I can't believe what I just did!!!!!

[Allexus_TN]

So, after posting my "in need of sex thread" I went over to my husband, and began to try and get him in the mood. I'm messing around, half naked, teasing him. He pushes me away, and says,
"I want to see the rest of this show."
What show is so important that he will pass up sex with me? He's watching a show on VH1 about Video Vixens. When I turned around and looked, he smiled at me and said calmly, "I think she's hot."
So I reacted. My hand came out before I thought, and I slapped him right across the face. After 6-1/2 years with him, I have never slapped him. Not once. And, honestly, if he'd said that when we were doing ANYTHING but trying to seduce him, I would have laughed and made some comment about her. Anything but hit him. I'm ashamed, but yet, I think he deserved that.

 

[Phoenyx]

So, after posting my "in need of sex thread" I went over to my husband, and began to try and get him in the mood. I'm messing around, half naked, teasing him. He pushes me away, and says,
"I want to see the rest of this show."
What show is so important that he will pass up sex with me? He's watching a show on VH1 about Video Vixens. When I turned around and looked, he smiled at me and said calmly, "I think she's hot."
So I reacted. My hand came out before I thought, and I slapped him right across the face. After 6-1/2 years with him, I have never slapped him. Not once. And, honestly, if he'd said that when we were doing ANYTHING but trying to seduce him, I would have laughed and made some comment about her. Anything but hit him. I'm ashamed, but yet, I think he deserved that.

If he hit you for saying that about a guy would he be justified in hitting you?

 

[Diablogrl]

I'd have slapped him too.

 

[SXCRgirl]

Allexus,

I know that you're already feeling terrible by the fact that you posted here. There is no excuse for physical violence no matter what the situation is. However, I can understand why it happened. You were hurt and rejected and for him to act calmly and make comments about some HOT babe on TV while here you are, half naked and vulnerable, is unacceptable.

Communication is the key. Talk to him about how you felt. His actions were abhorrable but there is no excuse for physical violence.

Good luck.

 

[TN_Vixen]

I would've told him the next time he wanted his cock sucked that he should phone a "Video Vixen".

;-)

 

[Allexus_TN]

I'd have slapped him too.

Thanks. His timing couldn't have been worse. Normally we point folks out to each other. But my God....while you're wife is trying to blow you? C'mon man!!

Needless to say, he won't be getting it now. Not for a looooooooooong time.

 

[Nora]

Allexus, I don't know you. I don't know your husband, but I wanna slap him, too!

 

[pabloback]

there he is watching the red hot vixens to help himself get in the mood for some red hot monkey sex and what do you do ?
hit him
no way to turn him on
poor guy cant win either way

 

[ksmybuttons]

So what was his reaction to the slap?

 

[Allexus_TN]

Communication is the key. Talk to him about how you felt. His actions were abhorrable but there is no excuse for physical violence.

Good luck.

Perhaps that is the most unfortunate thing in my relationship with him. NO communication. I try, he doesn't. Everyone that knows us sees this, and wonders why I stay. I'm sitting here now, wondering if he was just trying to tell me something.

I will try to talk to him when I'm calmer. He just went too far with his comment. Like I said the timing was so bad.

 

[Guest]

Is this GB or BDSM thread stuff?

 

[Allexus_TN]

So what was his reaction to the slap?

To tell me he didn't mean it. Then to start watching it again. I suppose I should tell ya'll there isn't even a hand print where I hit him. Not even the slightest bit red.

And pabloback, I doubt he was watching that to get in the mood. If he was, he would have taken advantage of what I was doing to him.

 

[Sillyman]

You were provoked. That was just idiocy.

 

[ksmybuttons]

To tell me he didn't mean it. Then to start watching it again. I suppose I should tell ya'll there isn't even a hand print where I hit him. Not even the slightest bit red.

And pabloback, I doubt he was watching that to get in the mood. If he was, he would have taken advantage of what I was doing to him.

And then the guy says "I don't understand why she left me."
Being taken for granted and ignored is the worst.

I am so sorry he hurt you so badly.

 

[alexandraaah]

You were provoked. That was just idiocy.

Are you serious?

 

[MzChrista]

here go

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=107981

 

[pabloback]

could have bit him i guess

 

[horny_giraffe]

If I were you (which I'm not) I'd only take it seriously if he took it seriously.

Hell, I was him, I'd be laughing at you for losing your temper--unless you actually gave me a black eye or something. Even then, I'd probably just grab your wrists to keep you from hitting me again.

 

[Allexus_TN]

here go

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=107981

Ahhhh....now I feel better. lol Thanks!

 

[Sillyman]

Are you serious?

Yes.

 

[Allexus_TN]

If I were you (which I'm not) I'd only take it seriously if he took it seriously.

Hell, I was him, I'd be laughing at you for losing your temper--unless you actually gave me a black eye or something. Even then, I'd probably just grab your wrists to keep you from hitting me again.

He was serious. He pushed me away. Told me to stop. That was not a joke. Nor a time for jokes.

 

[Allexus_TN]

could have bit him i guess

By then I wasn't sucking him. He'd already pushed me away. Biting him isn't my style. Thing is, neither is hitting. Violence in general really is not my style.

I need a vacation. Far away...alone.

 

[alexandraaah]

Yes.

Would you slap someone in the face because you were feeling rejected?

If you consider rejection to be "provoking," then I have a long list of faces to slap.

 

[SXCRgirl]

Perhaps that is the most unfortunate thing in my relationship with him. NO communication. I try, he doesn't. Everyone that knows us sees this, and wonders why I stay. I'm sitting here now, wondering if he was just trying to tell me something.

I will try to talk to him when I'm calmer. He just went too far with his comment. Like I said the timing was so bad.

He did go too far with the comment. *hugs* I'm so sorry for sounding a bit unfeeling with my post.

I'm sorry to hear that you and your hubby have no communication. *sigh* That's a toughie girl. When a man says no to sex, he's telling you something. He's just too afraid to come out and verbalize his thoughts.

 

[Allexus_TN]

He did go too far with the comment. *hugs* I'm so sorry for sounding a bit unfeeling with my post.

I'm sorry to hear that you and your hubby have no communication. *sigh* That's a toughie girl. When a man says no to sex, he's telling you something. He's just too afraid to come out and verbalize his thoughts.

We have a long list of problems, sadly. Thing is, when I have tried to talk to him about our marriage, he says he sees no problems with it, and refuses counseling. Communication? I wish.

Upon thinking over tonight's situation a bit more, I wish he'd just said he wasn't in the mood. I can deal with that comment. It's not just that I was rejected, it was HOW I was rejected. That make any sense?