How to : Mail order brides

[BondageKink]

First of all, this is a serious thread. Secondly : Please try to refrain from judgement on my desire, although Lit is noticeably more welcoming, friendly and open minded.

I tried googling it but I do not know what sites are trustworthy etc, I also do not wish to pay $8 per email contact with a woman on the sites..

Does anybody have a mail order bride and can provide any insight on the process etc?

Please pass along any real/legit info you have about this process

Thank you kindly,
R.

 

[berg177]

I had a coworker who "ordered" three wives consecutively from Laos and the Philippines. He was very enthusiastic about the process though not the results. He didn't go through the internet though. In fact he was convinced that none of the sites were on the up and up. He contacted marriage brokerage companies in the respective countries and then went to those countries for the meet and greet part. You could try to find a marriage brokerage company. They are most likely on line but they mostly cater to local crowds so you may have to speak the language or make a new friend who can interpret the sites.

 

[BondageKink]

Great, thanks for your reply. I was hoping the results would be produce more of loyal, respecting, honourable wife but I guess that is unfair to assume.

 

[JustaSCOUNDREL]

I had a coworker who "ordered" three wives consecutively from Laos and the Philippines. He was very enthusiastic about the process though not the results. He didn't go through the internet though. In fact he was convinced that none of the sites were on the up and up. He contacted marriage brokerage companies in the respective countries and then went to those countries for the meet and greet part. You could try to find a marriage brokerage company. They are most likely on line but they mostly cater to local crowds so you may have to speak the language or make a new friend who can interpret the sites.

I can only say this many in the Philippines speak English at least to some extent.and a lot of them want to come to the land of "Milk and Honey" so to speak.

No matter how you go about it be very, very careful.

Mike

 

[SweetErika]

Great, thanks for your reply. I was hoping the results would be produce more of loyal, respecting, honourable wife but I guess that is unfair to assume.

It's possible, but unlikely. After all, they're not coming to love, honor and take care of you, they're coming here for better opportunities than they're afforded in their home countries, and likely to make money to send back to their families. That, or it could be that they're being forced into it in some other way.

I don't think I've ever heard of it working out anywhere near the way the guy expects it to (at least more recently - maybe guys had more luck decades ago), though that could be because the type of guy who typically wants a M.O.B. has unreasonable expectations and/or is undesirable in certain ways.

In short, I'd skip it and find someone in your country who wants you for you, rather than citizenship and/or financial benefits.

 

[djyak]

I had a friend that had great success with it, don't know what company he used though. She was from Thailand, and he was already pretty good looking and successful, but he started talking to her through a company and got talking through e-mails and phone calls. I guess it just clicked. The live in Texas, and she's wonderful. She now has a degree in Psychology, and they are so happy together. Maybe it'll work out, but I know he really did his homework checking out companies.

tifani

 

[berg177]

I was hoping the results would be produce more of loyal, respecting, honourable wife but I guess that is unfair to assume.

He was an ass. A multi-cultural ass. I think the fact that they all left him is a good sign that women aren't going to take his kind of crap any more and have come up with a better out than poisoning the bastard.

 

[In Anticipation]

I see men with what appear to be mail order brides here from time to time. It always looks rather sad to me. I'm sure there are exceptions but I would suspect that there are a whole load of unmet expectations on both sides.

 

[sereneone4u]

I see men with what appear to be mail order brides here from time to time. It always looks rather sad to me. I'm sure there are exceptions but I would suspect that there are a whole load of unmet expectations on both sides.

I agree

 

[In Anticipation]

I agree

We can buy 'Fair Trade' chocolate, not sure the same applies to mail order brides. I'm not that keen on third world adoption either.

 

[sereneone4u]

We can buy 'Fair Trade' chocolate, not sure the same applies to mail order brides. I'm not that keen on third world adoption either.

Why not third world adoption? Children need parents and parents need children.

 

[In Anticipation]

Why not third world adoption? Children need parents and parents need children.

That's another whole discussion, and you are right of course. Sometimes it's the best solution, but not always.

 

[Noira]

Great, thanks for your reply. I was hoping the results would be produce more of loyal, respecting, honourable wife but I guess that is unfair to assume.

Honestly, that's horrible to assume. I respect your kink but not the hope that essentially buying a wife will provide you with the submissive wife you want. Women going through mail-order means likely as not are looking to escape poor conditions back home, and want the opportunities that leaving will provide... not the oppressive domineering men who will allow them no opportunities back home. Instead of playing games of gambling with arranged or bought marriages, maybe you should be looking at the BDSM scene... or the ordinary run-of-the-mill scene. There's a shit-ton of loyal, respecting and honorable women all around you... wander over to some small conservative town and you'll find that a lot of the single women have basically been brainwashed TO be loving and respecting and honorable.

I'm not trashing small town people. I am one of them. I grew up in a nice conservative area and people probably aren't actually trying to shove "submissive wife" down my throat but it makes it terribly difficult when you're a sadistic non-heteronormative kinkster, I'm just saying, but I'm also just saying that an awful lot of the women in my age group (and even me, when I was younger) had the life goal of "find a man who will support us and take care of us and let us be the mothers we're supposed to be". Of course finding a respectful, honorable, polite and loving wife comes with the stipulation that you put out what attracts these women: strength, dependability, consideration, respect. These aren't women who squeal over the "bad guy", but gods below, I can tell you this: there is no shortage of the sort of woman you seek where I come from. I get some terrible looks when I suggest things like "well, why did you marry a man who doesn't let you be yourself?" to the woman complaining about how her husband would never let her get the haircut she wanted, and "there's more to motherhood than making sure your kids have clean clothes and lunch. What I remember about my childhood isn't my mother cleaning my laundry, but the times we stayed up til midnight watching movies just because we could" to the woman talking about her motherly duty.

The point of this rant is, just look in the right places. A mail-order bride might get you your pretty ethnic woman pre-programmed to be submissive, but then again, it might get you a feminist bitch who really wanted to get the hell out of there and land you with someone who simply won't meet your expectations. If it's a certain ethnic group you're attracted to, then maybe you ought to go learn the language and visit the country for some time. If it's submissive you're looking for, maybe you need to look at how you're presenting yourself to that sort of woman... because I can tell you for certain that there are some things submissive women find attractive, I get bombarded with it daily, they want REAL men... not someone they have to take care of. It'd be too overwhelming to have to submit to and take care of someone, I think. Strength, that's the kicker.

Not that I disrespect your kink, but I think there's more effective ways to go about getting what you want (presumably a submissive ethnic woman) that would be more mutually satisfactory, with better results, and those ways involve getting out there, talking to people, presenting yourself as attractive and confident... and probably, getting to know the culture of whatever cultural group you're finding particularly attractive.