How to get over her

[CJ-Reaper]

Hey everyone. I'm new to the board.

I broke up with my g/f about a month ago and it wasn't a nice split it all.
It started a month before that. She kissed someone else and decided that she may have feelings for them as well as me. She said she needed some time to think. I accepted that, but was kind of stunned when she couldn't even tell me that she loved me.
To cut a long story short, she never told me that she wanted to break up, instead she just went around kissing other guys & becoming a little slut, telling people that there was "no her and CJ". She never once told me that she didn't wanna be with me. I actually found out through someone else.
In most circumstances I would be like "fine, f*** you!" but I can't do it with this girl. Its kind of like a "I love you, I hate you" feeling. Mostly because this was my first physical relationship.

My question is, what can I do to forget and get over this girl? Coz I'm ripping myself apart over this.
Any input would be great.

Thanks.
~CJ

 

[lorddragonwolf]

Cj it is going to take awhile to get over her. all i can say is try to start dating again. i have had a girlfriend do the same thing and its hard to just give up on them. but go out have some fun with friends and meet some new women.

 

[Monazwx]

That was tough, but remember, she didn't deserve you if she carried on like that.
Like lorddragonwolf said, start dating, put yourself on the market.
Group dates with supportive friends would help to start with.

Good luck with this.

 

[CJ-Reaper]

Yeah, that's what I'm trying to do, but because we lost our virginities together, every time I even picture her kissing another guy, it feel like someone's tearing a hole in my stomach!

Thanks for the advice. Keep it coming.

~CJ

 

[Etoile]

I know it doesn't help much right now, but life does go on. You're young yet, with plenty of women ahead of you. You might break some hearts, yours might be broken again. That's life, though, and we all get through it somehow. I know that stomach-tearing feeling you describe...I find the best thing to is distract myself as much as possible.

 

[James G 5]

My question is, what can I do to forget and get over this girl? Coz I'm ripping myself apart over this.
Any input would be great.

Thanks.
~CJ

See, this is ehere you learn the important life lesson that all women are evil, lying bitches who will rip your heart out & spit on it whenever possible, treating you bad as much as they can, and generally making your life a living hell. The only possible response is to develop a hard shell about you and a deep disdain for women, using them as fucktoys for your pleasure and breaking their hearts before they can break yours using the lie known as "love".

Ok, no, seriously (sounded awful bitter for a minute there, didn't I? )

Etoile gave you great advice
I will say don't jump right back out there.......turning to getting laid to get yourself over it will breed a real cyncical attitude about sex
Don't jump back in a relationship for the same reason, rebounds almost never work
Take some time for yourself WITH yourself to focus on you & your life
Worst thing people do is try to fine someone else to "complete" them or "make them whole" or "be their other half"
Find some completion & happiness in yourself & then find someone to share it with, you'll both be better off in the long run than if you turn to someone just because you're hurting
And good luck

 

[Etoile]

Funny that my advice can be seen as great...I really have very little experience with breakups such as this! I just say what I think would be appropriate. The distraction part is true though, that's my favorite way of getting over things.

 

[English Lady]

All i want to say is don't just try to bury your emotions,in the long run it'll only make you feel worse,my advice is to spend some time concerntrating on you...doing things you enjoy,treating yourself. break ups are never easy and this sounds like it was particularly nasty. take your time and do what you feel is right...you know yourself better than any of us do

 

[CJ-Reaper]

I am trying to focus on myself loads and trying to have fun and be me again, but all it takes is the smallest little reminder and I get p*ssed off again!

~CJ

 

[CJ-Reaper]

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