend some time apart, just to see how that would work. If you find you are happier apart, then there you go. If you find you aren't happier, then find ways to work the issues out, together.

I hope it all works out for you. *smiles*

 

[bule23]

hi

We have the happily married , sexually unfufilled thread...

Was curious if their are any others that fall under the 'UNHAPPLY MARRIED" catagory.

Have you tried and tried .. but just cant make it work... and getting really flustrated with it all?

I've always heard it helps to talk about the problems. Maybe we can help one another just by being their.

Not meaning for this thread to be a 'pick up ' place... just a nice thread to maybe even come in and cry.. or vent..

but lets not forget to have some fun too

i'm 23 married in tampa i was a virgin when i got married my husband is small only about 4 1/2 uc i love my hubby very much but i need more in my sex life i feel bad for thinking about cheating i just don't know anymore i'm at vanblu at web dot net please can someone please HELP!!!!!!

 

[Hiddendreams]

All_Woman I know EXACTLY how you feel. This is mostly just a friendly drive by empathetic hug and nod towards very similar experiences.

~*~hug~*~

 

[Fyreguy2006]

If you read the Happily Married Sexually Unfulfilled topic you have seen me prominently posting on there.

For people to say they are happily married when a component that is vital to them is missing is simply fooling themselves. They may kid themselves into believing that they are satisfied with other aspects of their lives and can see past the missed sexual needs. Yet are they really? They are here reading porn, discussing their fantasies and in some cases hooking up in real life. So if they are so happy why do they need all of that to stay married? Simple, they aren't happy and they can't fool themselves any more into believing they are. They stay for security, finances, health care issues and more, but not because they are happy and fulfilled as a human being.

As for your particular case, I have been married just shy of 26 years and I have struggled for years to understand why it simply is not working. Oh, not that we hate each other, not that we fight or are abusive towards each other, it is almost more of a complete indifference to my needs or desires or wants. We have done all the work, the counseling (mostly a waste of time that cost more money that it should have when you get bright statements like this after 5 visits "Gee, you 2 really don't like each other do you?") the trying to talk it out, the compromises that almost always chip another part of my soul off and leave it in the dust.

Look, I don't know the specifics of your daughters health issue and I don't need to, but the point is he can't just walk away from that if you leave him. She is still his daughter and my assumption is he loves her...why would that change if you left?

I am not telling you to do a damn thing, but if you really that unhappy I question the motivation to stay unless there are other things in your life that compensate for what you lack...such as money, cars, homes, vacations and more in the material world. None of which will hold you in their arms late at night and want to know what is going on inside you and then want to snuggle tight as you drift off to sleep...

I have made my decsion and at least in the short run I am trapped financially but that doesn't stop me from making my plans and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

Good luck to you,

Fyreguy2006

 

[scotgray]

How about unhappily married and no sex ever unless my ambidextrous hands count?

 

[human_male]

This is a really sad situation. I moan about NOT having an SO but I think this would be worse. It must feel like a prison, especially if there's something keeping you from just up and leaving like in yours and Fyreguy's situation.

I wish you both the best, and I hope eventually you're able to move on and find the life that you both want.

 

[Daes_Althor]

I think this is one of the reasons i never want to marry. Not just the sex part, but if a couple cant work through their difficulties, they can begin to despise each other since they start staying with them out of either habit or fear.

I love my GF with all my heart and she wants to get married, but after what my parents went thru it just seems to me that 'happily ever after' is extremely hard to achieve. Marriage is great and wonderful if it works, of that i have no doubt, but im just too scared of gettin married then 6 years down the line its over, havin to wait a few years to get divorced, all the arguments that follow over what belongs to who, who gets the kids etc.

My mum and dad were married for 16 years, and it ended, simply because 'they didnt wanna be together'? The term love is thrown around too much and people today get married without even livin together first. I think there should be counsellors who should sit down with engaged couples and actually talk them through what married life is really like. It aint always kisses an cuddles, its hard work.

To me, its too much of a risk to get hurt over a failed marriage, so my heart goes out to all of you here really unhappily married, especuially when you cant talk to your partner openly and honestly about what you want and feel.

geez, 23 and already put off getin hitched, thats bad aint it..........

 

[aceofspades1114]

not prying at all.. but I guess we as parent's all sacrifice for our children.. no matter how old they are.

Not Married and haven't found that "someone" yet, I have time and always looking, Stumbled across this and thought I would give my two cents or what I think anyways.

Well if it is because of health reasons and insurance or something like that I see, but honestly if your not happy and are teetering on a divorice and your holding back because of the kid just leave it, no reason for holding on to false hope.

As a child my mother and father had problems and my mom wouldn't leave because of the way it could affect me, which really looking back at it I would rather want her happy then unhappy.

I'm not saying go down to the courthouse tomorrow and get the papers. Divorce should be used if as your last resort and you went through everything and nothing else was to do, go for it.

 

[sexylibrarian2]

in a desperate situation

I find myself in a bad relationship with many complicating factors. I'm miserable and desperate and sad. Maybe someday I can tell you all about what is going on. Maybe one day I can trust someone again.

 

[bodine91]

hang in there

i too find myself described well by this title. we all manage to do whats right for the kids etc. however, it gets harder by the minute. sometimes i think im copping out by not doing something about it. others i say the kids come first and someday i will...in the meantime there are days that just plain suck, the key is to never lose hope

 

[reignophelia]

How about unhappily married and no sex ever unless my ambidextrous hands count?

This made my day!

 

[fulie57]

I find myself in a bad relationship with many complicating factors. I'm miserable and desperate and sad. Maybe someday I can tell you all about what is going on. Maybe one day I can trust someone again.

I hear you. I've been fighting to keep this alive awhile. Just no spark, no pop, and when I try to crank things up or get adventurous... well, I get in trouble.

I don't want to find another partner. Its so difficult. But right now my partner isn't.

 

[str8butkinky]

in the same situation

Just started a thread on it also

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=535877

 

[RPgal74]

unhappy

i used to feel guilty when i thought of myself...then something happened that severly changed the way i saw life. i began to question...i began to tell certain ppl how i felt.

over and over...for almost 6 yrs now...ive found myself ready to walk out...and every time...something would happen to make me feel guilty... to make me feel bad, selfish...

im reading a very interesting book...and it haas been helping me see things a bit better...but i have a long way to go. it would be nice to meet some ppl with similar troubles.. my hubby is a hard worker and good provider...but now, when i look at him...i see a friend...and yes, there is love...but theres also alot missing.