How to make a hotwife/slutwife. Tips

[heyitsthatguy77]

So wanting to try getting wife more into being a hotwife/slutwife. During masterbation sessions watching each other she likes the fantasy of sucking and fucking as ibwatch but it still seems like she is hesitant to let go. So far she has been a little more submissive and has been getting turned on by me telling her to do things, wear certain things, and even her hairstyle like she is asked. My question is, what are some tips to have her to do to slowly work into it.

We have had threesomes in past, has been a few years and now thinking we are wanting to get back into our kinkier sides. Any tips or suggestions on working into it slowly? Or helping her open up even more to it?

 

[hotwifeandhubby]

So wanting to try getting wife more into being a hotwife/slutwife. During masterbation sessions watching each other she likes the fantasy of sucking and fucking as ibwatch but it still seems like she is hesitant to let go. So far she has been a little more submissive and has been getting turned on by me telling her to do things, wear certain things, and even her hairstyle like she is asked. My question is, what are some tips to have her to do to slowly work into it.

We have had threesomes in past, has been a few years and now thinking we are wanting to get back into our kinkier sides. Any tips or suggestions on working into it slowly? Or helping her open up even more to it?

You said it....don't rush it.....and offer her plenty of compliments....guys all too often overlook how far a few well placed and sincere compliments can get them....the difference in a "ho-hum" weekend and one that is supercharged with wild sex that you might have thought wasn't possible....keep working on things...making suggestions....encourage her to express her ideas and fantasies while having sex. Just remember everyone is different, and any "tips" others might offer that worked in their situation are not guaranteed to work in another environment.....communicate communicate communicate..that is the last suggestion.

Hugs
Hot Wife

 

[heyitsthatguy77]

Oh we have always had awesome communication back and forth, even led to us getting into some other fun but was always a threesome or couple play. Was just looking for ways others worked into this type of play and use it and maybe have it give us other ideas in the slutwife lifestyle.

 

[hotwifeandhubby]

Oh we have always had awesome communication back and forth, even led to us getting into some other fun but was always a threesome or couple play. Was just looking for ways others worked into this type of play and use it and maybe have it give us other ideas in the slutwife lifestyle.

Just a word of caution too....be careful of the choice of "titles" you place on things.....slutwife to me/us is a bit negative....thus the reason we chose "HotWife"....same with "cuckold".....it carries with it too much submissive connotations....and again why we became hooked on "HotWife".....just some food for thought. During sex I am not opposed to being called a slut....but just don't want the title slutwife.

Hugs and best of luck to you
Hot Wife

 

[heyitsthatguy77]

Thanks. I will take that and run with it and stick with the hotwife title.

 

[Bustins]

You said it....don't rush it.....and offer her plenty of compliments....guys all too often overlook how far a few well placed and sincere compliments can get them....the difference in a "ho-hum" weekend and one that is supercharged with wild sex that you might have thought wasn't possible....keep working on things...making suggestions....encourage her to express her ideas and fantasies while having sex. Just remember everyone is different, and any "tips" others might offer that worked in their situation are not guaranteed to work in another environment.....communicate communicate communicate..that is the last suggestion.

Hugs
Hot Wife

good advice...

 

[Tigersman]

Hotwife

I remember reading sometime back either here or another site that if a man wishes for his wife to have sex with other men, then he needs to make everything about her pleasure, not his. You might try to get your wife to watching movies of cuckolding or three-ways with you. While watching the movie, you could make comments to her about "wouldn't you enjoy that?" or something to that nature.

 

[ukcouple4play]

Also remember that ultimately it is your wife's choice, she has to choose to be a hotwife, you can't make her. I have told my OH she is free to sleep with who she chooses and this would turn me on hugely, but so far she just has't wanted to.

 

[turbocs37]

Took a couple years to get mine to try it. I had just about given up when she came back from a massage and asked, "Do you remember what you said about me having sex with another man?" Well, to make a long story short, she seduced him over the next cpl sessions until he was playing with her tiny tits and freshly shaved cunt (she shaved it for him, never would for me). She went to his place one night and they fucked a cpl times. She came home and I ate her freshly fucked pussy. Sad thing was, instead of tasting like cum, it tasted like latex. Moral of the story, I expressed that not only was I ok with her fucking someone else, I would also like it and support her doing it. Then I was patient and let her find her own way to push through any inhibition she had. She never did it again though. I guess she just wasn't all that into it.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Probably the most significant risk is that it becomes about what you want rather than her pleasure. You want to establish a clear and unequivocal focus on her and give her full reign to decide, otherwise she may always have lingering doubts and questions about her own motivation.

As others have said, communication is key but without intending to create barriers I would also say focus on the specifics of how you communicate. Most of us receive what other people say more or less at face value but sort of expect others to figure out our intended message when it differs from the words we say. Given her role in your life she will be hyper-sensitive to the things you say on this topic. The slightest hint that you are jealous or judgmental or pushy can't simply be unwound by saying that isn't what I meant. You can't change that dynamic so just be aware of it.

For instance, her natural assumption will be that you will be jealous. Saying otherwise will not on its own convince her otherwise and saying it more emphatically may come across as trying to delude yourself or as pushing her. Absence of jealousy will come through more in your actions. If she dresses up to go out with friends, hug her and tell her how beautiful she is but leave it at that. Do not ask anything about her night either before or after. If she wants to talk about it let her but resist the temptation to try to get info about other guys - she'll know what you are doing in an instant, start to try to figure out why you are probing and feel as though she needs to explain herself (which stops any sexual awakening cold). Likewise if a man is flirting with her, do not ask her about it or say anything about it after the fact.

Not only does this demonstrate that you won't behave in a jealous manner. It shows her you trust her to take the lead and leaves her to explore her own perspective without owing you an explanation. It also helps you internalize the reality that her sexual choices are her prerogative alone. In my opinion this is the way it has to be. Once things are established you may both want to indulge in sharing all of these experiences. But the starting place needs to be her acting for herself not for you.

I know some of that runs counter to the assertion to communicate. That really isn't what I intend. I just mean give her space to figure out her own thoughts. If she comes home wanting to talk about her night or the guys that hit on her, by all means indulge her completely. And if communication dries up then raise that with her. Just don't be the guy badgering her for info or results.

The one "active" thing that I think is helpful is to share your own view on female sexuality in general. Emphatically not with specific reference to her. Simply the notion that female sexuality is repressed by society and that each woman has the absolute right to choose their own path. And frankly the reality that women have more capacity and opportunity and are the natural leaders when it comes to sex.