How to plan for a threesome

[Montevino]

Greetings all! I'm new to the forums here, been lurking for a while though and haven't seen any posts that answer my question.

Soon I'm hoping to have a threesome with two (or more!) girls. I don't know who the girls are going to be yet and I don't know where it's going to be (my house, hotel, cabin, etc) or how it's going to go down. Yeah, hope springs eternal eh?

It's a fantasy I've had for a while now and I figured what the heck, why not? You only live once and I'm gonna give it a try! I don't have experience with these things so I thought I'd post for some insight from you gurus here... I've already posted in the personals forums to see if by a smaaaall chance someone there might be interested.

What I'm wondering is, how do I plan this? Originally I was thinking a party type atmosphere with music, lights, etc... I have access to whatever I need in that respect, but I don't want it to seem overdone for the girls, once everything comes together.

I really really hope I'm making some kind of sense here and not sounding like just another horny dude wanting to get laid. I want this to be special, a once in a lifetime event. Plus, I want the girls to feel comfortable and safe.

Do I need to furnish condoms and feminine products, etc? What other things can I do to make it smooth, fun and safe for everyone? It could turn into a big party I suppose and I want to be ready...

Any advice, tips, critiques are greatly appreciated!

Eric

 

[fgarvb1]

Well Now.

It's like making Rabbit stew.

First you have to catch the rabbit!

 

[PublicAffection]

Your challenge will be finding more than one woman interested in sharing your adventure. Sadly, it isn't as easy as some of us would like it to be. Joining a swingers' club might help.

 

[BobbingForApple]

In my experience, it's not something that can be planned and it usually it's at the the discretion of the females involved.
The male was more of a prey? Haha

 

[Somehowyou]

Go to a large city in Canada where prostitution is legal and pay for it. Tip: ask for girls that are interactive.

 

[Montevino]

Well Now.

It's like making Rabbit stew.

First you have to catch the rabbit!

lol! Very true. And not at all easy!

 

[Montevino]

Your challenge will be finding more than one woman interested in sharing your adventure. Sadly, it isn't as easy as some of us would like it to be. Joining a swingers' club might help.

Exactly, I guess to the average gal it can seem a little weird, as I'm finding out.

I don't know too much about swingers clubs, but don't you have to be a couple to join?

 

[Montevino]

Go to a large city in Canada where prostitution is legal and pay for it. Tip: ask for girls that are interactive.

Or somewhere in Nevada... I've actually thought of that. I guess just the idea of finding some gals who are genuinely turned on by the whole thing is part of the attraction of it all...

 

[Jamesricho]

There is this vid called "happy birthday" (pm me for link) where the guys GF grabs a friend for a 2 on 1 BJ as a present

Man thats my dream as a scenario

 

[Somehowyou]

When I was young I had a few girl friends anda former girl friend hint around at a 3-sum but I was too idealistic. Now in my 40's I have to pay for it. Make sure the girls are interactive. This means that they will do each other as well as you. Otherwise you may as well save your money and go one-on-one.

 

[Montevino]

There is this vid called "happy birthday" (pm me for link) where the guys GF grabs a friend for a 2 on 1 BJ as a present

Man thats my dream as a scenario

Sounds hott!

 

[Montevino]

When I was young I had a few girl friends anda former girl friend hint around at a 3-sum but I was too idealistic. Now in my 40's I have to pay for it. Make sure the girls are interactive. This means that they will do each other as well as you. Otherwise you may as well save your money and go one-on-one.

Good thoughts somehowyou. Thanks for the tip, that would totally add a lot to the overall fun. Find a couple bi gals and away we go!

 

[oOScarletWingsOo]

Your challenge will be finding more than one woman interested in sharing your adventure. Sadly, it isn't as easy as some of us would like it to be. Joining a swingers' club might help.

Swingers clubs are generally more for couples, at least from the way I understand it. It's a difficult environment for a single guy to enter into and get the ffm you desire.

Join Adult Friend Finder and sites like that to seek two women that way. Even Craig's List might be a resource.

You'll have better luck, I think, if you have one half of the equation in place to begin with...like a girlfriend or a casual sex partner who happens to be bi or bi-curious and then add the active third wheel.

 

[Montevino]

Fantasy fulfilled...

I know this is kind of an old thread to be digging up, but I just wanted to give some feedback on how my adventure went!

It happened.

And it was mind bogglingly good.

I was at a bar at a city I sometimes visit for work purposes, not really doing anything other than having a drink and talking to a few friends, when I saw HER.

Now, I had actually given up on my fantasy of a threesome. I tried the online dating thing, but outside paying someone for sex it just wasn't happening. I toyed with joining a swingers club, but didn't have the time and it just kind of slipped to the back of my mind. Better to just do it the normal way, I told myself.

And now that stranger at the other end of the bar had me intrigued. She was my type, elegant and extremely attractive. So drink in hand, I walked over, introduced myself to the lovely stranger and offered to buy her a drink.

We hit it off famously from the first hello.

It didn't take long to realize we both had the hots for each other and after an hour of flirting, talking and dancing, we headed straight for my hotel.

We were making out as soon as we stepped inside the door, with me slamming her against the wall and madly running our hands over each other's bodies. She literally tore my shirt off and I was fumbling with her dress before we even got to the bedroom! We were crazy with lust, I more so in this being my first time. When we finally got our clothes off it was a no holds barred acrobatics act! It was mind blowingly good. I had no idea it was like that!!!!

Then things got more crazy. "would it offend you if I told you I was Bi?" she asked after one of our marathons that night. Would it???? Not on your life!!!

Two days later she, her lover and I met for dinner. They were obviously very into each other and I was totally into both of them, so it was only natural that we all ended up back in the hotel room that night... It ended up with me on my back, the first girl riding my rod while the second rode my face... and them kissing at the same time. Then they switched positions! They drained me dry and then some that night, a night I will never forget!

I know I sounded like a hopeless case when i first posted this, but I can't believe how it all turned out. I really didn't expect it to be that crazy, but it was all I hoped for and more...

Turns out, the two girls just used me for a fantasy of their own and after a few romps, it was over. I was a little bummed because I was really contemplating becoming a polygamist there for a bit!

 

[Pleasure_Fan]

Hey Montevino -
Thanks for sharing Very hot adventure, and I love (mostly) happy endings

I know this is kind of an old thread to be digging up, but I just wanted to give some feedback on how my adventure went!

It happened.

And it was mind bogglingly good.

I was at a bar at a city I sometimes visit for work purposes, not really doing anything other than having a drink and talking to a few friends, when I saw HER.

Now, I had actually given up on my fantasy of a threesome. I tried the online dating thing, but outside paying someone for sex it just wasn't happening. I toyed with joining a swingers club, but didn't have the time and it just kind of slipped to the back of my mind. Better to just do it the normal way, I told myself.

And now that stranger at the other end of the bar had me intrigued. She was my type, elegant and extremely attractive. So drink in hand, I walked over, introduced myself to the lovely stranger and offered to buy her a drink.

We hit it off famously from the first hello.

It didn't take long to realize we both had the hots for each other and after an hour of flirting, talking and dancing, we headed straight for my hotel.

We were making out as soon as we stepped inside the door, with me slamming her against the wall and madly running our hands over each other's bodies. She literally tore my shirt off and I was fumbling with her dress before we even got to the bedroom! We were crazy with lust, I more so in this being my first time. When we finally got our clothes off it was a no holds barred acrobatics act! It was mind blowingly good. I had no idea it was like that!!!!

Then things got more crazy. "would it offend you if I told you I was Bi?" she asked after one of our marathons that night. Would it???? Not on your life!!!

Two days later she, her lover and I met for dinner. They were obviously very into each other and I was totally into both of them, so it was only natural that we all ended up back in the hotel room that night... It ended up with me on my back, the first girl riding my rod while the second rode my face... and them kissing at the same time. Then they switched positions! They drained me dry and then some that night, a night I will never forget!

I know I sounded like a hopeless case when i first posted this, but I can't believe how it all turned out. I really didn't expect it to be that crazy, but it was all I hoped for and more...

Turns out, the two girls just used me for a fantasy of their own and after a few romps, it was over. I was a little bummed because I was really contemplating becoming a polygamist there for a bit!

 

[Cannibull]

On the subject of Swingers Clubs admitting single males.....contact the clubs. Most have a time at night where singles are welcome as well as some nights all night.

 

[justherhusband]

I know this is kind of an old thread to be digging up, but I just wanted to give some feedback on how my adventure went!

It happened.

And it was mind bogglingly good.

I was at a bar at a city I sometimes visit for work purposes, not really doing anything other than having a drink and talking to a few friends, when I saw HER.

Now, I had actually given up on my fantasy of a threesome. I tried the online dating thing, but outside paying someone for sex it just wasn't happening. I toyed with joining a swingers club, but didn't have the time and it just kind of slipped to the back of my mind. Better to just do it the normal way, I told myself.

And now that stranger at the other end of the bar had me intrigued. She was my type, elegant and extremely attractive. So drink in hand, I walked over, introduced myself to the lovely stranger and offered to buy her a drink.

We hit it off famously from the first hello.

It didn't take long to realize we both had the hots for each other and after an hour of flirting, talking and dancing, we headed straight for my hotel.

We were making out as soon as we stepped inside the door, with me slamming her against the wall and madly running our hands over each other's bodies. She literally tore my shirt off and I was fumbling with her dress before we even got to the bedroom! We were crazy with lust, I more so in this being my first time. When we finally got our clothes off it was a no holds barred acrobatics act! It was mind blowingly good. I had no idea it was like that!!!!

Then things got more crazy. "would it offend you if I told you I was Bi?" she asked after one of our marathons that night. Would it???? Not on your life!!!

Two days later she, her lover and I met for dinner. They were obviously very into each other and I was totally into both of them, so it was only natural that we all ended up back in the hotel room that night... It ended up with me on my back, the first girl riding my rod while the second rode my face... and them kissing at the same time. Then they switched positions! They drained me dry and then some that night, a night I will never forget!

I know I sounded like a hopeless case when i first posted this, but I can't believe how it all turned out. I really didn't expect it to be that crazy, but it was all I hoped for and more...

Turns out, the two girls just used me for a fantasy of their own and after a few romps, it was over. I was a little bummed because I was really contemplating becoming a polygamist there for a bit!

Really?

Am I the only one here who thinks this story originally began with the words "Dear Penthouse, I always thought these stories were fake until this one night on a recent business trip..."

 

[Montevino]

I'll take that as a compliment to my writing skill justherhusband... The thing about getting freed up sexually is that no one believes you when you say you have amazing sex. it's like, OMG, that's too good to be true so it must not be true!

Doesn't matter to me whether you believe it or not, just thought I'd share how it turned out with the people on this thread because it really was crazy! I planned for it, thought it out, made myself presentable, took risks and... nothing happened until I gave it up and asked a gal politely if I could buy her a drink. A good rule of thumb I think is that hooking up requires you to actually look presentable, be respectful and have a can do attitude. I was ready and set the groundwork and even though it didn't happen like I wanted it to, it happened and I enjoyed it.

PS: part of the story isn't true... I never REALLY considered polygamy...

 

[bone251]

I had never been interested in a 3 way. But the girl I see often is an escort. (although it has goon beyond that a little) She has a favorite girlfriend and invited her to join us.

 

[roomfor1more]

There is a reason why single females who are interested in having a threesome are called unicorns and that is because they are rare, difficult to find. If you are not set on paying for two prostitutes along with being prepared to take the risk for physical safety and sexual safety then you may have a very long-time to search.

Probably your best route would be to date a woman who is open to the idea of having a threesome and then try searching for the second woman to join you. This may mean looking for a woman who is bi and is looking for a partner that is open to have a threesome. Granted this may not the most ideal route for you. One disadvantage is once the novelty of having a threesome is gone you will need to address the long-term issues of the relationship, which may include discussions regarding opening up the relationship. Nonetheless, it does eliminate the need to try to search for two women independently and it eliminates ensuring that they are both willing to participate. Only other suggestion I can think of beyond using the web or the very small chance that you would be successful at a swingers club would be to suggest finding a f-f couple in which at least one member of the couple is bisexual with an interest in men. At this point you may be asking is this almost the same as my previous suggestion? Yes it is with one difference, amount of control you have. In the previous suggestion it was you being in the relationship and having the input on who is invited, thereby giving you some control over who was invited. In this situation, you do not have the control over the decision and it is left with the couple.