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[Jada59]

The sexual tension continues!

I'm sure many of you here have followed my story but it's killing me now!

My gardener is about half my age and he lives here. He used to hug me a lot and that would cause me to have orgasms. He would also have me give him massages. He is hot as hell!

We had some issues and I asked him to move out. He started to but now we are locked down here together, perhaps for up to another year. The police told me to evict him, but I would have to wait until the courts open. But...

Our lovely Governor is now telling us we have to wait another 6 months after this pandemic is over to evict. And... We can't evict during winter. So we are stuck here together.

He has a lot of anxiety, especially about this pandemic so no more hugs or massages and he freaks if I come near him. But...

He keeps coming near me! When I am on the computer (desktop)l he gets very close, hovers over me and takes control of the keyboard and mouse, sometimes for 10-15 minutes at a time. I feel like I am wearing him!

I know he watches me dance, but I have started working out again and he is watching that. I found out that he has a butt fetish. I was working on my butt muscles and he was standing behind me, gawking. After that, I needed to do an exercise where I lie on the floor, then arch my back. I had a dress on, and he was eagerly watching me. I had to shift positions so he couldn't see up my dress.

He recently came out of the shower, totally naked and wet, and walked past me like that. I realize he likely failed to bring fresh towels or clothes in with him. But he could easily have covered himself with the clothes he took off or even grabbed a trash bag as there was a box of trash bags nearby. He could have even covered with toilet paper!

So basically, he is making me so horny that when I get up from my computer chair, there's a huge wet spot.

But... He has a GF. And he acts like sex with me would be repulsive. I was recently talking to a Lit. guy about sex. We were not having phone sex. Just talking about sex. The gardener said, "Ew! Old people talking about sex!"

So... You see my dilemma. There is no way I would/could have sex with him. I have a RL BF. He and I just can't see each other until we are off of lockdown. And... I've got this little hottie here, driving me wild. Help!

 

[enigma3]

Hello jada59. looking back at your post history you contradict yourself so many times!! the house (ie) The Property is yours?. you state that you have spoken to the police about the situation ??? is J living rent free?

 

[NightL]

Set clear boundaries
Insist they be respected
Find out how your tenancy arrangement/situation fits within existing guidelines of "no eviction" during virus (if you indeed have them).

Be straight up, "this living arrangement is not working out so well for us now, I believe it best if you made efforts to find somewhere else to live. It may be more appropriate for you to walk naked in front of your girlfriend, why don't you move in with her"

or simply start coughing a LOT

 

[enigma3]

Insist that the freeloader moves back into the "tiny house" of which you speak. without the use of your bathroom. that is not an eviction order.

 

[enigma3]

jada59. i wish you well but i really do think you have health issues that you need to deal with.

I know he watches me dance, but I have started working out again and he is watching that. I found out that he has a butt fetish. I was working on my butt muscles and he was standing behind me, gawking. After that, I needed to do an exercise where I lie on the floor, then arch my back. I had a dress on, and he was eagerly watching me. I had to shift positions so he couldn't see up my dress.

are you taking medication.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Hell, another long term lock down? WTF? We're out of lock down, actually never where in a real lock down. I do go out all the time, walk around, to the drugstore on the corner over to the park. Wouldn't even wear a mask, well, except when I went in the drugstore they wouldn't let you in without one.

I know the laws are kinda wacky over there but, it's still your house, kick his ass out. He has a GF, he can go live with her.

 

[AloneTooLong]

Jada is up in the Northwest, unlike us here in Texas.

 

[Jada59]

Hello jada59. looking back at your post history you contradict yourself so many times!! the house (ie) The Property is yours?. you state that you have spoken to the police about the situation ??? is J living rent free?

Yes, I own then property. Yes, I have spoken to the police. Yes, he lives rent free, but... He does do work for me so it's pretty much an exchange.

I can't get him gone due to this pandemic. I was going to pay him money to do the yard, after he left. But now he can't leave and I can't make him leave due to the pandemic.

 

[Jada59]

Set clear boundaries
Insist they be respected
Find out how your tenancy arrangement/situation fits within existing guidelines of "no eviction" during virus (if you indeed have them).

Be straight up, "this living arrangement is not working out so well for us now, I believe it best if you made efforts to find somewhere else to live. It may be more appropriate for you to walk naked in front of your girlfriend, why don't you move in with her"

or simply start coughing a LOT

At this point, it doesn't matter what the arrangement is. We both have to shelter in place here. Nobody can move out or in. The only exception would be a homeless person or family who can buy a house. They must buy it sight unseen except for pics. These rules are set by our governor.

He can't move in with the GF. She lives her parents and he's not allowed over there at all. But he also can't move at all. She's not supposed to be here (now) either but they own a business together and he has no vehicle so she picks him up.

The police told us we have to make the best of the situation until the courts open back up but now that doesn't even matter because the Governor said we have to wait another 6 months beyond when this pandemic is over to evict. Plus he has no money. His type of work was deemed non-essential up until a few days ago. He applied for unemployment and a small business loan but both of those are all bunged up in this state. The only people that got them are those who applied right away.

So for now, we are stuck here.

 

[Jada59]

Insist that the freeloader moves back into the "tiny house" of which you speak. without the use of your bathroom. that is not an eviction order.

That's not legal. If I did, he could sue me once the courts open. He's not a free loader. He does work for me. That's not the issue. The issue is him setting my sex drive into overdrive.

 

[Jada59]

Hell, another long term lock down? WTF? We're out of lock down, actually never where in a real lock down. I do go out all the time, walk around, to the drugstore on the corner over to the park. Wouldn't even wear a mask, well, except when I went in the drugstore they wouldn't let you in without one.

I know the laws are kinda wacky over there but, it's still your house, kick his ass out. He has a GF, he can go live with her.

We were the first in this country to be put in lockdown. The Governor is acting like it is law. He let almost 1,000 felons out of jail/prison so they wouldn't get the virus. Meanwhile, he is locking up law abiding citizens. Governor being Jay Inslee. He let it slip on the Bernie Bro website that this Pandemic is good for his climate change agenda. The man is being sue by sooo many people!

If we go to a park, we can't stand, sit or talk to others. He will be appointing part ambassadors to enforce this. It's miserable to live here now.

 

[Jada59]

Jada is up in the Northwest, unlike us here in Texas.

Yeah. And our Governor is nutty buddy.

 

[Just4AFriend]

So...
Accidentally get in the shower with him
Oops!!
Fuck the gf!

Leave your cum soaked panties for him on the sink. See if they move!

Enjoy teasing the hell out of him!

Screw them if they are upset to hear you playing with yourself

 

[Misshotndeep]

At this point, it doesn't matter what the arrangement is. We both have to shelter in place here. Nobody can move out or in. The only exception would be a homeless person or family who can buy a house. They must buy it sight unseen except for pics. These rules are set by our governor.

He can't move in with the GF. She lives her parents and he's not allowed over there at all. But he also can't move at all. She's not supposed to be here (now) either but they own a business together and he has no vehicle so she picks him up.

The police told us we have to make the best of the situation until the courts open back up but now that doesn't even matter because the Governor said we have to wait another 6 months beyond when this pandemic is over to evict. Plus he has no money. His type of work was deemed non-essential up until a few days ago. He applied for unemployment and a small business loan but both of those are all bunged up in this state. The only people that got them are those who applied right away.

So for now, we are stuck here.

What state are you in?

 

[Jada59]

What state are you in?

Washington

 

[Misshotndeep]

Washington

Then I would like to point out some issues with your post about your governor. He never said anyone had to buy houses site unseen. Realty companies across the U.S. have set up virtual tours of homes. They existed pre-pandemic actually. Also none of your stay at home order keep you from moving. They only ask that you not have parties/ large gatherings, close non-essential work places. I will admit some states governors have gone to far and are using it make themselves tiny dictators. Your state is not one of them. I live in Ohio and we have more restrictions than you. Life is going very well here.
All of the lock downs are based on past scientific data from the past pandemic, Spanish flu, Tuberculosis...etc. It is not a random anything.
As for your living situation, I am sorry to hear you are having issues but I can tell you from experience that a lot of it is your attitude. I have often noticed you talk about your roommate and I am guessing he really does not want to live with you either. I would love to be a fly on the wall to see what the situation really is like and not just hear your side of it.

 

[Jada59]

Then I would like to point out some issues with your post about your governor. He never said anyone had to buy houses site unseen. Realty companies across the U.S. have set up virtual tours of homes. They existed pre-pandemic actually. Also none of your stay at home order keep you from moving. They only ask that you not have parties/ large gatherings, close non-essential work places. I will admit some states governors have gone to far and are using it make themselves tiny dictators. Your state is not one of them. I live in Ohio and we have more restrictions than you. Life is going very well here.
All of the lock downs are based on past scientific data from the past pandemic, Spanish flu, Tuberculosis...etc. It is not a random anything.
As for your living situation, I am sorry to hear you are having issues but I can tell you from experience that a lot of it is your attitude. I have often noticed you talk about your roommate and I am guessing he really does not want to live with you either. I would love to be a fly on the wall to see what the situation really is like and not just hear your side of it.

Our Governor HAS gone too far. He said he can keep us at home forever if he wants. As for the selling of homes, I do know realtors and I know what they can and can not do right now. I think they are now (as in the last week) allowed to show homes in certain circumstances but there are tons of rules. I also know that a virtual house can look nothing like the real house. I looked at my mom's house that way. I didn't recognize it at all. They staged it and took the pics to make the house look bigger.

Some people were able to go back to work this week. Only certain occupations. Most of us are still stuck at home with no end in sight.

 

[Misshotndeep]

Our Governor HAS gone too far. He said he can keep us at home forever if he wants. As for the selling of homes, I do know realtors and I know what they can and can not do right now. I think they are now (as in the last week) allowed to show homes in certain circumstances but there are tons of rules. I also know that a virtual house can look nothing like the real house. I looked at my mom's house that way. I didn't recognize it at all. They staged it and took the pics to make the house look bigger.

Some people were able to go back to work this week. Only certain occupations. Most of us are still stuck at home with no end in sight.

Then I guess you guys should start paying attention to the rules and encourage your neighbors to as well. I fell zero empathy for idiots who want to spread disease and take other with them. Stay home and the orders should be lifted pretty soon. Your state has not even peaked yet. How you gonna let everyone out when you cant even care for them all?
Staging is kinda like a Hail Mary for house sales. Ouch! It suppose to make the house look the best it can. Most folks have no design style and fuck up the space they have with over-sized furniture, no design style and so forth. The virtual tours also can't make a house look bigger. They can only show space that is there. Anything else is false advertising and unlawful.
Realtors have been doing virtual tours for over a decade. I was recently reading an article on how realtors have been giving a ton of virtual tour access over these last few months. They were saying how lucky they were to have access to such tech. Some realtors have even taken to walking around the homes with their smartphone cameras to give tours.
Basically my point is that is all about your attitude.

 

[Jada59]

Then I guess you guys should start paying attention to the rules and encourage your neighbors to as well. I fell zero empathy for idiots who want to spread disease and take other with them. Stay home and the orders should be lifted pretty soon. Your state has not even peaked yet. How you gonna let everyone out when you cant even care for them all?
Staging is kinda like a Hail Mary for house sales. Ouch! It suppose to make the house look the best it can. Most folks have no design style and fuck up the space they have with over-sized furniture, no design style and so forth. The virtual tours also can't make a house look bigger. They can only show space that is there. Anything else is false advertising and unlawful.
Realtors have been doing virtual tours for over a decade. I was recently reading an article on how realtors have been giving a ton of virtual tour access over these last few months. They were saying how lucky they were to have access to such tech. Some realtors have even taken to walking around the homes with their smartphone cameras to give tours.
Basically my point is that is all about your attitude.

If it's about my attitude, then how can I change it? I can't change what he is doing. And he's still doing it. 3:39 am and he has been in here since dinner time, constantly engaging me.

 

[Misshotndeep]

If it's about my attitude, then how can I change it? I can't change what he is doing. And he's still doing it. 3:39 am and he has been in here since dinner time, constantly engaging me.

Try telling him to go fuck off. If it is your place call the cops and have him removed. There are always options. Find a family member to stay with. Go stay at a shelter. There are always options. I am saying this as a survivor of real abuse. Shelters are taking even more precautions now for battered women.

 

[Jada59]

Try telling him to go fuck off. If it is your place call the cops and have him removed. There are always options. Find a family member to stay with. Go stay at a shelter. There are always options. I am saying this as a survivor of real abuse. Shelters are taking even more precautions now for battered women.

You seem to not have read what I said. The cops can not and will not remove him and there is no law for against turning someone on.

I'm not battered. I never said he was violent to me. We do get along. He isn't doing anything wrong, I'm just very turned on by him.

I'm not a mean person and I certainly wouldn't tell him to fuck off. I did actually tell him that once, a few weeks ago. Can't remember why now but it was due to something he said.

Right now he is being very nice. He has been cleaning the kitchen, which he should be doing because he made the mess.

I am not going to get into what prompted me to ask him to leave before. I'm not going to put all of my business on the Internet and I'm certainly not going to put his business online.

Bottom line, the issue is the fact that I am very turned on by him but we can't do down that path. So it's hard for me. I want to put my hands on him and things like that.

I will add that we are both abuse survivors so we do try hard not to set each other off in that regard. It has happened. We both startle easily.

 

[Misshotndeep]

You seem to not have read what I said. The cops can not and will not remove him and there is no law for against turning someone on.

I'm not battered. I never said he was violent to me. We do get along. He isn't doing anything wrong, I'm just very turned on by him.

I'm not a mean person and I certainly wouldn't tell him to fuck off. I did actually tell him that once, a few weeks ago. Can't remember why now but it was due to something he said.

Right now he is being very nice. He has been cleaning the kitchen, which he should be doing because he made the mess.

I am not going to get into what prompted me to ask him to leave before. I'm not going to put all of my business on the Internet and I'm certainly not going to put his business online.

Bottom line, the issue is the fact that I am very turned on by him but we can't do down that path. So it's hard for me. I want to put my hands on him and things like that.

Oh, I read what you wrote. I just wanted to see it again.

 

[Jada59]

Oh, I read what you wrote. I just wanted to see it again.

Um... Okay.

 

[enigma3]

What state are you in?

On a Planet far far away. sorry but peeps have gave you some good advice and you dont seem to want it. over and out from Planet zonk

 

[Jada59]

On a Planet far far away. sorry but peeps have gave you some good advice and you dont seem to want it. over and out from Planet zonk

People "have gave"? People have given me advice to get rid of him and for now that is something I can't do. Did I piss in your Cheerios or something?