I have this problem. Its hard for me to know when a woman is ready to have sex. Pretty much the minute I get turned on, I try to go for the gold, but, sometimes there are those chicks who just aren't ready to have sex. So they question is, how can a person be absolutely sure their partner is ready for sex?
How to know when a woman is ready?
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Well I gather you're having sex, just not at the right time for her. The answer to that is simple.
Turn her on and tease her. Altho I'm not having sex with my girlfriend we do the whole foreplay/oral thing. If I wanna get steamy with her I just tease her and turn her on. I do it well I think, cos whenever I slow down or stop, she jumps on me and it all gets underway!
Turn her on and tease her. Altho I'm not having sex with my girlfriend we do the whole foreplay/oral thing. If I wanna get steamy with her I just tease her and turn her on. I do it well I think, cos whenever I slow down or stop, she jumps on me and it all gets underway!
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Well when they tell you they want it is one clue. Also when they rub up aginst you, rub your cock through your clothes...
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I usually let my guy know I'm ready by ripping his clothes off...yeah, I'm a little subtle...
I've also been known to take off my own clothes, lay down naked on the bed, or start sucking on his fingers...any of those usually gives him the clue.
Next time you start to get physical with her, don't "go for the gold" -- just tease her, play with her, pay attention to her entire body, but don't go in -- make her be the one to jump you.
Good luck!
I've also been known to take off my own clothes, lay down naked on the bed, or start sucking on his fingers...any of those usually gives him the clue.
Next time you start to get physical with her, don't "go for the gold" -- just tease her, play with her, pay attention to her entire body, but don't go in -- make her be the one to jump you.
Good luck!
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Women's bodies react differenly than men's; failure to appreciate and accomodate this difference can lead to having NO sex at all.
Foreplay is helluva fun and I commend those who limit themselves to it. Just because you're in a sexual relationship, though, doesn't mean you're exempt! Far from it. It's actually even more important because without some way of getting her turned on, she'll be A) dry, and thus sex will be uncomfortable for her, and B) mentally somewhere else, and merely accomodating your lust. The combination can quickly lead to her being disinterested in sex. Period. Use foreplay to your advantage. Tease. Explore. Play. Have fun! Most women I've known, and whom I've seen post here, agree that getting REALLY turned on, particularly from foreplay leads to A) much more enjoyable sex, and B) MUCH stronger orgasms. The two are of course linked, and the result is her being MORE interested in sex.
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Foreplay is directly proportional to sex--> More foreplays yields more sex; less foreplay yields less sex. It's an exercise in delayed gratification, but the payoff is phenomenal!
Women's bodies react differenly than men's; failure to appreciate and accomodate this difference can lead to having NO sex at all.
Foreplay is helluva fun and I commend those who limit themselves to it. Just because you're in a sexual relationship, though, doesn't mean you're exempt! Far from it. It's actually even more important because without some way of getting her turned on, she'll be A) dry, and thus sex will be uncomfortable for her, and B) mentally somewhere else, and merely accomodating your lust. The combination can quickly lead to her being disinterested in sex. Period. Use foreplay to your advantage. Tease. Explore. Play. Have fun! Most women I've known, and whom I've seen post here, agree that getting REALLY turned on, particularly from foreplay leads to A) much more enjoyable sex, and B) MUCH stronger orgasms. The two are of course linked, and the result is her being MORE interested in sex.
Simplified version of the above:
Foreplay is directly proportional to sex--> More foreplays yields more sex; less foreplay yields less sex. It's an exercise in delayed gratification, but the payoff is phenomenal!
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Okay, now this might seem odd, but why not just ask her?
Or at least, ask her to tell you when she's ready.
I don't know. Seems like the best way to go for me.
Every guy I've ever been with, no matter how heavy the playing was or how much we were sweating and moaning, they all have -always- asked first... not in a direct way, but their words have all varied around one thing.
"Are you sure?"
"This may lead to something serious... are you ready to go there?"
This puts the control in the girl's hands, and, not only makes her feel more powerful over the situation, but it makes you look like a more considerate would-be lover.
Good luck.
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Or at least, ask her to tell you when she's ready.
I don't know. Seems like the best way to go for me.
Every guy I've ever been with, no matter how heavy the playing was or how much we were sweating and moaning, they all have -always- asked first... not in a direct way, but their words have all varied around one thing.
"Are you sure?"
"This may lead to something serious... are you ready to go there?"
This puts the control in the girl's hands, and, not only makes her feel more powerful over the situation, but it makes you look like a more considerate would-be lover.
Good luck.
Sati
biggieds said:
There's all sorts of ready. I like cuddles and hugs, just about always ready for those. When I want sex I do tend to be more touchy/feely with my husband. Ready to orgasm, well I (I had to be tod this, I didn't know I did it) sort of twitch my fingers, like grasping while I'm gasping LOL
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