How to talk to/attract a couple?

[RedStar_320]

I don't know if this is necessarily a how-to or more of a discussion piece. But here it goes.

When I browse through the personals or craigslist I tend to come across people (mainly guys) that are looking to attract a woman or a couple but their ads go something like this:

"Hawt guy looking for no strings fun. Girl must be sexy. Looking to cum all over her. Hit me up!"

Or

"Looking for a couple to fuck, guy must be okay with me plowing his gf or wife."

Do these ads really work? The reason I ask is because I've always read that you need to be respectful and courteous to couples especially but it seems like manners have gone right out the window. Also, when you are looking for a couple you MUST REMEMBER that they have invited you into THEIR bed and you must treat that with an enormous amount of respect.

Also, in the few times that I have chatted with people for a short period or have been PM'ed, some of the language (not necessarily on this site) comes across as down right abusive or crazy.

So my question is, do these ads or types of attitude work? When you browse through personal ads and come across "want to fill ah wit Cum!", is that what you're looking for?

 

[Mrdarkblueeyes]

It does seem that any kind of courtesy (or literacy, for that matter) has flown out the window. There's probably a very narrow percentage that approach works for. Personally, if I were posting an ad like that, I'd make it the absolute best it could be. After all, the fulfillment of a fantasy would be at stake.

 

[RedStar_320]

That's how I see it. You need to really try to make yourself appealing to others but it seems like all I see is: "got a hotel room for tom. Hit me up if interested. No Old folks or BBWs"

Really??! I mean seriously! You haven't given any information about yourself and you have right out the bat made yourself to appear shallow and creepy.

 

[silverwhisper]

there's a certain subset of couples who enjoy playing with another man. they're a fairly vocal bunch on the fettish central forum, actually. the attraction for them runs the gamut of just liking having a 3rd person, to some measure of BDSM, to full-blown humiliation/cuckolding/orgasm denial.

in the latter 2 instances, aggressive, classic alpha males are a fairly popular bunch apparently, so yeah, i bet it's actually fairly effective for some of them.

ed

 

[deyv]

I completely agree with everything written so far.

Maybe another way to get at the initial query is to ask the couples out there what type of replies get their attention.

 

[Miles Long]

It seems intuitive that most couples who would be interested in adding a third would probably not be swept off their group-sex-seeking feet by the examples you cited above. I suppose it's entirely possible, though, that some couples out there are exactly looking for the kind of guy who leads with comments about plowing the female partner, and surely the most efficient way to find the couples turned on by such agriculturally explicit verbiage is to just throw it out there and see where it takes root. The relative (and supposed, I admit) scarcity of these couples could even be used as an argument in favor of throwing that language out right away.

I think it's similar to when you see cock avatars on Lit. Lots of people don't like them, but there are some who do. And the fastest way to find the ones who do is to slap a cock up in your avatar and see who will still talk to you.

But still, I highly doubt those ads work very often. They can be entertaining for the rest of us, though!

 

[JustaSCOUNDREL]

RedStar_320, hopefully this answers your question.


Assuming you were interested in a hook up would you respond to an add like the ones you cited?

Would you be interested in hooking up with a couple who may be interested in responding to an ad like that?


Perhaps ads such as those may open doorways when you respond with a well written, grammatically correct, polite advertisement telling of your own interests.

Mike

ps if you are interested look for the Asshat PM thread where the ladies generally rip the posters of cock etc. ads new anal orifices.

 

[SkylarFalling]

Meeting up with people/a person you haven't met before and to be honest, that kind of post (in examples) sends me running in the other direction. I think it can often be for couples a case of needing it to be more secure... I've become very used to being super-secure and super-comfortable with my boyfriend, and I'd hope for a third person to be able to help leaving that comfort zone I've gotten used to more fun. I don't know if anyone feels like this but if I was single, I'd have a more "fuck it lets do this shit" attitude. But because I'm secure I seek a 3rd person that won't pull me out of that security too much.

Maybe just as a couples thing?