How to stay harder, longer???

[TrailRat]

Firstly I aplogise if this in the long place but it seemed like the right plac to ask at the time.

How does one stay harder for longer? I'm embarrased to say my performance time is short, not drasticaly short as in stick it in and i'm done but still short.

I've heard cock rings are good and I've heard that tying a silk scarf at the base works. Has anyone tried this method. Is there any other methods that work?

Would love to know.

TR

 

[SweetErika]

Welcome!

Read Please Read Before Posting ...lots of great info in there on where to post and how to find answers. The Blank Manual sticky at the top of How To is also an excellent resource and should answer most of your questions on staying power and cock rings.

 

[Eilan]

How does one stay harder for longer? I'm embarrased to say my performance time is short, not drasticaly short as in stick it in and i'm done but still short.

First of all, welcome to Lit, and I second the advice given to you by SweetErika.

Second, you've admitted to not being stick-it-in-and-it's-over quick, but how quickly is it over? Keep in mind that even if you and your SO change positions often, lots of women (men, too) get raw after prolonged fucking. It IS possible to have too much of a good thing!

Good luck!

 

[TrailRat]

I last about a minute, 2 minutes tops.

TR

 

[bisexplicit]

I last about a minute, 2 minutes tops.

TR

I'm sure plenty of other people will have advice as to how to help you stay hard, etc...but my advice would be, if you're worried about keeping your lover (hehe, what a funny word, "lover") satisfied - focus on the foreplay. And just because you can't spend alot of time on intercourse doesn't mean you can't spend a lot of time involved in other sexual activities.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm sure plenty of other people will have advice as to how to help you stay hard, etc...but my advice would be, if you're worried about keeping your lover (hehe, what a funny word, "lover") satisfied - focus on the foreplay. And just because you can't spend alot of time on intercourse doesn't mean you can't spend a lot of time involved in other sexual activities.

Great advice. And try masturbating before you see your partner or having an orgasm during foreplay. Condoms can also be helpful.

 

[silverwhisper]

the ladies appear to have covered all the bases. the suggestion of using a condom, to reduce the sensation and therefore prolong your enjoyment, is a particularly good one, i thought.

ed

 

[Lynxie]

Great advice so far... but it should also be mentioned that you should avoid any creams or ointments that promise prolonged staying power. They usually involve some sort of numbing agent to reduce your level of feeling/stimulation. Unfortunately, it's all too easy to transfer topical substances to your partner, which could ruin the moment for her. I'd stick to extended foreplay, possible use of a cock ring (read up extensively in the Blank Manual before you use one, as incorrect use can be somewhat dangerous), and maybe a condom to reduce your sensations. Good sex isn't just about intercourse, of course.

 

[Pearljwah]

my girl loves to watch me jackoff...

tons of foreplay...makes her orgasms even better...

then i can build myself up..jack off al ittle bit and control my orgasm...if you squeeze your butt really hard and not let yourself cum..or just let al ittle dribble out..you can be hard again in a matter of seconds with the sensations still there...

and having released some of it you can continue on for much longer.