How to start watching porn with significant other?

[CuckGuy89]

Hi everyone Just wanted some thoughts on how do I go about seeing if my gf is interested in watching porn together? Kind of awkward so I thought I'd get some input haha

 

[jcED8723]

Ask her if she has ever watched. Then ask her if she would be willing to watch

 

[FGB]

Mention that sometimes you watch Porn,then watch her expression and listen closely to what she says and how she says it.
Then you will have a good ideal.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

I would slow up the bus Gus.

Find out what she likes. Start with a steamy hollywood movie first. See how she reacts to the steamy hot scene. If you have HBO, they had some Soft-Core stuff that was late night fare back in the 90’s and early 00’s. Ramp it up slowly. May take some time.

Last thing you want to do is immerse her in hard-core where she might be overwhelmed and/or grossed out.

 

[SmokingFap]

I say, if you like porn, and you'd like to watch it with her, put all your cards on the table now, early in the relationship. That way, you don't end up married for the next ten years, and you're still having to hide it. Be honest and straightforward. She'll at least appreciate that respect. Just say, "Honey, I really like/love you. But I also really like watching porn and jerking off. Is that a problem for you?" I've used almost that exact approach several times, and the woman has always just said, no, it didn't bother her, as long as it didn't interfere with our sex life (meaning regular fucking). I've never asked them if they wanted to watch it with me. I would just openly watch some, say in the living room, and casually jerk off. The first time they "caught" me was always a bit awkward for a moment, but it passed, and sometimes it was even funny! After that, they would all join me from time to time. They weren't as into it as I was, but they didn't harass me or belittle me, because they already said it didn't bother them. And it always brought us closer together (due to the frankness, honesty and implied trust) and improved our sex lives in various ways, including serving as a jumpstart for a horny night (or morning!) together. And all of them (fortunately) just plain enjoyed watching me enjoy myself! Anyway, that's been my experience. Hope it helps.

 

[Lady2020]

I watched porn for the first time with a bf when I was around 25. I was not impressed. We did marry, then divorced 8 years later. I'm thinking most men and women now have a a greater library to choose from. And a greater, linguistic way to approach the subject. The conversation comes first. Do not be an ignorant AH about this.

 

[SmokingFap]

I watched porn for the first time with a bf when I was around 25. I was not impressed. We did marry, then divorced 8 years later. I'm thinking most men and women now have a a greater library to choose from. And a greater, linguistic way to approach the subject. The conversation comes first. Do not be an ignorant AH about this.

To add on to that, if you really want to watch porn with your partner, let THEM pick the porn! At least to start off with and until you're both comfortable with it. Then try your own preferences. But you're not that picky, right? And beggars can't be choosers...

 

[Lady2020]

To add on to that, if you really want to watch porn with your partner, let THEM pick the porn! At least to start off with and until you're both comfortable with it. Then try your own preferences. But you're not that picky, right? And beggars can't be choosers...

IDK. A lot of men tend to go to watching two women, which I'm not into. Which would lead into wtf are your sexual desires? Spill it. Get it all out there. Maybe people still have a hard time having this conversation?

 

[English_guy_bkk]

You could say "l rented your favourite movie honey..Titanic" as you slide in the VHS tape. Then try to look stunned as the action starts. Porn with the good guitar solo soundtrack may help.

 

[English_guy_bkk]

Make a banner stating your feelings and rent a small airplane. Then have it fly over your house for a few hours.

 

[SilentSometimes]

I would slow up the bus Gus.

Find out what she likes. Start with a steamy hollywood movie first. See how she reacts to the steamy hot scene. If you have HBO, they had some Soft-Core stuff that was late night fare back in the 90’s and early 00’s. Ramp it up slowly. May take some time.

Last thing you want to do is immerse her in hard-core where she might be overwhelmed and/or grossed out.

I love that idea.

Just ask if she’s watched Bridgerton on Netflix. If yes, find out what she liked. If no: start there. It’s all the titillating, soft core porn that women love from romance novels.

If nothing else, it’ll start the conversation. Also: it’s important for partners to be able to talk about sex with each other. Make sure that you’re doing your best to cultivate an environment that is safe for both of you to share you wants and needs.

 

[Lucien_Al]

I say, if you like porn, and you'd like to watch it with her, put all your cards on the table now, early in the relationship. That way, you don't end up married for the next ten years, and you're still having to hide it. Be honest and straightforward. She'll at least appreciate that respect. Just say, "Honey, I really like/love you. But I also really like watching porn and jerking off. Is that a problem for you?" I've used almost that exact approach several times, and the woman has always just said, no, it didn't bother her, as long as it didn't interfere with our sex life (meaning regular fucking). I've never asked them if they wanted to watch it with me. I would just openly watch some, say in the living room, and casually jerk off. The first time they "caught" me was always a bit awkward for a moment, but it passed, and sometimes it was even funny! After that, they would all join me from time to time. They weren't as into it as I was, but they didn't harass me or belittle me, because they already said it didn't bother them. And it always brought us closer together (due to the frankness, honesty and implied trust) and improved our sex lives in various ways, including serving as a jumpstart for a horny night (or morning!) together. And all of them (fortunately) just plain enjoyed watching me enjoy myself! Anyway, that's been my experience. Hope it helps.

I really agree with this sentiment. I was married to my best friend for 35 years and throughout our married life she did not approve, nor would accept any of my fetishes (panties) or love of porn. Although we had a satisfactory sex life it was almost like there was something missing from it. Sadly she passed away and I rejoined the dating chaos.

I made it a criteria that when I met someone I would be open about my sexual likes and dislikes. Thankfully I met and married a woman who was not only very accepting of my fetishes and love of porn but was also very happy to try new things (within reason) we have been able to explore a whole host of new thing I never thought we would and our sex life is unbelievably satisfying and super exciting.

 

[CuckGuy89]

Thanks for the replies. All take all the info into consideration