How to get a date for my wife (female)

[ACuriousCpl]

My wife has had a bi experience with another female many years ago but that women is no longer in the area. She has told me she would love to do it again but she is afraid to ask anyone for fear of scaring them away and messing up there friendship. My question is : do you think it would be ok for me to secretly make a date for her ? How should I go about this.? Have the other women bump in to here at a predetermind location ( supermarket ) etc ? Any suggestions or experience will help . I Know if I did this for her and didnt let her know I set it up untill after the fact she wouldnt be upset with me. And btw no I wouldnt be included... i just want the details afterwards.

 

[Bacteriophage68]

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[bisexplicit]

I'm going to assume that you have thought of the emotional possibilities that may occur for both of you. (Jealousy for you, love for her, etc.)
Does your wife want you to set it up for her? Is it more thrilling for her to meet a stranger? Has she actually said "Yes, I would like you to set something up for me, but I won't know when or where...?"
If she is comfortable with that plan, then I would suggest a personals ad, most likely - since you are looking for a one time thing and it sounds like you aren't sure how to meet other bisexual or lesbian women in the area. You could try the Lit Personals...however, you also do want to be cautious about meeting someone from offline (In that instance, I would suggest you were there, in case anything went wrong).

 

[Seduce]

I'm going to assume that you have thought of the emotional possibilities that may occur for both of you. (Jealousy for you, love for her, etc.)
Does your wife want you to set it up for her? Is it more thrilling for her to meet a stranger? Has she actually said "Yes, I would like you to set something up for me, but I won't know when or where...?"
If she is comfortable with that plan, then I would suggest a personals ad, most likely - since you are looking for a one time thing and it sounds like you aren't sure how to meet other bisexual or lesbian women in the area. You could try the Lit Personals...however, you also do want to be cautious about meeting someone from offline (In that instance, I would suggest you were there, in case anything went wrong).

I agree.
Talk with her first.
I would hate if my husband would arrange me a date with stranger (male or female).

 

[Eilan]

My question is : do you think it would be ok for me to secretly make a date for her ? How should I go about this.? Have the other women bump in to here at a predetermind location ( supermarket ) etc ? Any suggestions or experience will help . I Know if I did this for her and didnt let her know I set it up untill after the fact she wouldnt be upset with me.

If you already know that your wife wouldn't be upset with you for setting something up, then why are you asking US if it's okay?

I wouldn't be okay with my husband setting me up with anyone, male or female. In a threesome/group situation, we would decide as a couple. If she's going to be the one having sex, then she should decide who she's going to have sex with. That's just my opinion, though; you obviously know your wife better than we do.

Has she tried the online personals route? Perhaps if she looks for like-minded women then she won't have to worry about jeopardizing friendships.

 

[Ezzy]

If you already know that your wife wouldn't be upset with you for setting something up, then why are you asking US if it's okay?

I wouldn't be okay with my husband setting me up with anyone, male or female. In a threesome/group situation, we would decide as a couple. If she's going to be the one having sex, then she should decide who she's going to have sex with. That's just my opinion, though; you obviously know your wife better than we do.

Has she tried the online personals route? Perhaps if she looks for like-minded women then she won't have to worry about jeopardizing friendships.

This just about says it all!

Except for the standard Literotica health warning; be sure you are ok with what the consequences might be before opening your marriage up to a third person.

 

[Bandit58]

If you already know that your wife wouldn't be upset with you for setting something up, then why are you asking US if it's okay?

I wouldn't be okay with my husband setting me up with anyone, male or female. In a threesome/group situation, we would decide as a couple. If she's going to be the one having sex, then she should decide who she's going to have sex with. That's just my opinion, though; you obviously know your wife better than we do.

Has she tried the online personals route? Perhaps if she looks for like-minded women then she won't have to worry about jeopardizing friendships.

I am doing the online personals route, but Gil and I look together although he won't be involved in any actual encounters. I am consulted if he winks or messages anyone on my behalf - luckily our tastes in ladies are similar We haven't had much physical success as yet although I am in contact with several ladies on msn messenger.

I prefer to get to know someone reasonably well as a friend rather than jump straight into bed with a "stranger". It may take a bit of time but it will be worth it in the long run, and she will make new friends out of it even if it goes no further