HT: Have the confidence to give my guy a BJ

[Deep_and_slow]

So let me start by saying my confidence is really low. Been in a bad relationship and it pretty much destroyed me as a person.

But this guy is the complete opposite and it's not only about him.

I want to be able to have to confidence to go down on him and for him to enjoy it (its something I want too) but I'm worried itll come to it and I'll get scared

Help!! I want to be able to blow his mind with some new found confidence

 

[TarnishedPenny]

First off, comfort hugs for your previous hurt.

Now, congratulatory brave-girl hugs for being brave enough to try to rise above that.

If your new guy is as great as you seem to think, why not just be honest with him? “Honey, I really want to do this for you, but I’m still a bit freaked out over what happened with Brutus. Can we take it slow?”

What loving guy would say No to that? You two could even make a game of it, you trying new things and him giving you feedback.

Good luck!

 

[CandK_inSE]

Welcome to Lit! We hope you can learn here as well as maybe make friends and help your sex life.

Both of us post here; my husband more, but your question hits home for me.

I didn’t give anyone a blow job until I was dating my husband. I wasn’t good at it at all. I had, and still have a horrible gag reflex. I know he had at least two previous girlfriends that were good at it, but he was so sweet and patient with me as I tried. He just enjoyed my mouth on his cock, and he encouraged me to keep trying.

As time has gone on, the gag reflex comes and goes. It’s not too bad now, and he says I’ve gotten pretty good. I like the taste of him and his cum, but the one thing I still can’t get right is when he starts to cum and it spurts. I can take his first shot, but have to take the rest on my face or chest. It’s one thing I really want to do for him, but just aren’t there yet.

As for your confidence, if this man likes you, or dare I say, loves you, he will enjoy anything that you can do for him. If he’s anything like my husband, he’ll encourage you and you’ll get better.

Good luck!! Have fun!!

 

[Privates1stClass]

I want to be able to have to confidence to go down on him and for him to enjoy it (its something I want too) but I'm worried itll come to it and I'll get scared

Help!! I want to be able to blow his mind with some new found confidence

Sorry to hear about your previous bad relationship, but I think TarnishedPenny had good advice.

Just so you know, there's no such thing as a bad blowjob. Your new BF will be happy that you want to please him.

Best of luck.

 

[ef_oh_ex]

So let me start by saying my confidence is really low. Been in a bad relationship and it pretty much destroyed me as a person.

But this guy is the complete opposite and it's not only about him.

I want to be able to have to confidence to go down on him and for him to enjoy it (its something I want too) but I'm worried itll come to it and I'll get scared

Help!! I want to be able to blow his mind with some new found confidence

Wow - this Lit crew really knocked it out of the park on your questions/concerns!
Excellent advice, folks...

 

[cpcrazed]

Sorry to hear about your previous bad relationship, but I think TarnishedPenny had good advice.

Just so you know, there's no such thing as a bad blowjob. Your new BF will be happy that you want to please him.

Best of luck.

This, so much this. No matter what he will enjoy it. I would just be honest and up front with him about you being nervous. If he is even close to as great as you say he will love your honesty and openness, and he will love even more that you are wanting to try and to please him.

 

[PapaDan]

So let me start by saying my confidence is really low. Been in a bad relationship and it pretty much destroyed me as a person.

But this guy is the complete opposite and it's not only about him.

I want to be able to have to confidence to go down on him and for him to enjoy it (its something I want too) but I'm worried itll come to it and I'll get scared

Help!! I want to be able to blow his mind with some new found confidence

You say you were in a bad relationship? And this guy is the complete opposite? Then let this new guy teach you confidence, let him teach you how to please him. Some guys like that.

 

[PapaDan]

Sorry to hear about your previous bad relationship, but I think TarnishedPenny had good advice.

Just so you know, there's no such thing as a bad blowjob. Your new BF will be happy that you want to please him.

Best of luck.

I disagree, there is such a thing as a bad blow job, especially if she gags and pukes in your lap.

 

[twister947]

You say you were in a bad relationship? And this guy is the complete opposite? Then let this new guy teach you confidence, let him teach you how to please him. Some guys like that.

I like this. A lot.
And besides, there's the teacher/student dynamic to play with. Win!