Hubby is such an intense gamer...

[TooShyGirl]

That sometimes it makes me feel invisible. Like, he just really gets into it. And he will be in party chats with his friends, and get so loud and excitable at times. Maybe I'm the problem, because I don't play too? I'm just not interested. Sorry for the vent, I just needed to.

 

[Jake0126]

That sometimes it makes me feel invisible. Like, he just really gets into it. And he will be in party chats with his friends, and get so loud and excitable at times. Maybe I'm the problem, because I don't play too? I'm just not interested. Sorry for the vent, I just needed to.

Certainly not your fault. We all become invisible for one thing or another. Keep the faith.

 

[darrad143]

Ah shy girl as a gamer and a destiny 2 fan I get how you could feel left out. Maybe communicate your feelings. It’s just a way for him to run with the guys without going out. For me it is how I socialize. Wish you luck my friend has a shy quiet gf I can hear every now and then. I hope they talk.

 

[LupusDei]

It's not about you in any way.

Two things:

1. We guys are often like that, single thing at a time, full attention, nothing else exists;

2) most guys ain't mind readers, we can be very very obtuse about subtle signals, especially when distracted by something new and shiny.

Hint: don't ever let him think you're jealous (he may overreact), but a timely intervention can be in fact be welcome and sexy, but it has to be well placed, confident and obvious. Learn from the damn cat. And yes, I know it may hurt if it fails and he may not even notice, nor understand.

 

[Lazaran]

That sometimes it makes me feel invisible. Like, he just really gets into it. And he will be in party chats with his friends, and get so loud and excitable at times. Maybe I'm the problem, because I don't play too? I'm just not interested. Sorry for the vent, I just needed to.

Find YOUR joy. It may or may not be with your hubby. Self improvement is the best fallback position for most relationship problems related to divergent interests. If your hubby sees you taking up new enriching activities without him, he just may recognize his responsibility for your new interests and try to reassert himself in your relationship. Think of it as a figurative slap upside his head.

I wouldn't say video games are the worst vice to have, but like any other addiction, it can change a person, and YOU have to decide if you love that new person or if that new person loves you.

If it's to the point that you're venting on a message board, I'm guessing you have exhausted all other avenues of dialogue with your husband. If not, I recommend trying different approaches to discuss what is bothering you. If you are repeatedly rebuffed, and seem to have become a secondary priority in your husbands relationship queue I think you're aware of your options.

 

[jaF0]

Shove yer tits in his face.

 

[AlotLikePsyche]

Interesting dilemma.

My boyfriend and I walk together every morning and today we were talking about what belongings we will bring with us from our respective homes when we move in together next month. I have two televisions, one in the bedroom and one in the living room; and he has no televisions. On purpose. Like he says they are “relationship killers” and he doesn’t even want one; but he especially doesn’t want one in the bedroom, so he thinks I should bring only the living room one and get rid of the bedroom one. Which I think is completely insane because what in the world am I going to watch for six or eight hours every night while I’m laying in bed not falling asleep?

Anyway. Sorry. It’s not about me. My point is, maybe start walking together in the mornings. If your need for “us” time gets met they way then maybe you won’t care about the video games.

 

[AlotLikePsyche]

Of course I’ve been single most my life, and never married, so consider the source.

 

[SissySalina]

Communication is important in any relationship. Yes folks have a tendency to get too focused on some things. A lot of times this is not intended they just get caught up in stuff and the mind blocks other stuff out. Time should be allowed for others but remember to make time for your relationship also. Find something that you like to do together and do it, set time aside for it.

 

[dolf]

I think it's important to accept that being each others everything is an unrealistic expectation. Let them have their time for their hobby without you, and then expect some time investment in your relationship too. If you feel left out by him having his own interests, you probably need more of your own.

... unless he's genuinely neglecting you. If you're not appreciated and respected, consider the future carefully.

 

[Biggs_Darklighter]

That sometimes it makes me feel invisible. Like, he just really gets into it. And he will be in party chats with his friends, and get so loud and excitable at times. Maybe I'm the problem, because I don't play too? I'm just not interested. Sorry for the vent, I just needed to.

Most gamers I know are pretty horny fellas. However timing is everything and wanting some dick while dude is on a raid or fighting a boss or generally just having fun with his buds is usually considered bad form. It's your fault and you should be ashamed

 

[Bad_Egg]

Boss fighting or raiding = endorphine/testosterone spike! Get that after-battle-sex!.

Most gamers I know are pretty horny fellas. However timing is everything and wanting some dick while dude is on a raid or fighting a boss or generally just having fun with his buds is usually considered bad form. It's your fault and you should be ashamed

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[hogjack]

Most gamers I know are pretty horny fellas.

Sure. But they want to bang animated characters. Real humans, not so much.

 

[Lancedalot]

That sometimes it makes me feel invisible. Like, he just really gets into it. And he will be in party chats with his friends, and get so loud and excitable at times. Maybe I'm the problem, because I don't play too? I'm just not interested. Sorry for the vent, I just needed to.

dolf is right.

Life is far too short for a hot nublile young lady to waste any of it with a unappreciative game boy.

What you need is a real man.

How old are you? (I have a 20-18 slot currently open)

How much do you weigh? (Necessary for air weight calcs for my Lear, pictured below arriving at my private isle in the Caymans this morn, piloted by yours truly of course)

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Do you have all your teeth? (No falsies allowed)

Toss me a PM if youd like to apply by phonesex.