How to know a stranger is bi and interested?

[curiouslatino31]

So I go shopping a lot. I shop organic and in stores I expect to find open males. I'm in my 30s, good looking, proper with some muscle. How can I find out if males are bi or curious? Is there a code or something I can say or wear to kinda entice a conversation? So hard to approach as I am not open about it. Any of u in the same boat? Thoughts? Any stores to shop at to kinda hit a conversation about it?

 

[Hitchiker69]

Compliment him on his hair or clothes. That should let him know you're interested.

 

[curiouslatino31]

Compliment him on his hair or clothes. That should let him know you're interested.

Is that the clue? Hair and clothes?

 

[philly1]

Hey

Is that the clue? Hair and clothes?

I’d say eye contact for sure with a smile
43 married curious but only for oral nothing more
Do you use Lit chat at all? Under the name philly1

 

[UnderMyKilt]

How can I find out if males are bi or curious?

Hmmm. Why "bi or curious"? Why not "gay, bi or curious"?

 

[curiouslatino31]

Hmmm. Why "bi or curious"? Why not "gay, bi or curious"?

You are right... Any man open to an encounter that is sane and attractive. But preferably, one that goes both ways...

 

[Sunnyade]

Unfortunately there is no formulae for this.

 

[spawnofdavey]

No, no formula I can work out.. I made an arse of myself with a guy I worked with - I thought his behaviour and mannerisms were a clear indication he was at least bi, or gay.. Turns out he was no such thing and was well pissed that I thought he might be.

Be careful, LOL.

 

[J1biboi]

No, no formula I can work out.. I made an arse of myself with a guy I worked with - I thought his behaviour and mannerisms were a clear indication he was at least bi, or gay.. Turns out he was no such thing and was well pissed that I thought he might be.

Be careful, LOL.

I did the same thing with a friend many years ago. It didn't work out well.

 

[Samsacks]

I thought a guy was hitting on me at the beach, so I asked him if he wanted company.

He didn't, but he was cool about it.

 

[coati]

How to know a stranger is bi and interested?

First of all, understand that bi men attract other bi men. It's a magnetism thing that does not work as well with "just being curious". As Jimi Hendrix famously asked, "But first, are you experienced?"

So how do you get experience? One method is to go where men get naked around each other and see which ones reach out to others in some sort of subtle or obvious way. With clothes not being a barrier, there are all kinds of body communications taking place. Naked verbal conversations can frequently lead to sexual topics, and that can lead to mutual body exploration. The beauty of this method is that it takes advantage of 100,000 years of human evolution where humans select for certain characteristics not based upon what someone says in an on-line ad, but on how the real-life person-to-person interaction feels.

And also at these naked venues, there are the more obvious cues. I've had guys put their hand on my leg or backside at hot springs or at the gym hot tub or sauna. I've seen guys walk around with a semi-hard making eye contact with other naked guys. I've seen guys spend extra time washing their cock while I am watching in a gym shower room. One guy at a naked beach made sure I knew he was reading male-male erotica. All I had to do was walk up to him, ask about the book, and talk a little bit about my own male-male history. A guy at an adult book store recently politely asked me if he could join me in my booth.

We basically live in a puritan society. Getting naked with other men helps break the ice. I'm not saying we should do stuff with strangers that puts health at risk or makes people around us feel uncomfortable. All of my encounters have been safe and respectful of others. But shut off your electronic device, get out there, and have some experiences.

Eventually, when you are comfortable with being bisexual, when you really own it and don't make excuses about it, it will be reflected in your body language almost all the time. You won't be as judgmental, and you become more approachable. You won't shirk away in public situations when a non-threatening man makes eye contact with you, opening the door to a conversation. It won't make you uncomfortable when either macho or effeminate gay men just be themselves around you. You will feel more comfortable having conversations with men who are physically affectionate or who express their feelings.

In normal societal situations, there is still a minority of men who feel comfortable being open with each other, but they are out there and I see them in all types of public venues, from grocery stores to the workplace. Some of them are bisexual. You will not identify which ones are bisexual if you don't build trust and get to know them first. In the naked situations, there are frequently shortcuts to getting physical with another man, but in the clothed situations, it usually takes time and trust.

 

[carln3346]

How to know a stranger is bi and interested?

First of all, understand that bi men attract other bi men. It's a magnetism thing that does not work as well with "just being curious". As Jimi Hendrix famously asked, "But first, are you experienced?"

So how do you get experience? One method is to go where men get naked around each other and see which ones reach out to others in some sort of subtle or obvious way. With clothes not being a barrier, there are all kinds of body communications taking place. Naked verbal conversations can frequently lead to sexual topics, and that can lead to mutual body exploration. The beauty of this method is that it takes advantage of 100,000 years of human evolution where humans select for certain characteristics not based upon what someone says in an on-line ad, but on how the real-life person-to-person interaction feels.

And also at these naked venues, there are the more obvious cues. I've had guys put their hand on my leg or backside at hot springs or at the gym hot tub or sauna. I've seen guys walk around with a semi-hard making eye contact with other naked guys. I've seen guys spend extra time washing their cock while I am watching in a gym shower room. One guy at a naked beach made sure I knew he was reading male-male erotica. All I had to do was walk up to him, ask about the book, and talk a little bit about my own male-male history. A guy at an adult book store recently politely asked me if he could join me in my booth.

We basically live in a puritan society. Getting naked with other men helps break the ice. I'm not saying we should do stuff with strangers that puts health at risk or makes people around us feel uncomfortable. All of my encounters have been safe and respectful of others. But shut off your electronic device, get out there, and have some experiences.

Eventually, when you are comfortable with being bisexual, when you really own it and don't make excuses about it, it will be reflected in your body language almost all the time. You won't be as judgmental, and you become more approachable. You won't shirk away in public situations when a non-threatening man makes eye contact with you, opening the door to a conversation. It won't make you uncomfortable when either macho or effeminate gay men just be themselves around you. You will feel more comfortable having conversations with men who are physically affectionate or who express their feelings.

In normal societal situations, there is still a minority of men who feel comfortable being open with each other, but they are out there and I see them in all types of public venues, from grocery stores to the workplace. Some of them are bisexual. You will not identify which ones are bisexual if you don't build trust and get to know them first. In the naked situations, there are frequently shortcuts to getting physical with another man, but in the clothed situations, it usually takes time and trust.

great post!

 

[bikurinpa]

has any one had any luck or experience meeting potential curious or other bi guys at a YMCA with a pool or hot tube? There is a couple of YMCAs around here, one has a hot tub,m pool and sauna, and other two just have a pool.

 

[mtsnowrider]

How to know a stranger is bi and interested?

First of all, understand that bi men attract other bi men. It's a magnetism thing that does not work as well with "just being curious". As Jimi Hendrix famously asked, "But first, are you experienced?"

So how do you get experience? One method is to go where men get naked around each other and see which ones reach out to others in some sort of subtle or obvious way. With clothes not being a barrier, there are all kinds of body communications taking place. Naked verbal conversations can frequently lead to sexual topics, and that can lead to mutual body exploration. The beauty of this method is that it takes advantage of 100,000 years of human evolution where humans select for certain characteristics not based upon what someone says in an on-line ad, but on how the real-life person-to-person interaction feels.

And also at these naked venues, there are the more obvious cues. I've had guys put their hand on my leg or backside at hot springs or at the gym hot tub or sauna. I've seen guys walk around with a semi-hard making eye contact with other naked guys. I've seen guys spend extra time washing their cock while I am watching in a gym shower room. One guy at a naked beach made sure I knew he was reading male-male erotica. All I had to do was walk up to him, ask about the book, and talk a little bit about my own male-male history. A guy at an adult book store recently politely asked me if he could join me in my booth.

We basically live in a puritan society. Getting naked with other men helps break the ice. I'm not saying we should do stuff with strangers that puts health at risk or makes people around us feel uncomfortable. All of my encounters have been safe and respectful of others. But shut off your electronic device, get out there, and have some experiences.

Eventually, when you are comfortable with being bisexual, when you really own it and don't make excuses about it, it will be reflected in your body language almost all the time. You won't be as judgmental, and you become more approachable. You won't shirk away in public situations when a non-threatening man makes eye contact with you, opening the door to a conversation. It won't make you uncomfortable when either macho or effeminate gay men just be themselves around you. You will feel more comfortable having conversations with men who are physically affectionate or who express their feelings.

In normal societal situations, there is still a minority of men who feel comfortable being open with each other, but they are out there and I see them in all types of public venues, from grocery stores to the workplace. Some of them are bisexual. You will not identify which ones are bisexual if you don't build trust and get to know them first. In the naked situations, there are frequently shortcuts to getting physical with another man, but in the clothed situations, it usually takes time and trust.

Very well said. It’s just easier said than done. I’m also stumped trying to think of places where I can hang around naked men LOL

 

[UnderMyKilt]

For crying out loud. WHY does no one seem to do the obvious here? Sometimes I think some of the folks here are more interested in "talking about finding someone" than they are in really finding a like minded person for sex. They like the idea of being "bi", and having sex with other men, more than the reality of really doing it. This is 2019, there are plenty of online resources....use them.

Though it's not the only similar site by any means, I use Squirt dot org, for finding gay and bi companionship both within my local area as well as in cities, towns and regions where I may be traveling. They have paid "Fan Club" memberships, which I suggest, as well as free memberships which though not as full featured, are still a great resource.

Besides the obvious of finding someone local (or at least nearby) via their profile listings, they have "Cruising" listings about places, both public and private, where you are more likely to find "interested" people than just some sort of hit and miss meandering. These include men's clubs, adult toy stores, theaters, spas and baths, gyms, parks, malls, hotels, resorts, campgrounds and bars and nightclubs among others. They're listed by country, state or province, metro areas, cities and even small towns. Other sites are very similar.

When you're standing in a club naked and with a hard on, surrounded by other naked men with hard ons, it's not difficult to guess who might be 'bi", "gay" or "interested". Even more likely when you've made arrangements to meet someone in such place. Hey, if they don't show there's usually others to hook up with.

I've looked up the locales noted on some of the profiles on this thread, and most of you, even those who think they are in the middle of nowhere, are surrounded by places where, if not likely, it's at least more likely that you'd find companionship for sex. You've got to "swallow" your fears and just do it.

 

[ADogWithABone]

This is advice from someone who's never done this with a guy, but I have with women, and my guess is that it's about the same:

For meeting in the real world, start a small conversation about something safe and innocuous. If someone's interested in talking to you, they'll probably try to continue the conversation. At some point, if people are interested, a regular conversation usually has many places where you or the other person can drop something ambiguous enough to open the door but not put anyone in an uncomfortable position

That is, it's easy to be gently suggestive once you're talking to somebody. This, in my view, has many advantages, one of which is that you get to see whether the person is friendly and reasonable.

I might be wrong about how this would work with guys, and women. (And no offense will be taken if you think this advice is shit.)

But if you just want to hook up with a guy as quickly as possible, I'd think online would be easier.

 

[MikeJohnsonCypress]

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[Samsacks]

The other day, I made eye contact with a guy, but then couldn't figure out how to follow up, so I've decided, in the future, I'm going to do the "Don't I know you?" routine.

"Dave? Is that you?" I extend my hand for a handshake. "I'm Sam. Remember, we met in P-Town last summer."

(Hopefully, mentioning P-Town will clue him in)

"Your not Dave? Oh, I'm sorry. I see it, now. I guess I just got carried away."

In my ideal situation, "Dave" laughs it off and, continues the conversation, steering it more toward flirtation. In the end, I get his cock.

 

[Samsacks]

That said, I've met guys through the old Craigslist, Adam4Adam, Squirt.org, and Silverdaddies.com. My favorite is Silverdaddies, because I like older, beefier guys.

I'm just trying to be more open to catching guys "in the wild."

 

[bikurinpa]

That said, I've met guys through the old Craigslist, Adam4Adam, Squirt.org, and Silverdaddies.com. My favorite is Silverdaddies, because I like older, beefier guys.

I'm just trying to be more open to catching guys "in the wild."

those sites may work well in other areas, but here in central Pa it only is a bunch of game players who get on when they are horny and want to chat to get off, then they are GONE or most wont even reply back.

 

[Samsacks]

I had another idea...

My state (Virginia) does not have liquor stores, instead we have ABC stores (Alcoholic Beverage Control). Newcomers are always bewildered by this and wonder where they can get a bottle of whisky. So, if I see a guy I'm interested in, I'll pretend to be a newbie and ask him where I can get a drink.

 

[blowit]

I had another idea...

My state (Virginia) does not have liquor stores, instead we have ABC stores (Alcoholic Beverage Control). Newcomers are always bewildered by this and wonder where they can get a bottle of whisky. So, if I see a guy I'm interested in, I'll pretend to be a newbie and ask him where I can get a drink.

And he replies "I don't know but you can suck my cock if you like"? In reality he's likely to tell you and you're no closer to sucking cock lol.

 

[Samsacks]

And he replies "I don't know but you can suck my cock if you like"? In reality he's likely to tell you and you're no closer to sucking cock lol.

This would be after making eye contact and assessing whether he might be interested. If he's straight and uninterested, he answers the question and moves on. If he's bi or gay and interested, it's a conversation starter.

It would be nice, though, if you could just approach guys and say "I'd like to suck your dick."

 

[klippert]

If you are 'really' interested...truly wanting M/M sex..or someone to cry too. best thing to do is sign up for a Bi SoSa media site: kik, F***B**k, Find your location. then frequent the cruse spots and follow the signal instructions someone has post...

unless some Pansy is stroking the bananas or cucumbers in the grocery store...its blind shot..

 

[edgrant]

Has anyone had any experience with the "handkerchief code?"