I can't believe that I did this!

[Guest]

I am in love with a wonderful man. Last night when we were talking he asked me a question and I LIED to him. It was a pretty big lie and to date I have been very honest with him. I don't even know why I did it ...it was a fear driven act.
What made it worse was that his response was that he thought I had because of the way I am. That makes owning up and making amends that much harder.

If I do I may lose him. If I don't I feel like I don't deserve to 'have' him.


I'm not liking myself very much right now.

 

[Nora]

Tell him. Don't let it fester. The sooner you tell him the better. Besides, how will you know if it's YOU he really loves if you don't let him see the real you?

Unless, of course, you're in love with an Indian guy and you're American and the lie was that you don't like his mother and can't cook.

 

[Guest]

Tell him. Don't let it fester. The sooner you tell him the better. Besides, how will you know if it's YOU he really loves if you don't let him see the real you?

Oh, I know! The thing is if I had told him the truth although he might have been surprised it wouldn't have been a big deal and now of course it is.

I hate it when I shoot myself in the foot.

 

[Nora]

Still...

Imagine if it were the other way around. You're talking and you ask him, "Have you ever had a venereal disease?" He's afraid to tell you about the whore in Saigon that one time when he was in the Navy, so he says no. But then the guilt eats at him.

The next day he says to you, "Umm...I wasn't completely honest with you last night because I was afraid of what you'd think of me. I did have VD, but it was 20 years ago and I've been completely clean since."

You wouldn't hold the lie against him, right? So don't assume he'll hold yours against you. Besides, give him a chance. If he's worthy of your love, then he's worthy of your honesty.

 

[angelika]

Still...

Imagine if it were the other way around. You're talking and you ask him, "Have you ever had a venereal disease?" He's afraid to tell you about the whore in Saigon that one time when he was in the Navy, so he says no. But then the guilt eats at him.

The next day he says to you, "Umm...I wasn't completely honest with you last night because I was afraid of what you'd think of me. I did have VD, but it was 20 years ago and I've been completely clean since."

You wouldn't hold the lie against him, right? So don't assume he'll hold yours against you. Besides, give him a chance. If he's worthy of your love, then he's worthy of your honesty.

I hate it when you're right!
Thanks!

 

[Nora]

I love being right. You're welcome and good luck to you.

 

[angelika]

Nora,

Thanks!

 

[angelika]

for those of you reading who are a little confused..

the thread starter and I are one and the same.

 

[JasonBe]

LIE
LIE
LIE

DENY
DENY
DENY


Always works best for me.

 

[Guest]

Re: for those of you reading who are a little confused..

the thread starter and I are one and the same.

The end

 

[Purrde Flower]

Nora is just awesome.

 

[Nora]

Nora is just awesome.

uh-oh. Am I being buttered?

 

[angelika]

How it all turned out ...

just fine!

 

[Guest]

 

[dreamer]

Re: How it all turned out ...

just fine!

YEA!! I'm a sucker for a happy ending.

 

[Guest]

ChilledVodka:

You are gay. Should we crush you and your likes as one does an ant? Let us ponder on this...

I did apologise for hurting your anus the other day.

Oh, well. Sorry. Next time I'll use more lube, yaya.

 

[Nora]

Re: How it all turned out ...

just fine!

I'm super glad to hear it, Angelika!! *hug*

 

[angelika]

Nora

Thanks again!