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[Kitt_e_Katt_za]

I know there are probably many threads similar,
This is one of my biggest fears, I just never got it right.
I have a smaller than usual mouth and just feel awkward and eventually I just get in my head and the poor man gives up.
Now I'm just plain terrified....
Anyone have advice .. this should be easy as pie why can't I get it right?

 

[martinfs]

Its all about how you use your toungue

 

[Lady2020]

Maybe you haven't done it with the right man. You have to like him and think he's hot af. And if he's smart, he will guide you.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I have a kinda small mouth, too, and a strong gag reflex so that’s fun. But I love going down on my guy. My tips:

1. The tip is pretty important. Licking and swirling your tongue around the tip is a good start.

2. To make up for my small and easily tired mouth, I tend to get lots of saliva going and bring my hand into the game. So I will be sucking on the head and tip, but using my hand to jack him off at the same time. So, yeah, spit on it basically.

Practice makes perfect on getting your mouth and hand timed together. (Like you’re going down with your mouth at the same time your hand is stroking down, and then suck as you go back up towards the very tip and your hand moves in that direction too). This is the best thing to keep my mouth from getting too tired and he also seems to really enjoy it.

3. Watch the teeth. Most guys don’t want teeth action.

I’d also let him know you’re nervous and that you’d really like encouraging tips/feedback so you can get really good at pleasing him. Have fun with it.

 

[Kitt_e_Katt_za]

I have a kinda small mouth, too, and a strong gag reflex so that’s fun. But I love going down on my guy. My tips:

1. The tip is pretty important. Licking and swirling your tongue around the tip is a good start.

2. To make up for my small and easily tired mouth, I tend to get lots of saliva going and bring my hand into the game. So I will be sucking on the head and tip, but using my hand to jack him off at the same time. So, yeah, spit on it basically.

Practice makes perfect on getting your mouth and hand timed together. (Like you’re going down with your mouth at the same time your hand is stroking down, and then suck as you go back up towards the very tip and your hand moves in that direction too). This is the best thing to keep my mouth from getting too tired and he also seems to really enjoy it.

3. Watch the teeth. Most guys don’t want teeth action.

I’d also let him know you’re nervous and that you’d really like encouraging tips/feedback so you can get really good at pleasing him. Have fun with it.

Thank you so much, this is super helpful.
I'm excited to practice

 

[LongDraw]

From a guy's perspective, don't stop the blow job to talk to him. Focus on the task. Nothing can kill the enjoyment of a blow job faster than being peppered with a thousand questions.

Also, as most guys know, but never tell women because they don't have the balls, most women aren't experts at giving head. They assume they are, but unless they are prostitutes or whores with years of experience of giving head every day of their lives, they probably know very little.

Oh, and one more thing. Nothing can kill the romance of a marriage quite like reducing the frequency of giving your husband head, or worse cutting him off from it completely. Sure it's disgusting to be equated to a piece of ass, but it's reality. Accept or deny it at your peril.

 

[RockHardKP]

Before I offer my input it is only fair to say that I have never given a blowjob, have received a few and offer the following......Take Your Time. Have FUN & Enjoy Yourself. For me the biggest turn on is when she wants to do it. When she is turned on by doing it. On the flip side its a bit of a turn off if she is grossed out and worried about not getting squirted on, etc

 

[ppd1107]

Before I offer my input it is only fair to say that I have never given a blowjob, have received a few and offer the following......Have FUN & Enjoy Yourself. For me the biggest turn on is when she wants to do it. When she is turned on by doing it.

This is %100 true. Have fun and be into it. Pay attention to what your partner is doing and the sounds they are making. That is the gauge you will be able to tell if they like what you are doing

 

[Volk359]

If I may add my 2¢ here; swirling the tip with your tongue is great along with little nibbles with your lips. Slide your lips sideways up and down the shaft like a popsicle, it feels great and it gives your jaws a rest. Give short little moans like you’re tasting something really delicious, even if it isn’t. It makes you sound like you’re enjoying it which is a real turn on for us. Play with the balls and if your hands are big enough, encircle them with your thumb and middle finger and gently pull them away from him.

Don’t let him force you, like deep throating or cumming on your mouth if you don’t like it. That is your decision. I disagree somewhat with the no talking comment, a little dirty talk goes a long way. “Do you like this?” with a kiss on the tip while looking in his eyes is awesome, but save the critique for after. There’s nothing wrong with asking how you did, what he liked and didn’t like. After.

Oral play goes both ways for guys and gals, listen to him and his body. If he’s moaning and visibly excited you’re doing it right. If he’s quiet and just lying there change your game.

As always, practice makes perfect and I’m sure he won’t mind. If you’re looking someone to practice on let me know.

 

[davion2308]

As a guy, the top thing for an amazing BJ is when she, and I prefer women so this isn't gender-specific, wants to be there. Enthusiasm and having fun with pleasuring me is sexier than pure technique.

Technique counts too, though. And I like when there's a bit of variety but when it's about what he likes, trying things and communicating: "Do you like that? More of this?" or even noises that mean "How am I doing?"

Different guys like different things and the simply enthusiasm and effort are what do it the most for me.

 

[LongDraw]

... I disagree somewhat with the no talking comment, a little dirty talk goes a long way. “Do you like this?” with a kiss on the tip while looking in his eyes is awesome, but save the critique for after. There’s nothing wrong with asking how you did, what he liked and didn’t like. After. ...

I wanted to respond here, your elaboration on this is something I agree with. What I was trying to point out is that women sometimes have a tendency to ask so many questions during the activity that it becomes more like an interrogation.

A few short comments while you jack him off to excite him by suggesting kinky things like for example "What if I was doing this in front of my best friend? Would you like it if she came over and joined in?" Then go back to blowing him. Don't wait for him to verbalize his answer. His response if he likes what he is feeling and heard will be reflected in his physical responses and moaning, or lack thereof if something isn't turning him on.

Basically don't hold book club while you're blowing your man, unless the book Club are all going to blow your man!

 

[Ashley19xx]

I think it's just as much a visual experience as it is a sensual one. You need to present it well which requires building anticipation. Warming him up, so to speak . Most important is thar you are comfortable with yourself and your sexuality. Bring out the inner slut, and I am not using that term in an offensive or negative way.
Also it's not just using your mouth. Use all your assets, girl.
In terms of presentation, draw his attention to your lips and tits. Put on some wet/shiny lip gloss and show him some cleavage. Give him subtle signs, like biting your lower lip while looking at him. Start with his hand/finger and give him an idea of what your mouth feels like. Lick and suck on his finger like it's his shaft, all the while maintaining eye contact and giving him the occasional subtle sigh or moan.
Unwrap it slowly, trace the outline through his boxers/briefs while letting him know that thinking about playing with his cock is making your pussy tingle and your panties/thong creamy.
Bring your tits into the game. Circle your nipples with the head. If his precum leaves a trace and your tits are big enough, suck it from your nipple. Let him feel and see your soft hands wrapped around his hard shaft.
At some point he'll want to either fuck your tits, your mouth, or both. But take it slow. Tease him. Bring out the animal .
If possible, let an ice cube melt in your mouth before licking/sucking on it. The sensation of your cold lips/tongue/mouth on his hot, pulsing cock will make him think he died and entered heaven. When he gasps for air and grabs you by the hair, you know you are on the right track. Just my 2 cents....

 

[DCJealous]

I think it's just as much a visual experience as it is a sensual one. You need to present it well which requires building anticipation. Warming him up, so to speak . Most important is thar you are comfortable with yourself and your sexuality. Bring out the inner slut, and I am not using that term in an offensive or negative way.
Also it's not just using your mouth. Use all your assets, girl.
In terms of presentation, draw his attention to your lips and tits. Put on some wet/shiny lip gloss and show him some cleavage. Give him subtle signs, like biting your lower lip while looking at him. Start with his hand/finger and give him an idea of what your mouth feels like. Lick and suck on his finger like it's his shaft, all the while maintaining eye contact and giving him the occasional subtle sigh or moan.
Unwrap it slowly, trace the outline through his boxers/briefs while letting him know that thinking about playing with his cock is making your pussy tingle and your panties/thong creamy.
Bring your tits into the game. Circle your nipples with the head. If his precum leaves a trace and your tits are big enough, suck it from your nipple. Let him feel and see your soft hands wrapped around his hard shaft.
At some point he'll want to either fuck your tits, your mouth, or both. But take it slow. Tease him. Bring out the animal .
If possible, let an ice cube melt in your mouth before licking/sucking on it. The sensation of your cold lips/tongue/mouth on his hot, pulsing cock will make him think he died and entered heaven. When he gasps for air and grabs you by the hair, you know you are on the right track. Just my 2 cents....

I feel like I need a cigarette. And I don’t even smoke.

 

[yorker85]

As a guy, I've found the best blow jobs are wet and enthusiastic. If either of those are missing, it's just not right.

 

[jason28053]

I think it's just as much a visual experience as it is a sensual one. You need to present it well which requires building anticipation. Warming him up, so to speak . Most important is thar you are comfortable with yourself and your sexuality. Bring out the inner slut, and I am not using that term in an offensive or negative way.
Also it's not just using your mouth. Use all your assets, girl.
In terms of presentation, draw his attention to your lips and tits. Put on some wet/shiny lip gloss and show him some cleavage. Give him subtle signs, like biting your lower lip while looking at him. Start with his hand/finger and give him an idea of what your mouth feels like. Lick and suck on his finger like it's his shaft, all the while maintaining eye contact and giving him the occasional subtle sigh or moan.
Unwrap it slowly, trace the outline through his boxers/briefs while letting him know that thinking about playing with his cock is making your pussy tingle and your panties/thong creamy.
Bring your tits into the game. Circle your nipples with the head. If his precum leaves a trace and your tits are big enough, suck it from your nipple. Let him feel and see your soft hands wrapped around his hard shaft.
At some point he'll want to either fuck your tits, your mouth, or both. But take it slow. Tease him. Bring out the animal .
If possible, let an ice cube melt in your mouth before licking/sucking on it. The sensation of your cold lips/tongue/mouth on his hot, pulsing cock will make him think he died and entered heaven. When he gasps for air and grabs you by the hair, you know you are on the right track. Just my 2 cents....

Wow, well worth the 2 cents!

 

[Volk359]

I think it's just as much a visual experience as it is a sensual one. You need to present it well which requires building anticipation. Warming him up, so to speak . Most important is thar you are comfortable with yourself and your sexuality. Bring out the inner slut, and I am not using that term in an offensive or negative way.
Also it's not just using your mouth. Use all your assets, girl.
In terms of presentation, draw his attention to your lips and tits. Put on some wet/shiny lip gloss and show him some cleavage. Give him subtle signs, like biting your lower lip while looking at him. Start with his hand/finger and give him an idea of what your mouth feels like. Lick and suck on his finger like it's his shaft, all the while maintaining eye contact and giving him the occasional subtle sigh or moan.
Unwrap it slowly, trace the outline through his boxers/briefs while letting him know that thinking about playing with his cock is making your pussy tingle and your panties/thong creamy.
Bring your tits into the game. Circle your nipples with the head. If his precum leaves a trace and your tits are big enough, suck it from your nipple. Let him feel and see your soft hands wrapped around his hard shaft.
At some point he'll want to either fuck your tits, your mouth, or both. But take it slow. Tease him. Bring out the animal .
If possible, let an ice cube melt in your mouth before licking/sucking on it. The sensation of your cold lips/tongue/mouth on his hot, pulsing cock will make him think he died and entered heaven. When he gasps for air and grabs you by the hair, you know you are on the right track. Just my 2 cents....

I think I’m in love!

 

[Kitt_e_Katt_za]

I think it's just as much a visual experience as it is a sensual one. You need to present it well which requires building anticipation. Warming him up, so to speak . Most important is thar you are comfortable with yourself and your sexuality. Bring out the inner slut, and I am not using that term in an offensive or negative way.
Also it's not just using your mouth. Use all your assets, girl.
In terms of presentation, draw his attention to your lips and tits. Put on some wet/shiny lip gloss and show him some cleavage. Give him subtle signs, like biting your lower lip while looking at him. Start with his hand/finger and give him an idea of what your mouth feels like. Lick and suck on his finger like it's his shaft, all the while maintaining eye contact and giving him the occasional subtle sigh or moan.
Unwrap it slowly, trace the outline through his boxers/briefs while letting him know that thinking about playing with his cock is making your pussy tingle and your panties/thong creamy.
Bring your tits into the game. Circle your nipples with the head. If his precum leaves a trace and your tits are big enough, suck it from your nipple. Let him feel and see your soft hands wrapped around his hard shaft.
At some point he'll want to either fuck your tits, your mouth, or both. But take it slow. Tease him. Bring out the animal .
If possible, let an ice cube melt in your mouth before licking/sucking on it. The sensation of your cold lips/tongue/mouth on his hot, pulsing cock will make him think he died and entered heaven. When he gasps for air and grabs you by the hair, you know you are on the right track. Just my 2 cents....

Girl - you have mad skills

 

[Big4Wheeler]

I know there are probably many threads similar,
This is one of my biggest fears, I just never got it right.
I have a smaller than usual mouth and just feel awkward and eventually I just get in my head and the poor man gives up.
Now I'm just plain terrified....
Anyone have advice .. this should be easy as pie why can't I get it right?

I guess you sparked some imagination and there are probably many men willing to act as crash test dummy.

 

[Kitt_e_Katt_za]

Big4Wheeler have you ever conquered something that has seemed impossible your whole life.
Just the very idea that I could have a man cum in my mouth, it's enthralling...if that's the correct word

 

[Big4Wheeler]

Big4Wheeler have you ever conquered something that has seemed impossible your whole life.
Just the very idea that I could have a man cum in my mouth, it's enthralling...if that's the correct word

Well ... yes. I've overcome quite some hurdles in my life. My sexual goals are different though although i can understand yours. And I can appreciate your effort to learn and find a way to get your satisfaction. Your partner must be thrilled i guess. I think i would be when my partner asked here how he could best ...
.

 

[Kitt_e_Katt_za]

Well ... yes. I've overcome quite some hurdles in my life. My sexual goals are different though although i can understand yours. And I can appreciate your effort to learn and find a way to get your satisfaction. Your partner must be thrilled i guess. I think i would be when my partner asked here how he could best ...
.

I don't have a partner, I just want to make sure if I do meet someone that my fear or inexperience doesn't hold me back

 

[Big4Wheeler]

I don't have a partner, I just want to make sure if I do meet someone that my fear or inexperience doesn't hold me back

I guess it's something you just have to want and experience as a couple. With your attitude you can make a man really happy. Good luck!

 

[Dudeqwe]

I think it's just as much a visual experience as it is a sensual one. You need to present it well which requires building anticipation. Warming him up, so to speak . Most important is thar you are comfortable with yourself and your sexuality. Bring out the inner slut, and I am not using that term in an offensive or negative way.
Also it's not just using your mouth. Use all your assets, girl.
In terms of presentation, draw his attention to your lips and tits. Put on some wet/shiny lip gloss and show him some cleavage. Give him subtle signs, like biting your lower lip while looking at him. Start with his hand/finger and give him an idea of what your mouth feels like. Lick and suck on his finger like it's his shaft, all the while maintaining eye contact and giving him the occasional subtle sigh or moan.
Unwrap it slowly, trace the outline through his boxers/briefs while letting him know that thinking about playing with his cock is making your pussy tingle and your panties/thong creamy.
Bring your tits into the game. Circle your nipples with the head. If his precum leaves a trace and your tits are big enough, suck it from your nipple. Let him feel and see your soft hands wrapped around his hard shaft.
At some point he'll want to either fuck your tits, your mouth, or both. But take it slow. Tease him. Bring out the animal .
If possible, let an ice cube melt in your mouth before licking/sucking on it. The sensation of your cold lips/tongue/mouth on his hot, pulsing cock will make him think he died and entered heaven. When he gasps for air and grabs you by the hair, you know you are on the right track. Just my 2 cents....

Ashley19xx, you..I just..I can't...I...

Kitt Katt, I'll add just two words...Maximum Effort.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Rule 1. 99% of guys will say that they like getting head. The 1% are lying.

Rule 1A. Most guys will agree that even not-particularly-good head is better than no head. (YMMV with braces and vampire canines, of course.)

Put that together and your guy is going to like your oral moves. He will like them even better as you two learn more about each other and what works for you. Good sex is about learning what pleases your partner. And vice versa.

Rule 2. You should be doing it because you want to, not because it is expected of you. If he's demanding it, dump him and find a gentleman who appreciates you. No compromise.

Rule 3. You're in control. No? Consider than you've got your hand around his eggs and a mouthful of sharp teeth. You're in control.

OK, enough rules. Time for some suggestions.

If he's too big around to fit into your mouth (cover those teeth!), then lick - tongue-flicks around his head and slit, broad strokes everywhere. Repeat until his eyes cross. Lick behind his sac, lick his thighs, return to the main event.

If he's too long and you're worried about him poking the back of your throat, wrap your hand around his shaft and only take into your mouth that bit extending beyond your hand.

Suction is good, tongue motion inside your mouth is even better.

While your mouth is busy making him happy, you have two hands to make him still happier. Fondle the Boys with one hand, stroke and pump his shaft with the other.

Keep your eyes on the guy's! Seriously, your looking up at him with some enjoyment on your face will do wonders for his ego, pleasure and satisfaction.

Decide in advance how you're going to handle the inevitable. Swallowing is another ego-boost for the guy, but not every girl is up for that and that's entirely OK; you can always put that thing in another orifice for the grand finale. If not, well, spitting is kind of icky, so consider finishing him off with your hand. Either catch it in a hanky or enjoy the fountain, 'cause he will.

Now, all that said, go back to Rule 1 and whatever you do, do it happily and with enthusiasm.

Then remind him that sauce for the gander is sauce for the goose. "My turn, dude..."

Have fun.

 

[Kitt_e_Katt_za]

I guess it's something you just have to want and experience as a couple. With your attitude you can make a man really happy. Good luck!

Thank you Big4Wheeler.