How to keep the CONDOM ON!

[PinkPeep]

Frustration sets in when my partner and I are well on our way to a wonderful orgasm. I love feeling him come in me. However this has not happened for 3 and a half years because I can't use hormonal birth control (health issues). So condoms it is.

We've used them in the past (with no success) partially because either A)he becomes non aroused almost immediately putting condom on. or B) the damn thing slides off inside of me.

It's so frustrating that I'm avoiding sex. What can we do?

Vasectomy is off the table. Hubby is afraid of the effects. (losing feeling)

and Permanent birth control for me is off the table because it's so invasive. (allergic to metal of ESSURE)

 

[silverwhisper]

condoms are not supposed to slip off. they're supposed to be tight for a reason. i've used them many times without such an issue.

is he for vanity reasons buying the wrong size perhaps?

ed

 

[7inchglory]

Maybe he needs tighter condoms? Or maybe he's not pulling it all the way up his shaft?

Another reason could be, if yougoes too deep, the part that you peel back could be going inside of you and pussy might be rolling it off his shaft

 

[fire_breeze]

Frustration sets in when my partner and I are well on our way to a wonderful orgasm. I love feeling him come in me. However this has not happened for 3 and a half years because I can't use hormonal birth control (health issues). So condoms it is.

We've used them in the past (with no success) partially because either A)he becomes non aroused almost immediately putting condom on. or B) the damn thing slides off inside of me.

It's so frustrating that I'm avoiding sex. What can we do?

Vasectomy is off the table. Hubby is afraid of the effects. (losing feeling)

and Permanent birth control for me is off the table because it's so invasive. (allergic to metal of ESSURE)

Have you considered either a diaphram or an IUD? Some IUDs have very low hormones, but many others do not. Several of my friends have them - one of them allergic to all sorts of metal, so hers is plastic - and they rave about them. Many other of my friends uses a diaphram and either spermicide or the film, and they love it as well.

While vaginal spermicide films aren't recommended on its own (upto 6% failure rate when used correctly, 24% when not), in combination with other birth control, it can add much added protection.

If the condom slips off, it may be that it is not the right size, either too big or too small. Furthermore, your partner can add a drop of lube in the tip before he or you rolls the condom on to add sensation.

Another thing that I strongly recommend is that you have a long talk with your doctor or OBY/GYN and lay it out for them and go over the options with them.

 

[PinkPeep]

different sizes? do you mean width or length? where can I find this information on the box? *feels ashamed.*

 

[silverwhisper]

pinkpeep: the packaging on condoms is designed to appeal to male egos so assume any reference to a large size is intended that way (e.g., magnum, max, etc). manufacturers generally mean both length and girth.

ed

 

[PinkPeep]

Have you considered either a diaphram or an IUD? Some IUDs have very low hormones, but many others do not. Several of my friends have them - one of them allergic to all sorts of metal, so hers is plastic - and they rave about them. Many other of my friends uses a diaphram and either spermicide or the film, and they love it as well.

While vaginal spermicide films aren't recommended on its own (upto 6% failure rate when used correctly, 24% when not), in combination with other birth control, it can add much added protection.

If the condom slips off, it may be that it is not the right size, either too big or too small. Furthermore, your partner can add a drop of lube in the tip before he or you rolls the condom on to add sensation.

Another thing that I strongly recommend is that you have a long talk with your doctor or OBY/GYN and lay it out for them and go over the options with them.

I had a long talk with my doctor about different birth control options for me. Blood clots are a very big issue and I am not allowed to take any hormones after some serious health issues that happened after taking the depo shot for almost 3 years.

Diaphragm...isn't that a cup that you insert into vagina before sex? Doesn't that feel weird or uncomfortable during the act?

 

[fire_breeze]

different sizes? do you mean width or length? where can I find this information on the box? *feels ashamed.*

As most men are not the same size, so too many condoms do not fit most men. Your partner may need a smaller condom or one that is made for a slimmer penis. So he may be long but his girth is on the thinner, making his condom a bit loose. The trick is to find a brand and condom type that fits the way it is supposed to.

Most sex shops sell all sorts of condom in single use, so you and your partner can find one that works without buying boxes that you won't use.

Here are two sites that you can peruse: click me and me.

 

[PinkPeep]

First I am thinking that they are too big and he's going too deep. (he's not the biggest guy...)

 

[PinkPeep]

As most men are not the same size, so too many condoms do not fit most men. Your partner may need a smaller condom or one that is made for a slimmer penis. So he may be long but his girth is on the thinner, making his condom a bit loose. The trick is to find a brand and condom type that fits the way it is supposed to.

Most sex shops sell all sorts of condom in single use, so you and your partner can find one that works without buying boxes that you won't use.

Here are two sites that you can peruse: click me and me.

THANK YOU FIRE_BREEZE!!!

 

[fire_breeze]

I had a long talk with my doctor about different birth control options for me. Blood clots are a very big issue and I am not allowed to take any hormones after some serious health issues that happened after taking the depo shot for almost 3 years.

Diaphragm...isn't that a cup that you insert into vagina before sex? Doesn't that feel weird or uncomfortable during the act?

There are a lot of options that are non-hormonal. IUD, for example. Diaphragm. Spermicide combo.

And yes, the diaphragm is a shallow cup that fits over the cervix. If it's placed properly, then you shouldn't feel anything. According to many of my friends who use it, they have to remind themselves to take it out.

These are options. You said you liked your guy cumming in you - well, these are non-hormonal, effective (okay, the film alone isn't) ways that you can. You do have to see your doc though.

 

[PinkPeep]

Thanks everyone for your input. I REALLY appreciate it. Here's to a happier sex life in the near future! (making dr.s appointment soon)

 

[backslash]

First I am thinking that they are too big and he's going too deep. (he's not the biggest guy...)

This sounds like it may be the issue. Is he rolling it down all the way to the base? If so, it shouldn't be an issue of how deep he's going. I haven't really experienced this issue, but I've always found Lifestyles to be a good bit tighter than Trojan condoms as far as girth - switching might be enough to keep them on if it's a size issue. I'm no porn star but I can't even wear Lifestyles comfortably or even properly, so that's my suggestion for anyone on the lower side of the spectrum.

 

[Miles Long]

Get the condoms with horizontal stripes, as they will make his cock look wider. Vertical stripes will have a slimming visual effect.

 

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[charlie069]

Snip way to go

Vasectomy is off the table. Hubby is afraid of the effects. (losing feeling)

and Permanent birth control for me is off the table because it's so invasive. (allergic to metal of ESSURE)

Pink tell him not to worry about losing feeling, i had vasectomy about 6 years ago and have lost no sense of feeling or had any semen during ejaculation, should of had it few years earlier. A Snip is the way to go if you are in secure relationship and definetly want permanent birth control.

 

[oggbashan]

Pink tell him not to worry about losing feeling, i had vasectomy about 6 years ago and have lost no sense of feeling or had any semen during ejaculation, should of had it few years earlier. A Snip is the way to go if you are in secure relationship and definetly want permanent birth control.

One doctor described the impact of a vasectomy of standing beside a river:

Before - the river has fish in it; After - no fish, but the effect of the river is exactly the same.

Size of condom, Banned Australian advert: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bOq_0Fg1yIs

 

[suckonsimon]

Pink tell him not to worry about losing feeling, i had vasectomy about 6 years ago and have lost no sense of feeling or had any semen during ejaculation, should of had it few years earlier. A Snip is the way to go if you are in secure relationship and definetly want permanent birth control.

Just to support charlie's point. There is not difference at all for a man in terms of the quantity of cum or the experience of ejaculation after having the snip. It's just that you know you can pump it deep into a woman with no worries of long term consequences! Snip!

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

Vasectomy is off the table. Hubby is afraid of the effects. (losing feeling)

Have never heard of a guy losing feeling from a vasectomy. I had one a few years ago and sorry it was not done sooner. (She was in the room while the doctor did it.) Without the danger of an "accident" my wife enjoys sex so much more, while we have it so much more!

 

[CuriousCoot]

Frustration sets in when my partner and I are well on our way to a wonderful orgasm. I love feeling him come in me. However this has not happened for 3 and a half years because I can't use hormonal birth control (health issues). So condoms it is.

We've used them in the past (with no success) partially because either A)he becomes non aroused almost immediately putting condom on. or B) the damn thing slides off inside of me.

It's so frustrating that I'm avoiding sex. What can we do?

Vasectomy is off the table. Hubby is afraid of the effects. (losing feeling)

and Permanent birth control for me is off the table because it's so invasive. (allergic to metal of ESSURE)

Didn't he pay for the tax? They are a bit painful at first I would imagine but they would sure keep the thing on!

 

[CuriousCoot]

Have never heard of a guy losing feeling from a vasectomy. I had one a few years ago and sorry it was not done sooner. (She was in the room while the doctor did it.) Without the danger of an "accident" my wife enjoys sex so much more, while we have it so much more!

Who said "If it were left up to women when to get pregnant, the human race would vanish in 100 years!"

Maybe it was me? WHo knows.

 

[amofiga]

Frustration sets in when my partner and I are well on our way to a wonderful orgasm. I love feeling him come in me. However this has not happened for 3 and a half years because I can't use hormonal birth control (health issues). So condoms it is.

We've used them in the past (with no success) partially because either A)he becomes non aroused almost immediately putting condom on. or B) the damn thing slides off inside of me.

It's so frustrating that I'm avoiding sex. What can we do?

Vasectomy is off the table. Hubby is afraid of the effects. (losing feeling)

and Permanent birth control for me is off the table because it's so invasive. (allergic to metal of ESSURE)

I can understand your hubby's feelings about condoms. I've hated them since I was a teenager back in the dark ages when they were more or less the only form of birth control other than pulling out. The pill hadn't even been invented yet.

I'm not sure why having your tubes tied is such an awful thought to you. I've known many women who have had that done after having as many kids as they wanted. Men have more than the "insensitivity" issue associated with vasectomy. Even if they won't admit it, there is a bit of a "castration fear" associated with it.

I'm going out on a limb here with your feelings about want int your husband to cum inside you. I don't know how you feel about such issues, but cumming in your mouth is also a way for him to cum inside you. I've known many women with whom I ADORE sharing that sort of "birth control". You could to that most times of the month and during those times that you are absolutely least likely to be ovulating, go for him cumming inside you vaginally. Gees, I sound like a Catholic priest don't I?

As to keeping the condom on, make sure you have the right brand and size of condom. Pre lubricated ones are probably the biggest risk. Lube on both sides equals slippery no matter how you cut it. Consider unlubed condoms with lube in your or on the outside of the condom.

If he really hates condoms or has an issue going soft getting them on, then maybe YOU putting them on in a particularly naughty slutty way with some good dirty talking could help. Me personally, I don't think I'd go soft with some nice dirtylady licking my balls while she rolled it on saying something like, "mommy doesn't want any of daddy's nasty old cock cream flooding her cunt and knocking her up so be a good boy and pump your jizz in this little baggy for me. If your a nice boy, mommy will let you dump the rubber all over her face and tits later." I'd probably get so damned turned on by that that I'd cream in the rubber before it was on. Yours truly finds such slutty talk from the ladies simply wonderful and one of the best aphrodesiacs. BUt that's just me. Only you know what your hubby likes.

 

[pretty_randy]

If you truely do not want children, a vas is the way to go. The procedure is not that bad. He will be down for a week or less and after about 6 weeks and a lab test, you can play without fear of accidents.
An alternative that I have not seen discussed here is the female condom.

 

[suckonsimon]

If you truely do not want children, a vas is the way to go. The procedure is not that bad. He will be down for a week or less and after about 6 weeks and a lab test, you can play without fear of accidents.
An alternative that I have not seen discussed here is the female condom.

Hey pretty, welcome to posting! Hope it's not another year before you do again! Simon.

 

[Hypoxia]

Vasectomies: No, feeling is not lost. Yes, partners can even palpate the scrotum and feel the cut ends of the vas deferens, and be assured that the tubes have indeed been snipped. Yes, vasectomies assure sterility.

HOWEVER a small portion of vasectomized men (including a partner of mine) suffer inflammation, infection, and other consequences, including urethral stricture (which reduces urine flow) and scrotal pain. Search Wikipedia on 'Epididymitis' and 'Vasectomy'.