Humiliation

[psychoticerotic]

If this has been posted, sorry about the repeat...

I'm needing some help here. My sub seems to be a lot more into humiliation then I thought. Recently he has shared some porn that really gets him excited. I must say, they bother me. I cant see myself doing any of that stuff to him or anyone unless I hated them. Just not my kink. I have discussed this with him, and I have suggested we go our own ways. This way he can find someone that will be able to give him what he needs. He did not like that idea at all.

So, what now? Is there a way for us to make this work? Has anyone come across this? How do I satisfy his needs when his needs literally make me want to cry lol I just cant bring myself to do these things to him. It would hurt me..obviously more than it would hurt him.

I'm not a prude in any way. I enjoy calling him "My bitch/whore", I enjoy using a strap on, watching him with other men, spanking, orgasm denial, hair pulling, etc.. But he is needing "used and abused". Beat, raped, gang-banged, type of scenarios.

 

[MeekMe]

You both have to decide if it will continue to work if you never do that stuff with him. If you aren't comfortable, you don't have to do those things (and he needs to understand that you get to say no and have limits just as much as him). If he keeps pressuring you for it and you keep saying no, what will that do to your relationship in the long run?

Your suggestion to part ways seems logical to me. If you aren't compatible, what's the point? Ask him if he still wants to stay even if you refuse to ever do the things he wants, I think he's hoping to eventually wear you down and talk you into doing it for him. Are you ok with that?

 

[Lascivity]

Are these things that he wants to make happen, or which he simply likes fantasising about. If the latter, that could be a way to continue your relationship with everyone being satisfied. If they're things that he definitely needs to happen at some stage, then your idea of parting ways to find more suitable partners seems the most sensible one to me.