How to get a guy interested?

[justfuckmenow]

I've never actually dated a guy before, probably because I don't really know how to show a guy that I'm interested in them other than asking if they want to go for coffee or a movie. Unfortunately, this intimidates a lot of guys... any advice?

---Clueless

 

[StiffMember66]

Well you could always recite your screen name to them . I know that would certainly get my attention .

 

[infinity706]

Well you could always recite your screen name to them . I know that would certainly get my attention .

Well, that would certainly be highly looked upon by me.

 

[satindesire]

Sending subtle sexual signals such as playing with your hair, using your hands when you speak, licking your lips and 'accidentally' or casually touching them is a good way to send interested vibes towards a guy you like.

Also, stand in such a way that you're sort of imitating the way they're standing, 'mirroring' their body language.

Eye contact is very sexy, too.

Also, if the way you're asking these guys out is intimidating them, try doing it in a softer way.

 

[StiffMember66]

Well, that would certainly be highly looked upon by me.

In what way ?

 

[hellsgate]

Try doing things with the guy. DO RESEARCH on the guy. Ask around in the neighborhood (sisters, male and female cousins, ex-girlfriends from childhood, etc.) about where he goes to unwind, play pool, etc. See if he has nieces/nephews/god-sons/god-daughters and kinda tag along to babysit or whatever turns up. Play things by ear. Offer to go to important things with him (weddings, funerals, seminars for work, etc.)

Over time, be his private, subtle, quietly-proud "personal cheerleader". Stand-up for him if other girls diss/dismiss him for stuff he did in junior high school and other stupid stuff people hang onto for far too long. Ever so gradually, work your way into letting other girls know "he's mine, so fuck off." Tag along on future shopping trips or know when he has to go to do his shopping himself & "oh, I had no idea you'd be here." as you get your girl-buds to act like you're there for an afternoon movie matinee or to meet-up with one of your girl-pal's guys or some other deal. Don't be pushy, but be ready to be offer educated opinions, so he looks his best in new clothes & offer to straighten his tie during semi-formal things like right before he goes in for job interviews. Get him away from foods that are giving him a stomach and little things like that.

 

[jeepman6]

I've never actually dated a guy before, probably because I don't really know how to show a guy that I'm interested in them other than asking if they want to go for coffee or a movie. Unfortunately, this intimidates a lot of guys... any advice?

---Clueless

Just keep asking. Not all of us are intimidated by a woman asking us out.

 

[emap]

One of the best ways to ask a guy out, is to make it his idea.

Guys don't read any more this is not for you to know about.

What I mean is instead of asking if he'd like to go for some coffee or to whatever movie you want to go see. Ask him if he knows any great places to go because you just can't go out into this great big old city alone. Helps if you get all wide eyed and scared looking.

Another good one is simply asking if he would like to do something with you. I know seems weird, but most guys actually like if you simply show serious interest in them and let them decide where to go.

Unless you want to have sex with him right away don't say anything you want to do is fine. For whatever reason saying that to most guys means yes I want you to rip my clothes off and have your way with me.

Well may not be most guys, just most you find in a club or bar. I probably should have not worked in so many.

 

[TheHeinz57]

Subtle ways are ok, but don't go TOO subtle.

I can honestly say that I'm quite thickheaded when it comes to catching on to that sort of thing

 

[SweetErika]

You must not be all that clueless if you've had prior relationships.

Most men welcome being asked out. It takes the pressure off them. If you ask them out and don't act like you're repulsed by them, they're bound to think you're interested in them. If they're available and don't find you unattractive, they're going to accept your invitation to go out.

Perhaps you are making it way more complex than it really is?

 

[TheHeinz57]

Not completely now, but I haven't had many actual relationships either, I'm only 18

 

[Ardeche]

Well this works for me...

I for one have NEVER traditionally flirted i.e. batted my eyelashes, or twirled my hair or any of that.

The simplest and most effective thing I can think of is to TALK to them. Ask open ended questions about any and everything. Let the focus be on them. A lot of men don't have the opportunity to talk about themselves, so giving them that opportunity is welcome. Throw in some humour, some sage words and personal experiences and you're good to go.

If they are interested they'll come back for more

Good luck!

 

[Dreamliner]

Show an interest in the guy. Engineer moments and time together...either with a group of friends, which can be easier and a "safe" way to guage the level of interest or through watching his daily work schedule and making sure at some point you meet.

At some point and there is no set time or right moment, you could just look to ask him out. He will be flattered I am sure.

 

[silverwhisper]

i'd like to point out that a lot of men are obtuse about a woman finding them attractive. and while there's a certainly an unfortunately-vocal minority who mistake everything as a sign of interest, they're just that--a minority.

so yeah, try not to be too subtle. :>

ed

 

[infinity706]

What I mean is instead of asking if he'd like to go for some coffee or to whatever movie you want to go see. Ask him if he knows any great places to go because you just can't go out into this great big old city alone. Helps if you get all wide eyed and scared looking.

That might actually work on some guys, but it would just make me think you're too much of a pussy to bother with. Confidence is an important quality and acting totally helpless doesn't work well.

 

[satindesire]

You haven't replied yet. Thoughts? Ideas?

 

[thirty]

I don't think it's hard a guy to know when a girl is intersted in him.

Your eyes will tell everything.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Wiki knows all.

 

[Davetmat]

But wiki didn't mention also having the best milkshake works?