I believe I am smitten !

[Vanyel_Ashke]

This is a fine thing !

I think I nibbled at a hook and now a lovely seeming lady is reeling me in. I have one problem.

Any advice on how to tell this lady I am intrigued by her thoughts written here and would like to get to know her without sounding like a stalker ? I know I am new, should I wait until I have been here awhile before speaking up ? If I wait someone may snatch this enchanting sweetling from under my nose. What to do ? What to do ? What to do ?

 

[MissTaken]

First piece of advice: Don't send her a pm that says "Wanna fuck?" or any variation on the theme !

You could pm her and ask how she is doing.

Or you could post with her a bit and let her get to know you before contacting her.

It is hard to tell without knowing who occupies the twinkle in your eye.

Best wishes

 

[p_p_man]

Poetry's good...

Women always go for poetry.

But the romantic kind not the "There was a young lady from Ealing..." sort of thing.

Casual posting to any threads you see her posting to will usually draw her attention to you. But if you want the real clincher...

Go into a thread where she's posting. Disagree strongly, even vehemently, with what she's saying. Create a good stand up argument in public...THEN

PM her showing your true, kind, reasonable self, apologise for being a bastard, enter into a general pm converation, covering many subjects of mutual interest, which will then develop into e-mails, engagement and marriage...

Rarely fails...

 

[MissTaken]

Re: Poetry's good...

Women always go for poetry.

But the romantic kind not the "There was a young lady from Ealing..." sort of thing.

Casual posting to any threads you see her posting to will usually draw her attention to you. But if you want the real clincher...

Go into a thread where she's posting. Disagree strongly, even vehemently, with what she's saying. Create a good stand up argument in public...THEN

PM her showing your true, kind, reasonable self, apologise for being a bastard, enter into a general pm converation, covering many subjects of mutual interest, which will then develop into e-mails, engagement and marriage...

Rarely fails...

Hmm didn't realize the strategy was so intense!

 

[Kandi]

getting to know someone online

is really really difficult.
we're missing so many sensory clues as to
who each other are. we have words, of course,
and we can focus on them in ways that we
can't with the distraction of eyes, and pheremones,
and voice, and touch.

but words can lie so much more easily than eyes can
even if that is not our intention

go slowly, try to get to know her as a friend, first and foremost

 

[lovetoread]

The advice of not saying "Wanna fuck?" is good. I like the idea of posting with this person on a thread. Tease her,get her attention and move to a pm or two. Capture her eye and get her interest and the rest will fall into place.

Good luck.

 

[girl]

Or even just a PM saying that you're impressed with her and like her style. Your newbie status may be slightly off-putting, but sincerity is always more important than that, anyway.

Just remember: Don't push.

Good luck

girl

 

[Scabbers]

Re: getting to know someone online

is really really difficult.
we're missing so many sensory clues as to
who each other are. we have words, of course,
and we can focus on them in ways that we
can't with the distraction of eyes, and pheremones,
and voice, and touch.

but words can lie so much more easily than eyes can
even if that is not our intention

go slowly, try to get to know her as a friend, first and foremost

You can always lick the screen

 

[Sad Man]

First piece of advice: Don't send her a pm that says "Wanna fuck?" or any variation on the theme !

Now you tell me!!

 

[April]

Yeah, save the "Wanna fuck?" for later, when you know each other. It works much better then.

 

[TigerClaw]

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.....

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Be pleasant with a pm to her. Make sure you ask a question in that pm so she has a reason to answer you back. Do do make the first pms to sexual out front. Just slide on into her thoughts

Best of luck!

 

[TigerClaw]

.....

 

[Fleshmachine]

This line never fails*


"Nice Shoes, wanna fuck."












*results may very, the aforementioned line has only ever been clinically tested on real, live, professional prostitutes.

 

[Laurel]

First piece of advice: Don't send her a pm that says "Wanna fuck?" or any variation on the theme !

Of course not! Be a gentlemanly flirt. Take it slow. Respond with interest to her posts - not every one of her posts or you will seem like a stalker. Give her attention, but not too much attention. Flatter her, but don't throw yourself at her feet.

THEN send the "Wanna Fuck" PM.

And if that doesn't work, you can still lick the screen.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Laurel, you are so wise

 

[lovetoread]

What???

What????

You meain I blew it!!!!!

Damn I did it all wrong............ Damn.

Well, it depends on how you are talking to her on the bb's. But this(TH Oughts) advice is probably the better route to go. Damn.... should I go back and change it all........

Yep you blew it, but I let it slide. You should have really saved that Wanna Fuck pm till at least I knew your name.

 

[TigerClaw]

.....

 

[Cocoa]

And if that doesn't work, you can still lick the screen.

LOL Sounds like Laurel has experience with unrequited love.

Seriously, I agree with most of what everyone else has said. Start a simple conversation. A compliment is ALWAYS a good way to start. Sprinkle some jokes in, some light flirting and build it up from there.

good luck!

 

[SilverVeil]

The bobber sank

Heyla Vanyel Ashke ! *giggles because I know exactly what your name means*

The best advice has already been posted here. Post with the person you are talking about and let her get to know you and how you think. I have read a lot of your posts and think you have some great insight and don't seem to post things off the top of your head. ( Like I do sometimes lol ).

Too bad Lit does not have any e-cards you could send her. Or do they ? *Looks at the Lit oldies wondering*

When I see someone I think says things that either make me think or make me laugh, I PM them and let them know. A compliment is always a nice way to start your posting off. And you never know..... she could have had a really crappy day, and your compliment could cheer her up.

If she does not respond then send her the " Wanna fuck " PM.

 

[MissTaken]

Great Idea!

Lit e cards!


LAUREL!!!!!!!

We want e cards!

Pretty please! I promise to be a good girl......sort of!


:


And what does his name mean?

I thought he was dutch.

 

[Jacqline]

What I am curious about is has she responded to this post?.....If she has, you will know what to do............

 

[Guest]

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[fallon2]

SMITTEN

Whatever you do . . . be honest. Even if it doesn't work out you know you did your best and above all . . . let her respond to you in her own, sweet, time! (This I have learned!) Anyway, good luck and remember "wanna fuck" is saved for much, much later in R/T. *smile*

 

[Thumper]

Ok...I'm a barbarian

Yeah, save the "Wanna fuck?" for later, when you know each other. It works much better then.

Wanna Fuck, April?

It takes time...lots and lots of time...

Patience.

Laurel....e-cards...courtesy of Literotica...methinks it's not a bad idea:d