I cannot believe this...
- Thread starter RonnyJane
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Far enough
He's moving about 3 hours away. But we had enough challenges getting together just 30 minutes apart.
The intensity. I'll miss that.
He was my first...first "true" BDSM experience. We've been getting together now for about a year and a half. At least once a month, sometimes more.
Not only was he my first, but I was lucky enough to get an experienced Dom. He knows what he is doing.
His expertise is bondage...his ties are amazing. My favorite is pain...he obliged nicely. We fit together perfectly.
Love? What a sharp/real/BIG word. My thing with him could be better described as comfortable/attached/spoiled.
He took me places I can't imagine anyone else doing. Man the intensity! I sound so final with all this...and the last thing I want to come across as is "soap operish". I'm basically reeling.
He was extremely rough tonight....my ass hurts. I see why now.
I feel lost.
RJ
He's moving about 3 hours away. But we had enough challenges getting together just 30 minutes apart.
The intensity. I'll miss that.
He was my first...first "true" BDSM experience. We've been getting together now for about a year and a half. At least once a month, sometimes more.
Not only was he my first, but I was lucky enough to get an experienced Dom. He knows what he is doing.
His expertise is bondage...his ties are amazing. My favorite is pain...he obliged nicely. We fit together perfectly.
Love? What a sharp/real/BIG word. My thing with him could be better described as comfortable/attached/spoiled.
He took me places I can't imagine anyone else doing. Man the intensity! I sound so final with all this...and the last thing I want to come across as is "soap operish". I'm basically reeling.
He was extremely rough tonight....my ass hurts. I see why now.
I feel lost.
RJ
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i wish i could think of some advice to give you, but i'm afraid i can only offer comfort and the knowledge that this, too, shall pass (eventually)
FungiUg
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group hugs for RJ
It's sad when live moves us on from people we love. Just make the effort to stay in touch with him -- having people you treasure who you can catch up with (and maybe more) is a small consolation prize, but better than nothing.
My own submissive is about 2 hours away from where I live -- we're managing two-weekly or monthly catch-ups. So a little distance isn't insurmountable, but it will change the dynamic, definately.
It's sad when live moves us on from people we love. Just make the effort to stay in touch with him -- having people you treasure who you can catch up with (and maybe more) is a small consolation prize, but better than nothing.
My own submissive is about 2 hours away from where I live -- we're managing two-weekly or monthly catch-ups. So a little distance isn't insurmountable, but it will change the dynamic, definately.
Ebonyfire
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RonnyJane said:My Dom is moving...moving away.
What am I going to do?
(crying)
I'm sorry if this is not the right place for this post...
RJ
I am sorry that your Dom is moving. When I moved to the east coast, I had to move away from my sub, because he had strong family ties and could not leave. That was over two years ago, and he and I are still in correspondance, but he has not found another Domme. I still miss him, and I know he misses Me.
It is a hard thing for both parties, so there is on shame in crying.
Ebonyfire
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Re: Far enough
My old sub is in the Seattle area, and I moved from Washington state to Connecticut. Believe Me, I would love to be 3 hours away from him.
RonnyJane said:He's moving about 3 hours away. But we had enough challenges getting together just 30 minutes apart.
The intensity. I'll miss that.
He was my first...first "true" BDSM experience. We've been getting together now for about a year and a half. At least once a month, sometimes more.
Not only was he my first, but I was lucky enough to get an experienced Dom. He knows what he is doing.
His expertise is bondage...his ties are amazing. My favorite is pain...he obliged nicely. We fit together perfectly.
Love? What a sharp/real/BIG word. My thing with him could be better described as comfortable/attached/spoiled.
He took me places I can't imagine anyone else doing. Man the intensity! I sound so final with all this...and the last thing I want to come across as is "soap operish". I'm basically reeling.
He was extremely rough tonight....my ass hurts. I see why now.
I feel lost.
RJ
My old sub is in the Seattle area, and I moved from Washington state to Connecticut. Believe Me, I would love to be 3 hours away from him.
Goddess Helena
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*hugs*
I'm sorry that you are going through this. The end of a relationship is to be mourned. It is something that takes time to recover from. There is no shame in tears.
I think that three hours is not too far. My former boy is four hours away now and that would not stop either of us if we were both single.
Desire can make all things easier.
I hope you find a way to make things work.
Helena
I'm sorry that you are going through this. The end of a relationship is to be mourned. It is something that takes time to recover from. There is no shame in tears.
I think that three hours is not too far. My former boy is four hours away now and that would not stop either of us if we were both single.
Desire can make all things easier.
I hope you find a way to make things work.
Helena
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RJ, my Master lives almost 2 hours away. We see each other almost every weekend and will continue to do so until my house sells and I move there.
I see no reason you have to end the relationship just based on a 3 hour drive. I do understand that schedules can be tricky. We juggle that constantly. Good luck.
I see no reason you have to end the relationship just based on a 3 hour drive. I do understand that schedules can be tricky. We juggle that constantly. Good luck.
I feel better now
And I want to thank everyone for their thoughts and comments.
After spending the day clearing land for my best friend at her new house, pressure washing her patio, and cutting my entire yard (all in the same day...the day after my session with Master this past weekend...talk about getting it out of your system!) I feel better.
There is absolutely nothing better than doing yardwork for some heavy duty thinking. I thought about many things.
Three hours is really not that far away. Can we say ROAD TRIP!
Also, we have truly had some **wicked** phone sex in the past. Master is simply AWESOME and His domination is evident over the phone line. Man...He can make me do some wild things to myself. It still won't give me the basement bondage we both desire but it's better than nothing.
And we really do have a bond after being together for almost two years that I think He will miss me as well and make an effort to continue the relationship. He promised me He would.
And finally, we have never been exclusive so there will be others I'm sure.
I feel better.
Thanks everyone for your support...especially to this little ol' Lit newbie (say THAT five times fast)!! I feel very welcome here already and you all are VERY sweet.
RJ
And I want to thank everyone for their thoughts and comments.
After spending the day clearing land for my best friend at her new house, pressure washing her patio, and cutting my entire yard (all in the same day...the day after my session with Master this past weekend...talk about getting it out of your system!) I feel better.
There is absolutely nothing better than doing yardwork for some heavy duty thinking. I thought about many things.
Three hours is really not that far away. Can we say ROAD TRIP!
Also, we have truly had some **wicked** phone sex in the past. Master is simply AWESOME and His domination is evident over the phone line. Man...He can make me do some wild things to myself. It still won't give me the basement bondage we both desire but it's better than nothing.
And we really do have a bond after being together for almost two years that I think He will miss me as well and make an effort to continue the relationship. He promised me He would.
And finally, we have never been exclusive so there will be others I'm sure.
I feel better.
Thanks everyone for your support...especially to this little ol' Lit newbie (say THAT five times fast)!! I feel very welcome here already and you all are VERY sweet.
RJ
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i'm so glad you're feeling better! i told ya the icky sad depressing raincloud hovering over your head would eventually pass! ^_^
best of luck to you in your new long distance relationship, there are many people here who are in the same situation and can give you advice on how to help it work.
well wishes!
best of luck to you in your new long distance relationship, there are many people here who are in the same situation and can give you advice on how to help it work.
well wishes!
