How to find porn that women like

[DemimondeDenizen]

Wife and I are exploring a bit after +30 years together.
After she said she likes when I’m more dominant, I’ve been sending her texts instructing her to meet me in the bedroom at a certain time and giving her a few rules for the session (or once texting her to come home quick as I was in a predicament…tied myself to bed).

At her suggestion, we have been exploring light spanking for her. So far, so good, but I sent her a short video of a woman getting a playful spanking and wifey mainly focused on the admitted dorkiness of the dude.

Any suggestions for finding and sharing inspirational porn with your wife? Sites, search words, etc?

I think she wants something with a hot guy (not the folks from dirty debutantes), but I don’t think she’s up for full on bdsm and savaged asses either…

 

[hypnowylde]

Look up Erika lust, lust cinema. Porn for women.

 

[bethany_s]

Search for “slow sensual sex”. Most porn is a turn off for me. Me and my bf have watched it a few times together and that’s the search term that seems to generate the best outcome. And is usually some hot guys. No cheezy music or dialog. I rather they just be into each other sensually, acting more like a real couple would.

 

[Bi4Older84]

Bellesa is a great site-it's made by women, for women and has lots of different scenes for varying tastes. The girls and guys are hot, and it definitely takes into account the woman's perspective

 

[SunshineAndBlowjobs]

Ask her what gets her going visually and mentally. Each person is different and her preference for what she might like to see will be her preference. Once you have a general idea you can start narrowing it down.

 

[DemimondeDenizen]

it turns out as a teacher, she’s wary of what’s on her phone or of spammy ads for sexy junk.

Thanks for the suggestions. Always looking for good free porn we can share especially as the idea to send her links seems impractical at least until retirement.

 

[Shellz32]

I'm not a lesbian but my absolute favourite is girl on girl

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Lesbian porn is my favorite!!

 

[Noor]

Lesbian porn is my favorite!!

Lesbian porn works better than ambien for me.

 

[Noor]

I think you ask the women you are interested in watching porn with what she likes but given your situation, I’d suggest soft exotica like Zalman King ones for starters.

 

[SmokingFap]

Wife and I are exploring a bit after +30 years together.
After she said she likes when I’m more dominant, I’ve been sending her texts instructing her to meet me in the bedroom at a certain time and giving her a few rules for the session (or once texting her to come home quick as I was in a predicament…tied myself to bed).

At her suggestion, we have been exploring light spanking for her. So far, so good, but I sent her a short video of a woman getting a playful spanking and wifey mainly focused on the admitted dorkiness of the dude.

Any suggestions for finding and sharing inspirational porn with your wife? Sites, search words, etc?

I think she wants something with a hot guy (not the folks from dirty debutantes), but I don’t think she’s up for full on bdsm and savaged asses either…

I don't search for the kinds of videos you're looking for, but sometimes I stumble across one that's tagged "female-oriented" or something similar. You might try the standard tube sites, but use a search term something like that.

 

[devakama469]

Search for “slow sensual sex”. Most porn is a turn off for me. Me and my bf have watched it a few times together and that’s the search term that seems to generate the best outcome. And is usually some hot guys. No cheezy music or dialog. I rather they just be into each other sensually, acting more like a real couple would.

Most "professional" porn is, in my opinion, crass trash! Nothing as sensual and arousing as real people who're really into each other and really enjoying themselves without acting, nothing will ever beat that!

 

[devakama469]

I'm not a lesbian but my absolute favourite is girl on girl

I've heard that from a few women, and it genuinely intrigues me why it turns them/you on, never implying that they're closeted lesbians, or even bi, or anything of the sort, of course. It's genuine curiosity.

There's a stark difference with straight men, who even when being very open-minded and as opposed to homophobia as you could possible fathom, camp I like to place myself in, just don't find men-on-men sex arousing.

 

[Shellz32]

I've heard that from a few women, and it genuinely intrigues me why it turns them/you on, never implying that they're closeted lesbians, or even bi, or anything of the sort, of course. It's genuine curiosity.

There's a stark difference with straight men, who even when being very open-minded and as opposed to homophobia as you could possible fathom, camp I like to place myself in, just don't find men-on-men sex arousing.

Nah from my experience open minded men like it. I'm talking to one guy who will have full sex with a man because it turns me on so much. In a threesome

 

[Shellz32]

And likewise I've had sex with women. I do not consider myself bi tho as I only want to be in a relationship with men

 

[devakama469]

And likewise I've had sex with women. I do not consider myself bi tho as I only want to be in a relationship with men

So you're differentiating bi/gay from straight based on an emotional aspect, rather than the sexual aspect, if I understood you correctly? That's a fair explanation.

You believe it also applies to men?

 

[OralAllOver]

Simple: scroll thru Zillow for real estate

 

[devakama469]

Nah from my experience open minded men like it. I'm talking to one guy who will have full sex with a man because it turns me on so much. In a threesome

A partner I had an MFM threesome with told me she was aching to see me receiving oral from another man…

I was at first… but, after a while, after seeing how much the thought of it turned her on, and how much she was hoping to actually make it happen… I can't deny that, even though I normally wouldn't feel attracted to the idea of another man giving me oral, the thought of turning her on *that* much did in fact excite me!

 

[sexymanfun]

Simple: scroll thru Zillow for real estate

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This shit seems to work well too

 

[Shellz32]

So you're differentiating bi/gay from straight based on an emotional aspect, rather than the sexual aspect, if I understood you correctly? That's a fair explanation.

You believe it also applies to men?

Having sex with a woman isn't that big a deal tbh. I enjoyed it but would only want it a few times a year say.

Absolutely it would apply to men.

 

[Shellz32]

A partner I had an MFM threesome with told me she was aching to see me receiving oral from another man…

I was at first… but, after a while, after seeing how much the thought of it turned her on, and how much she was hoping to actually make it happen… I can't deny that, even though I normally wouldn't feel attracted to the idea of another man giving me oral, the thought of turning her on *that* much did in fact excite me!

See exactly.
.it's just another mouth.

The type of guy matters too buff athletic looking ones for me. Not the feminine type men *no offence to anyone intended

 

[devakama469]

See exactly.
.it's just another mouth.

The type of guy matters too buff athletic looking ones for me. Not the feminine type men *no offence to anyone intended

100% absolutely true, it's just another mouth, it's just the existing psychological barriers that makes more or less prone to wanting something or rejecting the idea of it.

That's why the proper stimulation, as I was alluding to, is important

 

[Shellz32]

100% absolutely true, it's just another mouth, it's just the existing psychological barriers that makes more or less prone to wanting something or rejecting the idea of it.

That's why the proper stimulation, as I was alluding to, is important

Look don't do it if you're not into it. End of the day if it's not for you, no deal

I just know if a bf ever did something like that for me I'd be sooo much more inclined to push my boundaries for him. ie. The FFM etc

But of course a hard no is what it is

 

[Shellz32]

For me choking is no deal. Light choking yes fine. Anything harder, no I'm not going there.

 

[devakama469]

Look don't do it if you're not into it. End of the day if it's not for you, no deal

I just know if a bf ever did something like that for me I'd be sooo much more inclined to push my boundaries for him. ie. The FFM etc

Exactly, that's precisely the point, how much are you willing to let go of your somewhat artificial restrictions and taboos for the sake of your enjoyment and that of your partner's, and especially if such actions have such an amazing positive feedback loop with them, so that they in turn feel compelled to then push their own boundaries for something you might want, but that might not have been too convinced about before.

That is an interaction I absolutely love and always try to cultivate.

But of course a hard no is what it is

Of course, absolutely, in all cases, respect always comes first!