How to get my wife to know how hot she is

[Footguy505]

My wife and I have been together 19 years married 17. We both had Gastric bypass. I have always found my wife to very attractive. Since she has lost 100lbs it seems other men are ogling my wife. I tell my wife that she is incredibly sexy and hot all the time and she tells me that I have to say that since I’m her husband. I tell her that men were checking her out when we go places when I notice them doing it. She says I’m lying. How do I get her to realize that it’s not just me that other men are looking at her also and that she truly is attractive. Just a side note having other men look at and or watch her does not upset me.

 

[rockcasbah]

since you’re here, you should start by posting a picture of her.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

I normally advise men to never buy lingerie for their women, but this could be an exception. Go wild, really wild - a tiny bikini or something to make Fredericks of Hollywood blush.

(Make sure you get the size right. If it's way too big, she's going to think that you think she's larger than she is. If it's too small, she'd going to feel fat all by herself.)

If you handle this right, it's an affirmation for her - I find you so sexy that I want to see you wearing this! She might not even wear it, but she'll remember.

Good luck.

 

[Footguy505]

I normally advise men to never buy lingerie for their women, but this could be an exception. Go wild, really wild - a tiny bikini or something to make Fredericks of Hollywood blush.

(Make sure you get the size right. If it's way too big, she's going to think that you think she's larger than she is. If it's too small, she'd going to feel fat all by herself.)

If you handle this right, it's an affirmation for her - I find you so sexy that I want to see you wearing this! She might not even wear it, but she'll remember.

Good luck.

Thank you for your reply. I have bought her many things over the years. She says she’s not cute enough to wear them. I just wish she would see herself as beautiful as I see her. It’s a self confidence thing. I wish she would get more.

 

[Rainblow]

I'm not sure if you can. We're bombarded by images of unrealistic and unattainable beauty standards which causes body dysmorphia in women and men. If you look at porn that could also undermine her confidence in her self image and sexuality. It's a big turn off for some partners to think their significant other needs outside stimulation for sexy fun time. The majority of people have an intrinsic need to feel desired and valued. You could try telling her she's beautiful, then put her hand on your cock and say 'That's all you, doll' or something else equally as cheesy. At worst you make her smile, at best you get laid.

 

[Saint_Ann]

since you’re here, you should start by posting a picture of her.

Do we really need to see pics of her stretch-markrd feet?

 

[rockcasbah]

Do we really need to see pics of her stretch-markrd feet?

Sadist says yes.

 

[Kimlikes]

My wife and I have been together 19 years married 17. We both had Gastric bypass. I have always found my wife to very attractive. Since she has lost 100lbs it seems other men are ogling my wife. I tell my wife that she is incredibly sexy and hot all the time and she tells me that I have to say that since I’m her husband. I tell her that men were checking her out when we go places when I notice them doing it. She says I’m lying. How do I get her to realize that it’s not just me that other men are looking at her also and that she truly is attractive. Just a side note having other men look at and or watch her does not upset me.

I used cover up completely and just get naughty at home until my husband talk me into counting the people I noticed checking my boobs out after the first day of counting I started to believe him and enjoy the attention .

 

[hanban24]

My wife and I have been together 19 years married 17. We both had Gastric bypass. I have always found my wife to very attractive. Since she has lost 100lbs it seems other men are ogling my wife. I tell my wife that she is incredibly sexy and hot all the time and she tells me that I have to say that since I’m her husband. I tell her that men were checking her out when we go places when I notice them doing it. She says I’m lying. How do I get her to realize that it’s not just me that other men are looking at her also and that she truly is attractive. Just a side note having other men look at and or watch her does not upset me.

As women, and humans, we often times see the worst in ourselves. Especially if she is coming from a place where she has had weight issues in the past, she might not have a lot of positive feelings about herself.

I think it is most important that you are showing her love, affection, and giving her that verbal affirmation. At a certain point in life feeling “hot” isn’t as important as it once was. It might just be enough knowing that you find her attractive.

If she needs to know how attractive she is to others, you could always suggest an experiment where you (with her permission) posts pictures here for people to comment on. Not sure if she knows you come here, though, so that could have some risk.

In reality, I think it is best to just keep loving her. That is probably enough.

 

[Brains_N_Boobs]

https://imgur.com/y5nhEb6.jpg

 

[mywife4othermen]

My wife and I have been together 19 years married 17. We both had Gastric bypass. I have always found my wife to very attractive. Since she has lost 100lbs it seems other men are ogling my wife. I tell my wife that she is incredibly sexy and hot all the time and she tells me that I have to say that since I’m her husband. I tell her that men were checking her out when we go places when I notice them doing it. She says I’m lying. How do I get her to realize that it’s not just me that other men are looking at her also and that she truly is attractive. Just a side note having other men look at and or watch her does not upset me.

Can I suggest lots of gentle encouragement to start dressing in clothes that will not only make her even more attractive to men but that will also make her feel good about herself. Does she like to be told fantasy stories sometimes in bed? Do you ever make up scenarios in bed before having sex? You could start incorporating your desires to see her looking hot when other men are around. Build up her confidence but, all the time, keep emphasizing your love for her. Don't let her think that you ever want to "give her away" for other men to enjoy sexually, even if that's a secret fantasy of yours. It worked for me but patience is needed.

 

[nightowl75]

I watched one of those daytime talk shows years ago (Springer, Geraldo, can’t remember). He was interviewing formerly fat women who had lost a bunch of weight. They couldn’t believe men were hitting on them. They were all gorgeous, but in their minds they were still overweight. It is a mindset that probably takes years to change.

 

[mywife4othermen]

https://imgur.com/y5nhEb6.jpg

LOL!!

 

[Kimlikes]

https://imgur.com/a/3IQP9Nn