Humiliation

[Etoile]

Dear Etoile,

The photos of you are marvelous. Your friend is a very talented photographer (understatement). Of course it helps to have a beautiful subject liek you.

Thanks for your note.

submissively,



sissyjeri

Hee, thank you! They were actually professional pictures from a lesbian porn magazine. The photographer was Janet Ryan, she's really good. But wow, you are making me blush! http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/youloveme.gif

 

[sissyjeri]

Thank you

Dear Salendire,

Thank you for your note and taking the time to view my embarassing pictures. Knowing you have viewed them gives me great pleasure.

Very Sincerely and Submissively,

sissyjeri

 

[Blushing Bottom]

I've seen your pictures and believe that the submission in your surrender is priceless.

 

[pandoravampire]

I wanted to add to this thread. For my own gains, as this is a area that i and my submission and his dominance over me can be seriously upped a notch easily.
I see this as having two components, the first to see jerry humiliated in photo's, thus exposing him to more viewers, and adding to the humiliation experience they share. Though i find the photo's personally of no use, as they do not show what i experience, because humiliation cannot be seen.

A bit like, you'd never be able to 'see' subspace from a photo. You may be able to detect it when watching people play, i know that i have seen this at a club. And watching it, i felt was a truly honored experience. I found it awesome to watch people experiencing such togetherness, connectedness.
So although you may gain that this is not a abusive situation for jerry, your not going to 'see' the connectedness of their symbiotic humiliation experience.

For me and mine, humiliation must fall within our hard limit of monogamy. Which is no sharing. Not even a photo. We like our intamacies to be private.
So we had to find other avenues for humiliation. One's that would be private.
This is easy. All sorts of things will trigger humiliation for me.
Him going into my handbag and talking about what is in there, for some reason embarasses me and works.
Being made to pee into a pyrex bowl in the kitchen for some stupid reason, had me going deeper into this place i crave than any other task to date. Having him comment on how much urine, the colour, a running commentary as i performed the task, was awesome. To continue to pee under those circumstances, when your body wants to contract the muscles that allow you to perform in the first place. Just wow.

My ego is strong, and i can do humiliating things for him, and not be affected by it. But humiliation is a powerful tool and should be carefully monitored by those playing, as it can suddenly leave the lovely head space, and trip into it feeling abusive.
An example of this for me, has been when my clothing has been chosen for me, and i feel humiliated by his choice. That particular area skirts on the edge of being abusive toward me. Of course its not his intention to provoke those kind of feelings in me, so we avoid this style.
In another thread, someone asked if it were ok to call someone fat. Well, it was for the two people concerned, but for me, i wouldnt be able to cope with that, and remain in a nice humiliated space, id end up in tears and i dont like those sorts of tears.

Im sure that communication is vital in bdsm for all sorts of play, but when i consider our many forms of playing, this particular area seems to require a lot more. I certainly enjoy more after care, when we have played like this. For the reassurance, that i am cherished and loved, for the reward of submitting to him, against everything contrary, going on inside my head that says NO, and doing it anyway.
For us, submission when its difficult, gains us greater instant reward, than doing something easy. Humilation is hard for me. Its edgy for me, and yet, i do it anyway to please him. I gain nothing per se from doing these 'odd' tasks. The reward is how deep my submission can go. It is more an intense exchange of power for us both.
I also find, that mid scene, when im on the edge of safe wording out, a whispered 'i love you' which he always seems to time just right, helps tremendously. I can then continue. I am safe. But in juxtaposition, the 'i love you' can take me out of the space i am in too much. Making it safe, with this phrase, can undo the risk, intensity and inner struggle that is necessary for me to get where we both intend to go. So it is a difficult thing to gauge and play with.

Humiliation is truly individual. You cannot read about it in others, as one subs button is anothers boredom. The calling me a dirty slut/ (insert sexual nouns) does not humiliate me in the slightest. It is more a observational feedback re-inforcer of me being a slut. But for others, this is humiliation.

Like any form of play, there is a continuum. At one end is the slightly risque, at the other, a defracted broken ego/personality. We are travelling along our continuum pushing the envelope a little at a time.
I would recommend this form of play, to any who enjoy a power exchange relationship, as it has many rewards, but to play at baby steps and keep the lines of communication open as you go.

pandoravampire

 

[sissyjeri]

Blushing

Dear Blushing Bottom,

Thank you for your note, your compliment, and for viewing my embarassing pictures.



Sincerely,

sissyjeri

 

[sissyjeri]

pandoravampire

What a wonderful articulation of humiliation. It sounds like you are in a wonderfully loving relationship which must add a whole other fulfillment to it.

Thanks for your thoughts and feelings.

Sincerely,

sissyjeri

 

[sissyjeri]

stripping for you

I hope you enjoy these.

sincerely,

sissyjeri

 

[sissyjeri]

sissy maid

Wearing a maid's uniform makes me feel especially servile.

sissyjeri

 

[sissyjeri]

nightie

Of course I am fully erect and dripping while posting these.

;-)

 

[sissyjeri]

panties and bra

oh to be seen like this by someone I know!