Hurt feelings, including another man

[imagreal]

The pain was real as I realized my wife just gave a man something I felt would always be mine and mine alone. I initiated this, it was my idea, she told me she wasn't going half way and that I may not like it is. I loved it in the moment, seeing her give this young man the experience of a life time, her as well. Watching him sink his huge black cock the first time sent me over the edge but there was this insecure feeling I felt seeing my wife experience thing that I could not provide. I saw her in such an intimate and giving moment with this man as she looked in his eye while he emptied his seed into her. That was a couple of years ago, my wife told him to leave and kissed me deeply and said I love you. Her lover never calls, my wife wouldn't allow it, she reaffirmed that there is a special place just for me.

 

[Crownvic]

The pain was real as I realized my wife just gave a man something I felt would always be mine and mine alone. I initiated this, it was my idea, she told me she wasn't going half way and that I may not like it is. I loved it in the moment, seeing her give this young man the experience of a life time, her as well. Watching him sink his huge black cock the first time sent me over the edge but there was this insecure feeling I felt seeing my wife experience thing that I could not provide. I saw her in such an intimate and giving moment with this man as she looked in his eye while he emptied his seed into her. That was a couple of years ago, my wife told him to leave and kissed me deeply and said I love you. Her lover never calls, my wife wouldn't allow it, she reaffirmed that there is a special place just for me.

Thank you for sharing that...you had an Oh No moment....glad everything is okay now...

 

[phil1955]

The pain was real as I realized my wife just gave a man something I felt would always be mine and mine alone. I initiated this, it was my idea, she told me she wasn't going half way and that I may not like it is. I loved it in the moment, seeing her give this young man the experience of a life time, her as well. Watching him sink his huge black cock the first time sent me over the edge but there was this insecure feeling I felt seeing my wife experience thing that I could not provide. I saw her in such an intimate and giving moment with this man as she looked in his eye while he emptied his seed into her. That was a couple of years ago, my wife told him to leave and kissed me deeply and said I love you. Her lover never calls, my wife wouldn't allow it, she reaffirmed that there is a special place just for me.

Keep in mind that women have a great capacity for sex. It is not about him giving her something you can't but that he gave her something different. You still have your thing going on. You gave her a gift by allowing her to experience the other cock and she gave you a gift by allowing you to watch. Embrace he sexuality and willingness to share it with you. I suspect your memory of this has given you more than one hard on over the past few years.

 

[imagreal]

If it wasn't for my wife handling of the situation immediately after, with her calm demeanor, she realized what I was feeling and taking care of my feelings was her first priority. In her way she made me feel so very important to her and treated with so much adoration that we were able to continue our exploration of ourselves as well as individually.

 

[bps]

The pain was real as I realized my wife just gave a man something I felt would always be mine and mine alone. I initiated this, it was my idea, she told me she wasn't going half way and that I may not like it is. I loved it in the moment, seeing her give this young man the experience of a life time, her as well. Watching him sink his huge black cock the first time sent me over the edge but there was this insecure feeling I felt seeing my wife experience thing that I could not provide. I saw her in such an intimate and giving moment with this man as she looked in his eye while he emptied his seed into her. That was a couple of years ago, my wife told him to leave and kissed me deeply and said I love you. Her lover never calls, my wife wouldn't allow it, she reaffirmed that there is a special place just for me.

not sure if this is real or not, but the remark about him never calling seems misplaced and kinda bizarre. And you’re calling this guy her lover??!!! Seriously, your wife had sex with him, sounds like one time, at at YOUR urging, a thing you wanted and initiated. Once and done. Basically your wife consented to cuckolding you, with him, for you.

Understand, I don’t think there’s anything all that weird about your desires, or about couples who play this way, but I do think most women who are willing to try this DO love and either understand their husband’s desires, or really want to understand them. It sounds as though your wife does, but that she was clear-eyed going into it. That it was an opportunity for her too. The remark that she reaffirmed that there’s a special place just for you is weird too; seems to suggest that all these many months later you somehow see this guy as having taken over your wife and your life. Nothing you say about your wife indicates that she sees it so.

 

[Meowdi]

It's hard to not have feelings when it comes to sex. Some ideas can be amazing when in the heat of the moment and when that high comes down and reality comes back they can be quite a shock.

 

[bps]

It's hard to not have feelings when it comes to sex. Some ideas can be amazing when in the heat of the moment and when that high comes down and reality comes back they can be quite a shock.

That doesn’t mean it was a mistake. I think most couples who try this were meant to, and most partners in cuckold couples are equipped to handle the consequences.They just have to communicate.

I totally get that something like this can have a lingering impact, can reverberate in your life, perhaps in ways that weren’t anticipated. Good and bad. It sounds as though the poster was less able to compartmentalize things than his wife. The tryst was purely physical for her and the guy. They had their moment of connection and passion and that was it. Her focus, her thoughts and feelings remained for her husband, their bond. She hasn’t given him any reason to doubt her. She accepts him! Really I think his problems are more to do with self acceptance.

I just think he needs to remember he wanted this and there were obviously elements of it that were really enjoyable for him too. Someone posted above that in some way each gave the other a gift. I think that’s how to see it. He doesn’t really say anything about his wife in terms of the sex….her reaction and responsiveness to this other guy. But it must’ve made a huge impression on him. I understand the angst, and how the sexual inadequacy component is real for many men, but that’s something he has to work through, for them to communicate about. It doesn’t need to be a negative for them. Honestly, it can be a positive. It sounds as though she is a loving wife.