How To Prepare For Anal Penetration: The ULTIMATE Guide

[brnsuga]

The best way to prepare reluctant partners to accept anal sex: make them BEG for it.

Start out by calling your partner on the phone and somewhere during the course of the conversation, mention how much you have been fantasizing about f**king them in the ass. The next time you see that person in a totally nonsexual, fully-clothed situation, look them dead in the eye and tell them how much you want to f**k them in the ass. Describe to them how awesome it will feel. Then, the next time you have sex with that person, do everything EXCEPT f**king them in the ass. During future phone conversations or while you're having lunch in a restaurant, keep talking about how good assf**king feels. But still don't actually do it. Eventually, in bed your partner will bring up the subject. Put it off by saying "Not today baby... I just want to make you cum today baby". At a later date, describe in detail a great anal sex experience you once had, an x-rated story you read about it, or a movie you saw and how it really, really turned you on. But then keep withholding anal sex in bed. Soon your partner will be standing on the roof with a megaphone shouting "PLEASE FUCK ME IN THE ASS WITH ANYTHING, AT ANYTIME, AND ANYWHERE!!!". If you keep verbally teasing and preparing your partner and they never actually ask for it, then one day while you are having sex, stop RIGHT BEFORE your partner cums, start working a lubed-up finger in circles around their asshole and whisper in their ear "I need to f**k you in your ass". Then, as that athletic shoe commercial advises, "Just Do It"...

[P.S.: During anal penetration, make sure you continue to simultaneously stimulate the clit or penis to ensure that your partner has a mind-blowing orgasm during their first anal experience and even the most reluctant anal virgin will be coming back for more.]

RE: The need to go slow with anal sex:
Women don't need as much "preparation" because we do not have any homophobic fears attached to the good feeling we get from anal sex. When men are first penetrated, it feels so good that they immediately have the subconcious thought that maybe they like it so much because of some latent homosexual tendencies. So they clinch up and fight the feeling - they say things like "Ain't NOBODY f**king me in MY ass!". Women don't have those hang-ups so we are free to just really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really enjoy the feeling.

Do your partners a favor and introduce them to this experience. They will always be grateful and they will always remember you as their "first". If your partner has been reluctant, try my technique and let me know how it works. Tell me the details of your successes AND failures. (Of course, I don't think there will be any failures to tell about!)

Well, writing about this topic has really turned me on so I gotta go...

Peace and love,
brnsuga

 

[SexyChele]

Not sure just how you meant this, but I found it rather amusing. I'm sorry if that isn't the response you were looking for. Quite frankly, I remember my "anal virgin" days very clearly, and I do remember hearing men tell me how much they wanted to fuck me in the ass. My reaction? Absolute fear! Nothing teasing about it. I was actually fearful that they would try anal sometime. When I finally did allow a man (actually a couple) to attempt anal, it was one of the most painful experiences I ever had. So much for the idea that women don't have "hang ups" and can therefore enjoy all the benefits more quickly.

It does take a patient partner, one who is willing to go slow, respond to their partner when they state they are in pain.

Women need just as much preparation for anal as men - don't kid yourself. Most men have this idea that an anus is simply a tighter vagina, and just plunge in. Women, as well as men, need to be in the right frame of mind and mood. Women need just as much lube as men, especially for the first time.

But, then again, should I really be taking this post seriously?

 

[TxBelle]

OK I'm standing on my roof........

That was cute

 

[brnsuga]

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I was actually fearful that they would try anal sometime. When I finally did allow a man (actually a couple) to attempt anal, it was one of the most
painful experiences I ever had. So much for the idea that women don't have "hang ups" and can therefore enjoy all the benefits more quickly.

It does take a patient partner, one who is willing to go slow, respond to their partner when they state they are in pain. Women need just as much preparation for anal as men - don't kid yourself.
Most men have this idea that an anus is simply a tighter vagina, and just plunge in. Women, as well as men, need to be in the right frame of mind and mood. Women need just as much lube as men, especially for the first time.

But, then again, should I really be taking this post seriously?
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Yes, you should be taking my post "seriously". I'm not at all sure that you read my message in it's entirety. I talked about having multiple conversations with someone about anal sex and then allowing the "bottom" to be the one who ASKS for it. If after this period of discussion, a request is not forthcoming, I talked about introducing a lubed finger to the area just as your partner is about to cum. Your response did not describe your use of any of these techniques, so I am therefore not surprised at the negative result.

That being said, I will also state that I do not think of the anus as some kind of mystical body part, which will traumatize a person for life if it is ever caused pain. For most women, our first vaginal sexual experience was with a guy who did not know what the hell he was doing. There was pain and also lots of bleeding when the hymen was penetrated. But regardless of that fact, sooner or later, almost all of us were eager to go back for more. My first anal was painful just like my first vaginal, but there must have been some form of pleasure mixed in with the pain because I definitely went back for more. Now even the pain is a form of pleasure in itself (and that is coming from a person who is nowhere near being the type of person who typically gets pleasure from pain).

The bigger hurdle that some men must overcome when they are reluctant anal virgins has nothing to do with the amount of lube used (which you referred to in your response). It's a PSYCHOLOGICAL hurdle they must get over. Many straight men seem to actually fear anal pleasure. Women do not face that hurdle because we were never stigmatized or called a faggot on the school playground just because our assholes were a source of pleasure for us.

And also, please realize that not all of us want the cautious, stop-if-I'm-feeling-some-discomfort-approach; plunge in, baby, the water is fine! (TxBelle and I are up on the roof.) Different strokes for different folks (emphasis on the strokes - please, baby, please).

Peace & love,
brnsuga

 

[Marquis]

And also, please realize that not all of us women want the cautious, stop-if-I'm-feeling-a-little-discomfort-approach; plunge in, baby, the water is fine! (TxBelle and I are up on the roof.) Different strokes for different folks (emphasis on the strokes, please).

That has to be one of my favorite quotes I have ever seen on this forum.

 

[rosco rathbone]

If G-d had meant for men and wives to have conjugal relations in their bottom, he would have put the posterior apeture in front, where it would be accessible from the missionary position.

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

This approach is certainly more likely to work for a female wanting to fuck either a male or a female in the ass. This is in keeping with the general truism that an attractive woman can say anything to a man and he'll still kiss her ass. I really don't think that it would work as well for a dude trying to talk a skittish young woman into experiencing the joys of the love that must not be spoken.

As to straight men fearing anal pleasure, as dipensed by a woman. I don't get that at all. I've known guys who claimed that they wouldn't even let a woman lick their ass. To me, this smacks of overcompensation and sexual preference confusion. Taking a strap-on is an extreme example. Not everyone is going to enjoy that whether or not they are secure in their sexual identity. But, having a hissy fit because a woman's finger tickles your brown-eye while she's blowing you is something of a red-flag.

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

If G-d had meant for men and wives to have conjugal relations in their bottom, he would have put the posterior apeture in front, where it would be accessible from the missionary position.

IMHO, both openings are available in the missionary posistion owing to their close proximity ... and the fact that neither is really anterior nor posterior ... they're both on the bottom more or less.

fucking typos

 

[Marquis]

IMHO, both openings are available in the missionary posistion owing to their close proximity ... and the fact that neither is really anterior nor posterior ... their both on the bottom more or less.

Well said.

 

[SexyChele]

Yes, you should be taking my post "seriously". I'm not at all sure that you read my message in it's entirety. I talked about having multiple conversations with someone about anal sex and then allowing the "bottom" to be the one who ASKS for it. If after this period of discussion, a request is not forthcoming, I talked about introducing a lubed finger to the area just as your partner is about to cum. Your response did not describe your use of any of these techniques, so I am therefore not surprised at the negative result.

Sorry, just cannot take it seriously. Have to agree to disagree on that one. And yes, I read your entire message. And yes, I did have many, many, many, many conversations with men about anal sex. Granted, they were all along the lines of, "I wanna fuck your ass so bad - please, baby!" Did nothing for me. And a lubed finger is quite a BIG difference in both circumference and length than a man's cock. There are many women who can take a finger, but not a cock.

Oh, and who said I had a "negative result"? Obviously you do not know me very well. I would suggest you search on my name under the "How To" forum using "Anal". You might be surprised at what you find. I love anal sex. Almost more than vaginal, and truly crave some anal play during intercourse. But it took a very special man - and patience was a big fator.

That being said, I will also state that I do not think of the anus as some kind of mystical body part, which will traumatize a person for life if it is ever caused pain.

Actually, there are quite a few delicate tissues within the rectum that can be torn easily. The anus is smaller and less pliable than the vagina, and those who, how do you say, plunge in? are asking for problems. Granted, it will heal, but there are certain situations where rough treatment of the anus and rectum does require medical treatment. You should know this before engaging in anal sex, btw.


For most women, our first vaginal sexual experience was with a guy who did not know what the hell he was doing. There was pain and also lots of bleeding when the hymen was penetrated.
But regardless of that fact, sooner or later, almost all of us were eager to go back for more.

Nope, no pain and no bleeding for me, so I was eager for a repeat performance.

My first anal was painful just like my first vaginal, but there must have been some form of pleasure mixed in with the pain because I definitely went back for more. Now even the pain is a form of pleasure in itself (and that is coming from a person who is nowhere near being the type of person who typically gets pleasure from pain).

If you felt pain with anal sex, then I would suggest the man who introduced you to it didn't know what he was doing. Anal sex might bring about increased pressure in an area not used to feeling that pressure, and most women feel uncomfortable with the "full" feeling, but pain? Not if it is done correctly. It can be done quite pleasantly. And if you have enough experience, you can forego the lube and use saliva. (Yes, I am among those that can do this)

The bigger hurdle that some men must overcome when they are reluctant anal virgins has nothing to do with the amount of lube used (which you referred to in your response). It's a PSYCHOLOGICAL hurdle they must get over. Many straight men seem to actually fear anal pleasure. Women do not face that hurdle because we were never stigmatized or called a faggot on the school playground just because our assholes were a source of pleasure for us.

Yes, I would agree that most men have psychological issues with anal entry of anything larger than a finger. And I don't know about you, but when I was last on a playground I didn't even know people got fucked in their asses. Just sheltered, I guess. Anyways, I never grew up with the idea that my asshole was a source of pleasure. Must have been out sick the day that came up for discussion on the playground. Darn. Unless some one has an anal fixation, they usually don't equate anal with pleasure unless/until they are either introduced to it, or they self-discover it. I know that I initiated anal play at a young age during masturbation because I was curious. But I was well into my teens, and went through the accidental too rough, too hard, too deep pain that left behind blood. Not good. Hence, even though I could achieve anal pleasure on my own, I was terrified of a man doing anything - and was proved right on several occasions during my 20s. (When a guy makes a woman's anus bleed, it ain't a good thing, trust me!)

And also, please realize that not all of us want the cautious, stop-if-I'm-feeling-some-discomfort-approach; plunge in, baby, the water is fine! (TxBelle and I are up on the roof.) Different strokes for different folks (emphasis on the strokes - please, baby, please).

Just goes to show you have absolutely no idea about me. Might be wise to check out what some one is about before passing judgement so quickly. Oh, and again, discomfort in anal sex is not a "good" thing. It is a sign that there is something wrong. To continue if the discomfort changes to pain could injure the other person. Well, that is, if you even care about the other person?

Peace & love,
brnsuga

Same to you....

 

[Marquis]

[And if you have enough experience, you can forego the lube and use saliva. (Yes, I am among those that can do this)
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I am curious as to why you might prefer saliva to synthetic lube. I have my reasons why I know I prefer it sometimes, but I am curious as to yours.

 

[SexyChele]

I am curious as to why you might prefer saliva to synthetic lube. I have my reasons why I know I prefer it sometimes, but I am curious as to yours.

It's not always a matter of preference, but a matter of what is available. Example: if "that time of the month" arrives unexpectly and I am unprepared (normally have a diaphram for such times), I wll lube him up using lips and tongue and go for it. If you can get enough saliva, go a little bit slower, and if the woman is very relaxed, it's fine. I don't really use that much lube anyway - too messy and bothersome at times. But that's me.

 

[brnsuga]

SexyChele:
Yes, we disagree ...and so it takes all kinds to make a world. You have made different choices than some other people have made. Doesn't mean we are uninformed,...just different. Lighten up, girlfriend!:

1) You continue to refer to the "I-wanna-fuck-you-in-the-ass" comments made to you which have nothing to do with the ongoing investment of time described in the method outlined in my original message (to discuss desires, fantasies, stories, movies, etc. to bring about a request for this new experience, then to deny that request, creating even more desire for this new experience and if that doesn't work, to try the introductory method of a lubed finger). Twice now you have stated that the method used with you did not work and twice now, I am telling you that I am NOT, nor have I EVER, advised anyone to use the method which was used with you! I am sorry that the first guy you encountered was such an idiot (As I stated before, my first one was too). But I firmly believe that most men are in fact NOT idiots and, by using the Socratic method of teaching, they can LEARN to engage a partner in the type of verbal exchange which will change that partner's way of thinking about the idea of sexual experimentation. This is by no means the ONLY way, it is just A way to bring about change.

2) The "negative result" I referred to was in reference to the dissatisfaction you expressed about your first anal experience. I never implied that you do not currently enjoy anal sex, so I do not see the necessity of following your suggestion to research the anal preferences you have expressed on other threads. You said "if I knew anything about you" etc., etc. ..., well I don't know anything about you and I don't feel I need to in order to recommend a method which you are free to try or not to try.

3) I grew up in an upper-middle class environment and the most stigmatizing taunt that could be hurled at a boy was that he was gay - because he didn't fight well enough or rough-house hard enough. And yes, there were also taunts accusing boys of liking to have sex with other boys, even though none of these kids were actually sexually active. They probably picked it up from hearing adults gossiping about other adults. But it was fairly common that several boys were labeled in this manner and the other boys tried to display even more false bravado, hoping that they would never be the object of such ridicule. That has been my experience and I fully respect the fact that you have never encountered or even heard of this phenomenon. Now you have.

4)Without going into detail, suffice to say that I have a wealth of knowledge about the anatomy & physiology of the human body and I have the academic credentials to prove it. I need no tutelage in this area. I stated before and I will state again, many of us actually LIKE some "discomfort" (pushing the limits, as it were). Pain can be pleasurable for some of us and we reserve the right to make that choice, just as we would respect your right to make what appears to be a different choice. That in no way means that we are not knowledgeable enough about our bodies to know what our limits need to be. (Of course, I cannot promise anyone that if I ever meet a man with a 16-inch cock, I won't be tempted to "push the envelope".)

(By the way, if anyone reading this feels that they have an amazingly wonderful cock, please take a pic and post it for me, OK? Thanks!!!)

Peace & love,
brnsuga

 

[TxBelle]

I had to re-read your post to catch that "reluctant" part because I don't ever remember being reluctant. I can't even remember the first time I had anal sex. I remember how discouraged I was the first time a boyfriend tried and failed. I was about 95 lbs soaking wet and he was about ...well GD he was hung. He tried and tried and couldn't get anywhere so I played with toys until I grew up and learned how to relax more.

I still remember the look my husband had on his face in May of 1990 on our first date when I told him to fuck my ass. He went from horney as hell to the most tender look you've ever seen a man have. He still melts me with that tenderness....sigh. And then he proceeded to tear my ass up!

Thanks for the memories

 

[brnsuga]

Gosh, TxBelle,
Your post brought up some great memories for me, too. The first time, I was not consulted so it was kind of an uneventful shock. But the next time involved discussion and informed consent - I wanted to get my ass fucked off and I got my wish. More than once in the same night, as I recall. Nothing can compare to the "discovery years"...

Of course, since then, Ive been up on the roof with a megaphone.

P.S.: So, your first was "really hung". Did you take any pictures of his phenomenal tool?

 

[TxBelle]

Gosh, TxBelle,
Your post brought up some great memories for me, too. The first time, I was not consulted so it was kind of an uneventful shock. But the next time involved discussion and informed consent - I wanted to get "my ass fucked off" and I got my wish. More than once in the same night, as I recall. Nothing can compare to the "discovery years"...

Of course, since then, Ive been up on the roof with a megaphone.

P.S.: So, your first was "really hung". Did you take any pictures of his phenomenal tool?

Well he wasn't really my first at anything, but he tried to be my first anal sex partner and failed...come to think of it he did eventually accomplish the task. Wow the memories are flooding back now.

No pics though. I was barely a teenager then and he was much older. We dated off and on for years. I should have gotten a pic. He was a little bitty guy. A plumber. Muscles everywhere. At 12 I think I was a couple of inches taller than him.
I was amazed at his cock and believe me I'd had plenty and knew what a gem I had found when I saw it! However, even after dating off and on for years and living with him off and on throughout my teenage years that man performed the worst oral sex you could imagine. When we split up for good (because he smoked my baby's milk money) he said something about making women cry when he ate them (he was stoned and spent the food money on that shit ...BASTARD) I told him they were crying because they were fucking bored and wondering how they managed to pick up such a asshole yet again.

 

[SexyChele]

SexyChele:
Yes, we disagree ...and so it takes all kinds to make a world. You have made different choices than some other people have made. Doesn't mean we are uninformed,...just different. Lighten up, girlfriend!:

By entitling the thread "ULTIMATE GUIDE", you are implying that it is the best and most sucessful. Perhaps you should have titled your thread, "One way to ...." A little more truthful, I would think.

And I am "lightened up". Takes a whole lot more than this simple topic to get me "unlightened".

*Still trying to understand how sucessful anal sex can be an "uneventful shock". Hell, I remember it like it was yesterday - I was in sheer heaven. Oh well...*

 

[MsDemeanor]

Its talk like this that will keep me from trying any of it.

 

[brnsuga]

By entitling the thread "ULTIMATE GUIDE", you are implying that it is the best and most sucessful. Perhaps you should have titled your thread, "One way to ...." A little more truthful, I would think.

And I am "lightened up". Takes a whole lot more than this simple topic to get me "unlightened".

*Still trying to understand how sucessful anal sex can be an "uneventful shock". Hell, I remember it like it was yesterday - I was in sheer heaven. Oh well...*

SexyChele:
1) My thread is titled "The Ultimate Guide" because it requires a paradigm shift in thought process. It's about getting your mind expanded before getting your asshole expanded. It's about training your mind before training your asshole. A friend of mine uses this technique frequently and successfully; he says "You need to do some mind-fucking before you do some ass-fucking". I have already acknowledged that this is not the only way to approach the issue. However, this is not simply, as you suggested, merely "one way" to do it either. The importance of this method is getting the bottom to ASK for this new experience, as opposed to the typical scenario where the top is asking the bottom to allow this to happen. When someone asks for something, they are taking on the full responsibility for the consequences of their behavior, so the bottom is taking responsibility for that morning-after sore ass in exchange for the pleasure of the new experience. This way of thinking can carry over into other areas of life as well. If you can learn to stop blaming your boyfriend for your sore asshole, then maybe you can learn to stop blaming your boss for your lousy performance review. Paradigm Shift: look in the mirror before scanning the horizon for someone else to blame for the choices you make.

2) Your messages imply that you have not tried this technique, so how can you so definitively state that this technique is, in fact, NOT the "ultimate" technique? You are certainly free to opine that you do not THINK it would work for you or your "I-wanna-fuck-you-in-the-ass" associates. While I do not have statistically significant data which proves my claim, I can at least offer anecdotal evidence which will support my position on this. Since you have not tried this technique, it does not seem possible that you would be able to offer any real evidence to support your position that this is not, in fact, the ultimate method.

3)In this thread, you have established a pattern of saying that I said something which I did not say. And then telling me why I was wrong to say it. The latest example: at no time did I say that my first anal experience was "successful" as you have claimed in your post copied above. In fact in my three previous posts on this thread, I have consistently said exactly the opposite about my first experience. It was subsequent to my first experience, when the technique I am recommending was used, and it resulted in a satisfying experience.

4)Your message implies that you think the term "unenlightened" (which means ignorant) is the opposite of the term "lighten up" (which means to relax). To explain what I mean when I advise you to lighten up, I will attempt to use some imagery. I would characterize TxBelle's style of writing to be like that of an open hand; while I would characterize your style of writing to be more like a clinched fist - unnecessarily accusatory as if you were trying to trip me up by catching me in a lie or pinning me on some fabricated innaccuracy. To that, I again say "lighten up, girl!". Go buy a book called "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance", pour yourself your favorite beverage, read for a while, meditate for a while, and then, ...just ...chill ...out.

5)You said in your message that this was "too simple a topic" to get you "unenlightened". If you consider this topic to be so "simple" and you already have a handle on it, then why do you keep coming back to this thread????? I have already acknowledged that I consider this topic to be an important one in my life with implications which extend beyond just getting fucked in the ass. Hence, the reason for me posting the thread in the first place and the reason for me returning to read the replies. But since you find this topic to be such a lightweight one, I would fully understand your choice if you chose to leave this thread, ...never to return again.

Peace & love;
brnsuga

 

[SexyChele]

To use your own phrase......chill out, okay? My post was more sarcastic humor than anything "accusatory". Sorry if you didn't see it.

We both have our own way for achieving the same exact thing - I can accept that, why not you? But I'm the one with the mind like a "clenched fist"? Yeah. Whatever.

Over and out.

 

[serijules]

It's not always a matter of preference, but a matter of what is available. Example: if "that time of the month" arrives unexpectly and I am unprepared (normally have a diaphram for such times), I wll lube him up using lips and tongue and go for it. If you can get enough saliva, go a little bit slower, and if the woman is very relaxed, it's fine. I don't really use that much lube anyway - too messy and bothersome at times. But that's me.

This is my preferred method too, and I too often prefer anal over vaginal sex. I'm sitting here thinking of all the times I've had anal sex, and I can only think of one time that we've used lube, and I didn't like that at all. It was far too wet and slippery, and I like to feel that tightness just as much as I'm sure he does....so saliva works great. Usually by the time it gets to that point I've been teased so long my pussy juices are providing plenty of help anyhow from dripping down my thighs and crack anyhow

 

[serijules]

The best way to prepare reluctant partners to accept anal sex: make them BEG for it.

Start out by calling your partner on the phone and somewhere during the course of the conversation, mention how much you have been fantasizing about f**king them in the ass. The next time you see that person in a totally nonsexual, fully-clothed situation, look them dead in the eye and tell them how much you want to f**k them in the ass. Describe to them how awesome it will feel. Then, the next time you have sex with that person, do everything EXCEPT f**king them in the ass. , really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really enjoy the feeling. *snip*

I can't say I really agree with this method...not so much that the idea of a 'mind fuck' before any other type of fuck isn't a good prepreation method, I think that sounds great in most cases, but in the event that someone is fearful or reluctant about an act....this seems to me more of a morbid way of playing on their nerves and pressuring them into something they are not ready for or just plain not willing.

For instance, I used to have a huge fear of bondage. I wanted to try it, but my fears would always take over and any time I would "try" to try, I would freeze up and panic. If any of my partners spent days teasing me by telling me they were going to tie me up, and telling me how much that turned them on and whatnot....I would not only feel pressured to try despite my knowing I wasn't ready or really not being willing, but I would feel like they didn't respect my fears and limits very well and were more concerned about their own pleasure than my safety and comfort, which would make me even more fearful of the act.

I think slow exposure at the bottom's pace is a much nicer method. Start with something small, work up to something larger, and make each step secure and desireable WITHOUT pressure of meeting that final step. If it happens, great, if not, fine, lets enjoy the step we are at now. That's what worked for me in regards to bondage AND anal sex.

I don't know about most people, but I don't tend to beg for something that I'm reluctant to do just because my partner over-exposes me to the idea. Quite the opposite in fact.

Interesting idea, but I have to say at least in my experience, I don't really agree and wouldn't want this method used with me

 

[brnsuga]

serijules:
Thanks for the insight. And I agree that the success of this method depends less on the teasing and much more on an exchange of ideas.

By the way, I do agree that assfucking feels so-o-o-o much better without lube. You get better "traction".

My real problem is that in today's world, it is an absolute necessity that we use condoms. (safe sex, etc,etc). I really, really crave the skin-to-skin contact of bareback buttfucking, and I have done it on occasion but it's really risky. Bummer...

 

[serijules]

serijules:
I do agree that assfucking feels so-o-o-o much better without lube. You get better "traction".

My real problem is that in today's world, it is an absolute necessity that we use condoms. (safe sex, etc,etc). I really, really crave the skin-to-skin contact of bareback buttfucking, and I have done it on occasion but it's really risky. Bummer...

I hear ya, condoms really do ruin the overall feel, but are too important to risk without unless with a long-term partner and even then, in todays world...

Too bad there isn't some sort of STD morning after pill, huh?

 

[Marquis]

serijules:
Thanks for the insight. And I agree that the success of this method depends less on the teasing and much more on an exchange of ideas.

By the way, I do agree that assfucking feels so-o-o-o much better without lube. You get better "traction".

My real problem is that in today's world, it is an absolute necessity that we use condoms. (safe sex, etc,etc). I really, really crave the skin-to-skin contact of bareback buttfucking, and I have done it on occasion but it's really risky. Bummer...

I know I said this already, but the way you talk about anal sex is absolutely thrilling. Where are women like you all in real life? I guess these aren't topics that come up too often in regular day to day environments.