Ginger_McHale
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Tell someone to fuck off without sounding too much like a bitch
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DeceptiveSpeed
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I'm sorry. I'd answer, but I am way too busy right now. I'll try to get back to you on that later, ok?
(Sometimes you have to be direct though. Just tell them you're not interested.)
(Sometimes you have to be direct though. Just tell them you're not interested.)
Ginger_McHale
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Both Lit PM's that I don't want as well as a guy irl who can't take the hint.
SweetDommeSam
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Yeah I understand what you mean; just simply tell them that you're not interested in talking to them. If they can't seem to get the hint I'm sure you could block them. Anytime I'm not interested, I just never reply back to them. Sounds bitchy but I'll avoid them until they give up.
DirtySecrets11
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In Lit regarding PMs, I just ignore those that want to chat/cyber or just the typical one liners like 'what is your fetishes". Introductions go a long way. There are the handful that get a bit rude or bombard my inbox. That's when I just say directly, cleanly - I'm not interested, no hard feelings.
Same with real life, you don't have to get nasty - just straight forward. If they are still persistent then they are disregarding your feelings and I would suggest you embrace the bitchiness and lay a smack down.
Eilan
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You can always shame the Litsters in the PM Asshattery thread.
As for the RL guy, maybe someone else can chime in. I've never dealt with that.
As for the RL guy, maybe someone else can chime in. I've never dealt with that.
Emerson40
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As far as PMs go, I think ignoring (both the regular variety, and the button function if warranted) work best. Replying, even expressing that off is the direction that they should fuck, will likely just encourage further messaging. Without a reply to respond to, I suspect even the most asshateous will move on.
As for real life, is this someone you have to see regularly, such as family or someone at the workplace, or an acquaintance who just isn't picking up what you're putting down?
The former will need a polite but direct conversation, clearly defining your expectations, your reasons (if you are bothered to explain), as well as what should be expected (reporting to supervisor, non-participation - theirs or yours - in family functions, etc) should they not comply.
If the latter, if all else has failed, a clear and direct fuck-off may be the order of the day. However you deliver it, you'll likely be perceived as a bitch. This should not be an issue as those closest know you for who you are, and the opinion of someone who can't get the message when delivered softly should not be your concern.
As for real life, is this someone you have to see regularly, such as family or someone at the workplace, or an acquaintance who just isn't picking up what you're putting down?
The former will need a polite but direct conversation, clearly defining your expectations, your reasons (if you are bothered to explain), as well as what should be expected (reporting to supervisor, non-participation - theirs or yours - in family functions, etc) should they not comply.
If the latter, if all else has failed, a clear and direct fuck-off may be the order of the day. However you deliver it, you'll likely be perceived as a bitch. This should not be an issue as those closest know you for who you are, and the opinion of someone who can't get the message when delivered softly should not be your concern.
DirtySecrets11
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why is this my first time hearing about this shaming thread lol
SmileyGirl
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Ignore them? You don't need to answer pm's. As for the real life situation be upfront. You don't have to be a bitch about it, just be truthful. Better that than pretending and the person taking it as you're interested in them.
Rozalin_0123
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This. Some guys as I've found out like negative responses, best not to send them anything at all. As for irl, politely tell him you're not interested. If he persists, THEN be a bitch about it. Sometimes you have to rude in order to get through to them. It won't make you less of a person if you attempted to do it nicely.
SmileyGirl
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Tee hee yeh I found that out early on. Some love it or even appear to 'get off on it' if you get all pissy and angry. Definitely easier just to ignore the douchebagsThis. Some guys as I've found out like negative responses, best not to send them anything at all. As for irl, politely tell him you're not interested. If he persists, THEN be a bitch about it. Sometimes you have to rude in order to get through to them. It won't make you less of a person if you attempted to do it nicely.
MILFSauce
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Fakeasmile said:
This. Some guys as I've found out like negative responses, best not to send them anything at all. As for irl, politely tell him you're not interested. If he persists, THEN be a bitch about it. Sometimes you have to rude in order to get through to them. It won't make you less of a person if you attempted to do it nicely.
Good advice, both. It's rarely ever necessary to be really bitchy.
But jeez, I didn't know that about guys actually liking negative responses. Serious? Damn.
IRL, it always kind of amazes me when men are rude and act like a dickhead. Hey, I'm easy. I'll go out with most anyone, as long as they're nice and polite and respectful, and seem like a decent sort of person. That's not a very high bar. All they have to do is be nice, for gods' sake, instead of a jerk. How hard can that be?
Rozalin_0123
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I've had a few that thrived on it, it was like no matter how many times I tried to tell them I wasn't interested and the meaner I got about it, the more they liked it. Different strokes I guess
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Rozalin_0123
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Apparently for some its as hard as finding the cure for cancer using Chinnese Algabra while walking a tight rope.
Julietravels
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When someone pms me, mostly men by far, and I have no interest, which is most of them, I just delete and ignore them. They don't even know if I ever received it. There are plenty of messages that go off the edge of what I am willing to discuss. The conversation usually ends there. My delete key works quite well.
lovecraft68
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I'll tell you in a PM if that doesn't work we can role play it out except when you say fuck off, you'll really mean. "Oh, baby! yes send me another pic of your cock!"
Just kidding.
My wife just ignores any stupid pm if they send a second or third she never even reads them eventually they take the hint. If you start a dialogue with these guys they think everything after that is a "she says leave me alone, but means please talk to me more."
Just kidding.
My wife just ignores any stupid pm if they send a second or third she never even reads them eventually they take the hint. If you start a dialogue with these guys they think everything after that is a "she says leave me alone, but means please talk to me more."
silverwhisper
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the ignore feature can work wonders for improving the signal: noise of your lit experience. iggy early, iggy often, says i.
and more importantly: iggy prevents that person ever from PMing you again. well, unless you decide to unignore them.
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and more importantly: iggy prevents that person ever from PMing you again. well, unless you decide to unignore them.
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Rozalin_0123
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Unless they make multiple Lit accounts, which has happened on more than one occasion
SamScribble
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I'm a bloke - and an old bloke at that - so batting away unwanted admirers is not something that I have to do on a regular basis. However, putting on my creative hat ... have you tried saying: 'Fuck off. Please. And if you don't, I may have to tell your mother what you are up to.' It's a thought.
