How to turn my girlfriend into a slut

[Gods_Favorite]

I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years and one if my biggest fantasies is for her to be more slutty and flirty with other men, a few weeks ago we went out with some friends and I was the dd and I let her drink and get loose, god I couldnt stop thinking about her letting another guy play with her fat tits. She went out on another girls night this past weekend and I told her I wanted her to be more flirty with men but she said she didnt do anything, anyone know how to make this happen? I had a conversation with a poster on here about lending my gf to him for a weekend so he could turn her into a well used whore and I almost came in my pants.

 

[Ellafun]

Be careful what you wish for.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Be careful what you wish for.

I know, I am willing to take the chance though.

 

[Ellafun]

I had a conversation with a poster on here about lending my gf to him for a weekend so he could turn her into a well used whore and I almost came in my pants.

Specifically, this part of your post. Your lack of respect for your girlfriend in this comment makes you sound like you are pimping her out. Frankly, I find it distasteful. That's just my opinion, of course.

She is who she is. You can't "change" people. If she doesn't already have that desire to engage with another partner, and you have specifically mentioned to her that you want her to, the conversation is over. So when I said, "Be careful what you wish for," I meant you are more than likely going to simply lose your girlfriend.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Specifically, this part of your post. Your lack of respect for your girlfriend in this comment makes you sound like you are pimping her out. Frankly, I find it distasteful. That's just my opinion, of course.

She is who she is. You can't "change" people. If she doesn't already have that desire to engage with another partner, and you have specifically mentioned to her that you want her to, the conversation is over. So when I said, "Be careful what you wish for," I meant you are more than likely going to simply lose your girlfriend.

I apologize I didnt mean to offend anyone.

 

[vibes]

I apologize I didnt mean to offend anyone.

I don't think anyone reading would get offended, unless your girlfriend is on Lit also: she will likely go with another guy as an alternative to you, not to please you

 

[MissMJStone]

There's a BIG difference between flirty and slutty. It's one thing for her to bat her eyelids at a guy for a free drink, quite another to go blow him in the club toilets. Be careful what you wish for. You may end up with nothing but your boner and your fantasy.

 

[bobinks2]

On a different forum, a poster asked the old question, "how do I convince my girlfriend to have sex with women and include me?" The best answer he got was, "You don't. You find a girlfriend who is bisexual and she'll convince you to join her with one of her girlfriends."

If having a slutty girlfriend who you can whore out to total strangers to use for the weekend is important to you, you need to end it with your current girlfriend and find a girl that's into that.

Good Luck.

 

[bailadora]

I apologize I didnt mean to offend anyone.

Having the fantasy is one thing. Trying to get her to fulfill it when she has no interest is another. That's what many of the HT regulars (myself included) will find offensive.

Honest advice: keep the fantasy as spank bank material and leave her the hell alone before she decides she's had enough of you bugging her and she decides to leave YOU.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

On a different forum, a poster asked the old question, "how do I convince my girlfriend to have sex with women and include me?" The best answer he got was, "You don't. You find a girlfriend who is bisexual and she'll convince you to join her with one of her girlfriends."

If having a slutty girlfriend who you can whore out to total strangers to use for the weekend is important to you, you need to end it with your current girlfriend and find a girl that's into that.

Good Luck.

Well the whole lending my gf out on the weekend thing was just a convo I had with another poster on here, it aroused me very much but theres no chance of it happening in real life. My desire to share my gf has definently grown over time but you guys are right, this will remain a fantasy barring some sort of miracle.

 

[nakdsub]

I wonder if you would show this threat...

To your girlfriend? If you don't think she would appreciate it, you shouldn't be doing it.

My suggestion is let her find a man who appreciates her, and go find yourself the kind of slut you want.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

To your girlfriend? If you don't think she would appreciate it, you shouldn't be doing it.

My suggestion is let her find a man who appreciates her, and go find yourself the kind of slut you want.

Yeah ok.

 

[rbone04]

There's a BIG difference between flirty and slutty. It's one thing for her to bat her eyelids at a guy for a free drink, quite another to go blow him in the club toilets...

Tell that to my whore of an ex.

 

[subwannabe]

Apparently this girlfriend really doesn't mean much to you as all you seem to care about is your own selfish wants, whether she wants it or not. I don't really want to be mean to you but I kind of liked the suggestion of getting rid of her and find someone who is more than willing to give you what you want. You deserve what you want and she deserves someone who will respect her and want her for who she is without trying to change her into a slut if she doesn't want to be.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Consider this scenario... What if your girlfriend totally wanted you to get gang banged by a group of guys? And she kept bugging you about it? And every time you went out she said that you should be a little more aggressive with the guys at the bar. It'd be frustrating, no?

I'm not going to chap your arse about this. Other people have already. But consider the above scenario and how that would make you feel. I think maybe your original post was more ignorant than offensive. I don't think you wanted to be disrespectful to your girlfriend. But your understanding of how kinks and personal desires work leave much to be desired. It's okay to suggest it to her. You could even try a little convincing. But if you've made your case and she's not in to it, then let it die. The worst thing that could happen is she does it just to please you. What a disaster.

Good luck man. I suggest you store this scenario away in your spank bank and keep her "fat tits" to yourself.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Consider this scenario... What if your girlfriend totally wanted you to get gang banged by a group of guys? And she kept bugging you about it? And every time you went out she said that you should be a little more aggressive with the guys at the bar. It'd be frustrating, no?

I'm not going to chap your arse about this. Other people have already. But consider the above scenario and how that would make you feel. I think maybe your original post was more ignorant than offensive. I don't think you wanted to be disrespectful to your girlfriend. But your understanding of how kinks and personal desires work leave much to be desired. It's okay to suggest it to her. You could even try a little convincing. But if you've made your case and she's not in to it, then let it die. The worst thing that could happen is she does it just to please you. What a disaster.

Good luck man. I suggest you store this scenario away in your spank bank and keep her "fat tits" to yourself.

I dont bug her about it, I understand what you are saying she knows how I feel and said she wiuld be open to playing with another guy under the right circumstances, im just going to leave it at that for now. I appreciate your post though.

 

[smuggy_x]

I don't think anyone reading would get offended, unless your girlfriend is on Lit also: she will likely go with another guy as an alternative to you, not to please you

Well said!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I dont bug her about it, I understand what you are saying she knows how I feel and said she wiuld be open to playing with another guy under the right circumstances, im just going to leave it at that for now. I appreciate your post though.

If she's open to it, then let time do the work! Don't push it, because that's a bad idea.

Best of luck mate.

 

[Que]

People on Lit fascinate me....

I don't mean to imply that Litizens are likely any different than any other random slice of the population at large...

I think that mostly because y'all let me see inside your inner workings, it is apparent that impressions of people depend entirely up on the facet that is shown to the light and slanted by the moment of view.

Speaking in general terms and as a male myself: we from time to time have a reputation for having a shortage of blood to run both heads...

The term "flight of fancy" is a little more gender neutral. my perception is that women also get swept up in fantasies that may be unrealistic, but I perceive that as gradual process, where we males get that testicular surge that feels and I think sounds aggressive.

The OP in the initial post was saying out loud things that are unique to him kinky fantasies they got his fires fueled..

His subsequent post it seems as though not meek or necessarily submissive... sounded more reasoned and rational...(blood flow return to the brain in what I like to think of it as cold light of day syndrome)

So my initial impression was quite similar to most of you, but when I read this the other day it was with a shrug and no strong desire to state my impressions. The respondents here all had similar advice but the way it was delivered seemed to me to be colored individually by how hard his post hit you personally on a visceral level.

I usually work insane hours and then travel decent distance to civilization on my time off so being on Lit is hit and miss...last month (due to lets say "creative differences") while waiting to resolve that, I found myself reading nearly everything on Lit.

Some of you even from hit and miss over the YEARS I feel I know you which is unfair because back in my lurking days I didn't afford you the same privilege, and of course watching you interact with people isn't the same as interacting with you on any kind of sincere, personal level...some I recognize mostly from my reading this past month...in any event I have impressions in my head (likely hit and miss for accuracy) about your personalities, tastes, kink level etc.

So, although I largely concur with the advice...(and this being a 'how to" section explicitly denotes that advice is sought)...a couple of posts just were discordant with my impressions...and that led me to this tl; dr post about how you don't know about anyone's reactions until they react. I am being vague because nothing here is a slam on anyone, its just that the whole "hot-wife/girlfriend" fantasy is fairly common and it surprised me to see posters who I perceive on farther up (or down?) the kink scale seemingly off-put

 

[sensualsarah]

You can't turn her into anything, it has to be her choice, it's that simple. You need to talk to her about your desires and see if the idea interests her, if it doesn't then don't pressure her, respect the fact that she has her own mind.

 

[USWMachine]

I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years and one if my biggest fantasies is for her to be more slutty and flirty with other men, a few weeks ago we went out with some friends and I was the dd and I let her drink and get loose, god I couldnt stop thinking about her letting another guy play with her fat tits. She went out on another girls night this past weekend and I told her I wanted her to be more flirty with men but she said she didnt do anything, anyone know how to make this happen? I had a conversation with a poster on here about lending my gf to him for a weekend so he could turn her into a well used whore and I almost came in my pants.

I think you're fighting a losing battle here man. I find that essentially someone either has something inside of them or doesn't. It's the same discussion that happens with dominance and submissiveness. It's not that you can't bring something out in someone, but you have to essentially have something to work with.

 

[Goey]

As much as I enjoy flirting with men on a night out (meh I find it fun) and I'm slutty in the bedroom (as in kinky, submissive etc.) I'd never say I was a slut.

Having another man join you isn't being slutty, in this context it sounds as if you want her to pick up other men. I have no idea why you'd want your girl to basically cheat on you...

 

[Gods_Favorite]

As much as I enjoy flirting with men on a night out (meh I find it fun) and I'm slutty in the bedroom (as in kinky, submissive etc.) I'd never say I was a slut.

Having another man join you isn't being slutty, in this context it sounds as if you want her to pick up other men. I have no idea why you'd want your girl to basically cheat on you...

Her being with another man is a huge turn on for me, I dont really know why.

 

[more_snow_plz]

WTF? That is all.

 

[Goey]

Her being with another man is a huge turn on for me, I dont really know why.

That's much much much different from being a slut by a land-side.