How to make a woman feel special ( for women only)

[smoothg103rd]

I'm a little high, and was thinking that this feud between me and my babymothers is pointless. I want to and need to make up with them. For the sake of the kids and to just have a healthy relationship with the mothers of my kids. Keep in mind that they both have boyfriends, so I'm not trying to over step my boundaries, but I wanna show them that I care about them. My first babymother is ok she holding a grudge because I had another baby on her. My second babymother is the most ghetto little bitch you would ever meet who I argue with every time I see her. I just want to show them I care and that we can be a family ( to a certain extent) Any advice?

Your input is appreciated.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

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[1HF]

How many kids and baby mamas are we talkin?

 

[VanillaLipgloss]

How many kids and baby mamas are we talkin?

He mentioned 2 women. He was asking about his relationship with the mothers of his children, not the kids. I don't see the point in asking how many kids.

 

[VanillaLipgloss]

Show them that you care by being there for your children. Be a strong male figure in the children's lives and they will see it as not only caring for the kids but for them as well because you are doing you duty and taking some of the load. (I"m in no way insinuating that you don't do this, I'm just saying...) Unless you want to start a romantic relationship again, don't worry too much about their feelings as women. What's done is done and should be left in the past as far as having children in another relationship. Acknowledge it and move on. Just be a good understanding parent. Maybe go to therapy together as a family and learn to co-parent and work better together. That way it builds a healthy relationship with the women in your life.

 

[1HF]

He mentioned 2 women. He was asking about his relationship with the mothers of his children, not the kids. I don't see the point in asking how many kids.

Awww thanks, princess. Perhaps the point in my asking was curiosity since he mentioned knocking up the first baby mama twice, or possibly another woman. Hard to tell.
If you've read his other threads you'd see that it's silly to take much he posts seriously.

 

[John Doe]

He mentioned 2 women. He was asking about his relationship with the mothers of his children, not the kids. I don't see the point in asking how many kids.

Show them that you care by being there for your children. Be a strong male figure in the children's lives and they will see it as not only caring for the kids but for them as well because you are doing you duty and taking some of the load. (I"m in no way insinuating that you don't do this, I'm just saying...) Unless you want to start a romantic relationship again, don't worry too much about their feelings as women. What's done is done and should be left in the past as far as having children in another relationship. Acknowledge it and move on. Just be a good understanding parent. Maybe go to therapy together as a family and learn to co-parent and work better together. That way it builds a healthy relationship with the women in your life.

Do two different people post under that username?

 

[Aquagal]

How many kids and baby mamas are we talkin?

His post said 'they both', so two? I think I remember from past posts he said there were three littles. I only remembered because I was a little stunned at having 3 at such a young age.

 

[Aquagal]

Oh yes, profile says 21 yrs old, three kids.

 

[1HF]

His post said 'they both', so two? I think I remember from past posts he said there were three littles. I only remembered because I was a little stunned at having 3 at such a young age.

I honestly just skimmed that shit.

He must have been gettin busy

 

[Aquagal]

I honestly just skimmed that shit.

He must have been gettin busy

No kidding.

Too many nights with insomnia and a slow front page is my excuse.

 

[CandiCame]

I'm kinda stunned that you guys think that's young. But I do live in redneckville. I think that the mean age of mothers has gone up, but not around these parts...

 

[Aquagal]

I'm kinda stunned that you guys think that's young. But I do live in redneckville. I think that the mean age of mothers has gone up, but not around these parts...

I think he said the oldest is in kindergarten. Yes, that's way young for my head or where I grew up or currently live.

 

[CandiCame]

I think he said the oldest is in kindergarten. Yes, that's way young for my head or where I grew up or currently live.

That'd be 17. That's legal in Ky.

Edit: In Appalachia there's this fucked up belief that you need to have your kids while you're still young, steeped in the tradition that people used to NEED kids to work their farms when we were still an agriculture based culture. The industrial revolution didn't really take hold here until my grandparent's generation, and even then- my mamaw had 13 kids starting at 15. My granny was considered an anomoly because she "waited" until 18. And by "waited" I mean had endometreosis and a BUNCH of miscarriages and the only time she did give birth, eventually, almost killed her. My mom was a teen mom, and all the men folk were of comperable age. It wasn't some biblical thing where you mate with a dude in his middle age. The only reason I don't have more kids is because I was TERRRIFIED to have them and really, really carefull about birth control. But it's not only normal, it's encouraged to have your children young. Apparently if you wait until your late 20s-early 30s there are birth defects? I'm almost POSITIVE that that's not true but literally EVERYONE thinks that. It's an urban legend. And because of that past linked to agriculture, where you needed kids to work the farm, you wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a guy who was shooting blanks, so you generally want to have your first kid/be pregnant before you get married so you don't waste your time. Because we all know that marriage, if you listen to my family or the people around here, is not about love, it's about having kids. That's why gay marriage is considered unnecessary in the bible belt. Marriage is about mating. It's fucking stupid and I hate it, but it's a huge part of my culture. You, looking in, can probably see it for as stupid as I do. "Lets have all these kids when we can't afford them so that they can do chores on a nonexistent farm!" Fuck that. Fuck tradition. Let's do shit that makes sense. Like have ZERO kids. And most of these kids wind up in foster care- we have the fucked-up combination of this social pressure and the nation's highest child neglect rate. So. Yeah. I'm full of hate.

 

[Aquagal]

That'd be 17. That's legal in Ky.

I don't know any 4 yr old kindergartners.

 

[CandiCame]

I don't know any 4 yr old kindergartners.

Really? That's the age here. I thought that was throughout the states. I mean, you don't HAVE to put them in until they're 7 but most people start kindergarten at 4, 5 at the latest. Possibly preschool at 3 or 4, and headstart at 2 or 3. People have to go back to work. We don't have time to watch kids. Again, terrible, terrible system. But, studies apparently show that it's good for them to be socialized early like that. Some parents start them on study courses through these 'at risk' daycares as young as 3 months. And it does NOTHING. The studies that those are based on were done on college students; they don't generalize to infants. They've been debunked over and over but rednecks just don't want to watch their kids because they have to work. Cycle of poverty and all that. I REALLY don't wanna put BiteSize in daycare, and I have the flexibility to do that, but she'll probably go to headstart because by then she'll be almost out of the toddler stage and it's only for half a day. It's not an entire school day. The gf is already looking at headstarts and it kinda pisses me off because I don't wanna fucking be here in 2 years. The educational system in this place is terrible.

 

[Aquagal]

Really? That's the age here. I thought that was throughout the states. I mean, you don't HAVE to put them in until they're 7 but most people start kindergarten at 4, 5 at the latest. Possibly preschool at 3 or 4, and headstart at 2 or 3. People have to go back to work. We don't have time to watch kids. Again, terrible, terrible system. But, studies apparently show that it's good for them to be socialized early like that. Some parents start them on study courses through these 'at risk' daycares as young as 3 months. And it does NOTHING. The studies that those are based on were done on college students; they don't generalize to infants. They've been debunked over and over but rednecks just don't want to watch their kids because they have to work. Cycle of poverty and all that. I REALLY don't wanna put BiteSize in daycare, and I have the flexibility to do that, but she'll probably go to headstart because by then she'll be almost out of the toddler stage and it's only for half a day. It's not an entire school day. The gf is already looking at headstarts and it kinda pisses me off because I don't wanna fucking be here in 2 years. The educational system in this place is terrible.

A child must be 5 yrs old by Sept to start here, they are not legally required to attend though. I thought that was norm for all states, I'm surprised I think.

 

[CandiCame]

A child must be 5 yrs old by Sept to start here, they are not legally required to attend though. I thought that was norm for all states, I'm surprised I think.

Nah, in Ky the birthday is set later, October or November, so most people start kindergarten at 4. And like I said, most kids are in school by 2, because during the Clinton administration they started the "at risk" program specifically to combat the child neglect problem. Because our society sucks. And it's better to at least have an overworked, underpaid teacher watching them than NO ONE watching them.

Explains a lot about me, doesn't it?

 

[smoothg103rd]

If you've read his other threads you'd see that it's silly to take much he posts seriously.

Meaning?

 

[smoothg103rd]

Candi you seen women only and couldn't help your self huh?

 

[Aquagal]

Nah, in Ky the birthday is set later, October or November, so most people start kindergarten at 4. And like I said, most kids are in school by 2, because during the Clinton administration they started the "at risk" program specifically to combat the child neglect problem. Because our society sucks. And it's better to at least have an overworked, underpaid teacher watching them than NO ONE watching them.

Explains a lot about me, doesn't it?

Yes, in part.

 

[CandiCame]

I think it says a lot about me that I didn't know the age requirements for other states, despite passing all my EDF classes. Ky education, even at the college level is FUCKING HORRIBLE. That's not as big an oversight as preaching that dumbass Paget tho, so lesser of two evils, I guess.

And OP, I have no idea how to keep your baby mama happy. I just kinda do what mine tells me and try not to fuck up. She's a giant bitch but she cuts me a lot of slack because I'm the primary financial... person. So idk, money maybe?

Wait, I'm gonna word that better.

Stability. Pay for a house and bills and stuff for the kids and prove that you're not an unemployeed loser. Be financially stable. Don't blow your money on stupid shit like getting shitfaced and instead pretend that you're an adult. Also, just spread that to the rest of your life. Don't get in fights or immature shit like that. Be a stable, reliable adult. Fake it until you make it.

That seems to have worked for me. I've learned that much of adulthood and parenting is pretending to know what you're doing. And people like that even if they can see through it because it shows that you're trying.

 

[CandiCame]

Candi you seen women only and couldn't help your self huh?

Yeah, I'm all about breaking down gender barriers until I get kicked out. But I'll let the ladies kick me out. By your logic you shouldn't be in here either, and you STARTED it.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Yeah, I'm all about breaking down gender barriers until I get kicked out. But I'll let the ladies kick me out. By your logic you shouldn't be in here either, and you STARTED it.

Fair enough

 

[John Doe]

Candi you seen women only and couldn't help your self huh?

Yay, I passed the girl-test!

Which is odd actually, considering my username ...but YAY! I PASSED A TEST!