How to get my girlfriend to like giving me blowjobs?

[SnowBalls83]

My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years now and I will say we have pretty good sex. The problem I have is getting her to give me a bj. When we first started dating she wouldnt do it. Most of the time the only way I can make her cum is by eating her pussy. So thats kinda the card I played on her was that I'm going down on you so can't you go down on me? Long story short...she still doesn't like to give them and they are far and few between. She says they are dirty...and gets mad at me when I bring it up. Every time we ever have sex I always go down on her and she loves it But as soon as I'm done on her she just wants to go right to intercores. I will even shower right before sex so she knows I'm clean down there. We are both compleatly shaved so it's not a matter of that. it's not like I'm trying to shove it down Her throat either..I let her go at her own pace. what do you guys recomend? Sorry if there's spelling errors..I'm on my mobil.

 

[RyanBooks]

Are you her first lover?

It took my wife a while to get to the point of giving me BJs, and I just recently posted a thread seeking how I can convince her to swallow. And in that thread someone wondered if my wife had a bad previous experience which got me thinking.

Giving head to me used to bring up memories of her past that she did not want to remember. So, rather than talk about it with me, she just wouldn't go down there. Once we did talk about it and she was able to let go of her past lovers, she is much more willing to give me head. Not as much as I would like, but more than it used to be.

 

[subwannabe]

Sorry to burst your bubble but after 6 years it ain't gonna happen, now way, no how. There's nothing you can do about it other than accept reality or get a new girlfriend.

 

[xtinelauren1]

Sorry to burst your bubble but after 6 years it ain't gonna happen, now way, no how. There's nothing you can do about it other than accept reality or get a new girlfriend.

Yeah.. If she's not comfortable doing it, then it is what it is. Maybe it's just me, but I would never want my partner doing something I knew they legitimately disliked and that made them uncomfortable regardless of how much I wanted it.

If it's that big of a deal for you, which it seems to be, why don't you try talking to her about it instead of trying to guilt her into it with the whole "well I gave, now you have to?" If it is something she just doesn't want to do, accept the fact that it's not going to happen. If you can't, find a gf with whom you're compatible with sexually.

 

[robertreams]

6 years and still a girlfriend. That's why!

 

[Noor]

She doesn't want to, it feels unclean to her, full stop. If you don't want to go down on her that is your choice. Sex is not a trade off like that.
Women who don't like giving BJs usually have a reason like TMJ, they feel it is unclean on a gut level, or some guy hurt them that way.

 

[LadyVer]

My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years now and I will say we have pretty good sex. The problem I have is getting her to give me a bj. When we first started dating she wouldnt do it. Most of the time the only way I can make her cum is by eating her pussy. So thats kinda the card I played on her was that I'm going down on you so can't you go down on me? Long story short...she still doesn't like to give them and they are far and few between. She says they are dirty...and gets mad at me when I bring it up. Every time we ever have sex I always go down on her and she loves it But as soon as I'm done on her she just wants to go right to intercores. I will even shower right before sex so she knows I'm clean down there. We are both compleatly shaved so it's not a matter of that. it's not like I'm trying to shove it down Her throat either..I let her go at her own pace. what do you guys recomend? Sorry if there's spelling errors..I'm on my mobil.

I don't blame you for resenting this. Sex is about mutual pleasure. You're mutually pleasuring her in a way she loves, but she can't do the same for you. I don't know the answer. I would think if she wants to please you, she would take the time to learn how she can get over her resistance because it's important to you and because there's an inequality about this issue. She can change, but she has to want to. And, hopefully, if she does change, she'll grow to love giving you blow jobs. But she may not.

 

[secretlykinky77]

Sorry to burst your bubble but after 6 years it ain't gonna happen, now way, no how. There's nothing you can do about it other than accept reality or get a new girlfriend.

That's not necessarily true. When I was in my twenties I didn't really like to give blow jobs but now that I'm in my thirties I love it. I love how much it turns the guy on when I have my mouth wrapped around his hard cockmmmmmmm.
Is she open to watching porn with you. Maybe if she watched porn where a girl was sucking a guy and she saw how much it is turning him on it would warm her up to the idea....

 

[tristantrotsky]

Just Offering...

My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years now and I will say we have pretty good sex. The problem I have is getting her to give me a bj. When we first started dating she wouldnt do it. Most of the time the only way I can make her cum is by eating her pussy. So thats kinda the card I played on her was that I'm going down on you so can't you go down on me? Long story short...she still doesn't like to give them and they are far and few between. She says they are dirty...and gets mad at me when I bring it up. Every time we ever have sex I always go down on her and she loves it But as soon as I'm done on her she just wants to go right to intercores. I will even shower right before sex so she knows I'm clean down there. We are both compleatly shaved so it's not a matter of that. it's not like I'm trying to shove it down Her throat either..I let her go at her own pace. what do you guys recomend? Sorry if there's spelling errors..I'm on my mobil.

So your girlfriend won't suck your cock? That's her choice, respect it. Don't try to force or coerce her, that's just plain bad. Instead - think about this, there's lots of Gay guys out there, like me, who just love to suck off straight guys, we deep-throat, we always swallow, and we're pathetically grateful, we are discrete, and we won't betray you by telling anyone about it. Until you've really had your cock sucked by an appreciative Gay Guy, you just don't know how good a blow-job can be. Try it...

 

[jckontharocks]

So your girlfriend won't suck your cock? That's her choice, respect it. Don't try to force or coerce her, that's just plain bad. Instead - think about this, there's lots of Gay guys out there, like me, who just love to suck off straight guys, we deep-throat, we always swallow, and we're pathetically grateful, we are discrete, and we won't betray you by telling anyone about it. Until you've really had your cock sucked by an appreciative Gay Guy, you just don't know how good a blow-job can be. Try it...

Hahaha. That made me laugh. I'd listen. Or just skull fuck heR......ya know??

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Take her to a musical. Click

 

[Conager]

Hard enough to get a girl that says she LOVES to give head to keep doing it for any length of a relationship. Converting one? Never.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

diamonds.

diamonds make blow jobs better.

 

[Athalia]

Have you tried chocolate?

No, not bonbons. On your penis. Chocolate syrup. Just a little bit, and she can lick it off. Or whipped cream...

The point is to make it fun for her. Make it a game, appeal to her sense of play.

If that doesn't work, and BJs are that important to you, it's time to reassess the relationship.

 

[LadyVer]

chocolate and whipped cream is good.

 

[MaryanneB]

Oh for God's sake. There are still women who won't put a dick in their mouth?
What is going on with this world.....

 

[suckonsimon]

You love her? Then you accept her as she is.
Do things changes sometimes? Well, yes they do. Especially when there's no pressure or an 'issue' made.

Does she adore your cock? I mean adore it for what it does to her body and her inner being? And if not quite, will you work on your skills as to taking her to orgasm with that thing inside her to a fabulous degree so that she starts adoring your cock? - so much so that she will desire to have it in her mouth on a regular basis ... ?

Simon.

 

[subwannabe]

There seem to be two different definitions of a blowjob. One is having a cock in your mouth. The other is a cock actually cumming in the mouth. If someone can't even make it to the first definition then they are a lost cause.

 

[Wordsworth]

Tell her the choice is breathing or sucking.

 

[loveroflove]

damn

i am the total opposite! i will give a guy a BJ but i will not let him go down on me. try other things such as letting her take complete control (scarves are wonderful in the right hands!) she might get brave if you are not watching her and judging her. oh and bring ice , fruit, or something!

 

[basic_desires]

6 years and still a girlfriend. That's why!

Dream on. If after 6 years its still not happening, the remaining sex would disappear as well if he were to tie the knot .

 

[coati]

Yeah, finding a diverse and adventurous sex life in a lifetime commitment to a monogamous relationship is the exception, not the rule, and yet, many members of our society still try to push everyone down that road.

 

[30bandits]

diamonds.

diamonds make blow jobs better.

reminds me of a joke I once heard...."I got a tattoo of a $100 bill on my dick, because women love to blow money."
don't shoot the messenger folks, like I said it was a joke I once heard.

 

[SnowBalls83]

Thanks for all the responces. Some of you took this in the wrong way But that's probably part my fault for not giving more info. It's not like I'm trying to shove it down her throat...and I can live without a bj I guess. I was just wondering if there was anyway to make her seem to enjoy it a little more. There is absolutely no way I'm going to let her go...we click perfect In every other way. She loves sex just as much as me and we still have great fun..so maybe some of your suggestions will help or maybe she just will never be that into it...and I'm fine with that. Thanks lit members for all the advice.

 

[Emerson40]

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