"I’m A Girl And I’m More Worried About Men’s Rights Than Women’s Rights"

[LJ_Reloaded]

http://thoughtcatalog.com/kathryn-s...worried-about-mens-rights-than-womens-rights/

I think that masculinity might be one of the most fragile constructs out there. No matter what men do, they’re likely to be judged. Work hard to be more “masculine” and you’ll be considered a “tool,” a “meathead.” Work hard to be honest and kind and you’ll be considered a “pussy,” “gay.” There is no middle ground. There is no refuge when you’re a guy. There is no space that is safe. And I think that what happens as a result of this is that men come to harbor a secret need, hiding behind a false front of strength and assertiveness and generally not giving a fuck. I think that possibly even more so than stereotypically emotional women, men need and crave love and acceptance and validation, and yet they aren’t made to feel able to ask for that.

Especially in our society today, where we’ve learned to use apathy and irony and sarcasm as our primary modes of moving through life, it feels rare to get the kind of sincerity from men that I feel both men and women want. I want more of the times where I’ve platonically laid in bed with a friend, curled up around each other and talking about the darkest things we’ve ever known. I want more of the times where a friend has felt like he could call me late at night, crying about a girl he really cared about, who he hurt and wanted to fix things with, me on the phone until he fell asleep. I want more of the times where a friend has felt like he could share his writing with me without having to make a self-protective joke about it actually being something sincere. I want something real, something shared. Am I the only one who wants this? Am I the only one who feels this might liberate us?

Here’s the scariest part about all of this to me: when basic human emotions are treated as “weak,” we deny every guy out there the most simple, most important truth in the world – the ability to be human. Doesn’t that scare you too? The men in our world are the people who we are going to work alongside, live alongside, support and be supported by. The men in our world are the people who are going to help us raise our kids – who are going to be there alongside us, teaching our kids how to treat people, teaching them whether they can be sensitive and compassionate and loving themselves.

To me, the fact that we degrade men on a daily basis is representative of a larger societal issue. Are men becoming less and less able to connect on a meaningful, vulnerable level? Has fear of polarizing and painful judgment – of going outside the norm of what’s considered acceptable, of being anything other than a “man” – outweighed the so basic desire to be human and fully alive?

A devastating indictment of modern feminism.

 

[Sean Renaud]

First, no where in there is feminism mentioned at all. Second who ever wrote that is so fucking divorced from reality by the end that it's terrifying.

Men have been effectively trained in manhood since the dark ages. It's nothing new. What is new in fact is that men being sensitive is something that is widely accepted today to a degree that is baffling to our parents.

 

[Sean Renaud]

Men now more than ever deny they are victims.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

First, no where in there is feminism mentioned at all.

Well, it's nice to see you dissociate feminism with women's rights. You're moving forward.